What do you do when the only person you want to talk to right now is dead?

[Greyhairedmare]

I really miss my mum, I don't know what to do with this feeling, it is almost unbearable.

I chat to mine.

I've been caught a few times chatting away to what it must seem like empty space. Embarrassing! But I really feel Mum can hear me; it brings a tiny shred of comfort.

I'm so sorry. I lost my mum 4 months ago from cancer and I know how you feel. Every day I want to talk to her and I still have that split second where I forget that she is gone. It is so so hard.

I do this too. I often dream about my parents, usually my Mum. I go to the cemetery too to take flowers. Whenever I have special news I go to tell them. When my DD gave me my grand children, when my DS1 passed his Class 1 lorry test, when DS 2 passed his A levels, when Foster Son was selected for his county team for cricket and more recently when we finally paid off our mortgage.

Oh this is so hard. Hugs to everyone missing someone. I have the ashes of my loved on in my office (wfh, not my actual office) and often chat away to them. It’s an impossible void to fill.
OP your mum was so young, I’m really sorry 💐

Totally know how you feel. I lost my mum far too early six years ago, and it’s so unbearably painful. You do learn to live with the loss. I would say after 5 years the intense pain changes and lessens. But you never stop wanting to talk to them and missing their love and care.
I often think all my friend’s mums are so active and it is totally unfair, but life is a lottery in many ways.
Hugest hugs for you.

I talk to him anyway. It’s not the same, but it helps a little.

Sending love, OP. Grief sucks.

I talk to them anyway - either at their grave or wherever I am

Sorry for your loss

i feel for you Op. 💐. I iost my mum and my best friend 3 years ago. I still think, oh I must remember to tell mum that! I go to phone her! I’ve got a lovely photo and I talk to it and tell her everything. I knew I would miss her but the pain is sometimes unbearable.

This is so sad. I'm so sorry your Mum isn't around for you to talk to.

Thankfully my wonderful Mum is still alive but my Dad died last year and I'm always thinking of things I want to tell him. It's mostly pointless stupid rubbish that I want to chat about or ask him about but still!

It's made me wander what I will feel when my Mum dies. I'm so close to her and she is such an incredibly lovely and wonderful Mum. She is a perfect Mum.

I think that if you really miss your Mum then that's a sign that you must have had a wonderful Mum too. I hope you have lots of wonderful memories of her.