Bins going out - WIBU to bin exH's irreplaceable belongings?

[BlowDryRat]

ExH and I have been separated/divorced for nearly 10 years. I bought him out of the house as part of the divorce process a year after we separated. He was invited to collect his belongings still at the house but didn't bother.

This included a whole heap of bags and boxes full of crap in the loft. In the last few years, I've been chucking a box every time I go up there and have made a lot of progress. I give them a quick check but don't go through everything. Last time I brought a box down, I saw it was full of his journals and photos from when he went travelling for a couple of years. These are all handwritten/old-school prints so irreplaceable. I chucked the lot in the bin.

The bins are being collected tomorrow and I'm having second thoughts. He was an absolute bastard to me both during and since our marriage and I don't feel like I owe him anything. OTOH, they're personal and irreplaceable. OTOOH, if he cared about them that much then he could have collected them any time in the last 10 years.

YABU - fish the box out of the bin tonight and hand it over next time he shows up to see the DC.

YANBU - don't bother.

I would fish the box out. Tell him specifically what you have found. Tell him hes got a week to collect the box (And all the rest of his rubbish) or its bye bye in the bin.

100% this. Why invite trouble from someone you call "A bastard"? 🌹

Dont give it another thought.

You gave him a chance, he didnt take it. He agreed to sell you his belongings when he signed the paperwork for the sale so they are yours.

Bin them, burn them, sell them, bag them up and shove them up his arse....whatever. They are legally and, more importantly, morally yours now.

Dont mention it and keep chucking a box a week. Although do check the contents first, some vintage toys for example can go for £££.

Yes, screw him. No sense in creating an opportunity for trouble when he couldn't give a monkeys.

Bin them! And the man 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Just be careful that you don't bin something with monetary value.

If there's stuff up there that's worth something then I'm sure you can think of things to do with the money. Get a nice treat from the dickhead

Good, you’re not a storage service for a shitty man! You say he’s not too bothered with the kids and wasn’t a good man when you were married. Any common courtesy you owed him is balanced out by that history as far as I’m concerned.

I’m biased because I chucked my EXH’s belongings after he hadn’t seen or contacted about his children in six months. He left, left his stuff, and seemed to just have no interest in relieving me from storing it. Why would I be worrying about ultimatums for someone who doesn’t give a shit about their kids? My conscience is clear.

Both my exh's stuff was on the door step bagged up for collection a day after they moved out. They were told pick it up or I bin it. First collected second said he wasn't bothered so it was binned. I don't take prisoners and they both knew it.