Have you ever overheard people talking about you?

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It was a previous houseshare. We'd all gone out to a bar and I was wearing open toed heels, another girl accidentally stamped on my foot with her stiletto and wow, that was painful.
She was really apologetic, then I said to my housemate, 'Someone's just stood on me with their heel ' as it was bleeding and so I ran off to the toilets.
The next night I was in my room and I overheard the flatmate of mine talking to her friends. She said 'She came and told me someone stamped on her foot, and I was thinking, well what do you want me to do about it?!"

I don't know, help me maybe? 🤔

On another occasion I dyed my hair quite a bright burgundy colour. I heard her and a male housemate saying 'Why the hell has she dyed her hair red?!". I didn't get it everywhere or anything.

Anyway, never nice to overhear people slagging you off!

Arranged a 60th birthday lunch for DM. All the family were to meet at a nice pub, I was on time but last to arrive as I had ordered a huge bouquet of flowers and had stopped off to collect them on the way. Walked into the pub to hear DM putting me down, calling me a bitch etc I just stood quietly behind her while all the other family members gazed over her shoulder at me while she ranted. I just quietly said I stopped to collect your bouquet and placed it on the table in front of her. DM just sat there mouth opening and closing like a fish and insaid quietly obviously I won't be staying and I walked out.

I had a classic one in work years ago. I was responsible for ensuring that reception was always covered but there were a couple of staff who were resistant about taking their turn. There was always sniping. Once one of them screeched at me, "it's not in my job description!" and I said, "oh yes it is, because I was the one who put it there!"

Anyway she'd had a rant - and the weird thing was, this issue aside, neither of us ever bore a grudge!! - and she flounced off down to her office. She was in full midflow, calling me all the names of the day to the others in the room, when I walked in. Her face was a picture!! I wish I could remember what I said but I can't; I just know it was something scathing, and I walked out! She did apologise. I thought it was funny tbh! Her opinion was nothing to me.

It all came to a head when three of them complained about me to the MD, and a meeting was arranged. The MD knew their game, spoke to me in advance of the meeting and asked me to attend. OMG the look of horror and shock on their faces when they walked in and I was sitting there beside the MD was priceless! I was dying to laugh!!!

The then-ringleader gave off about it to a work friend of mine and of course she told me!! She'd said, "We walked in and there the bitch was sitting there!" Too funny! Plus they ended up worse off than they had been to start with!

I was at work when I was 18/19, working in retail. I was putting out stock and could hear some of the boys talking about me in the aisle over.

One of them said “Ahhh, I would give Tink a good seeing to. Would love to get in on that. I don’t care that she has a boyfriend, I’ll make her forget him like that” and proceeded to snap his fingers. Just made me feel really degraded to be spoken about like that.

What he didn’t realise was that I had edged round to the end of the aisle and was listening to the whole thing. Two of the boys were doing that weird eye dodging thing like “Oh this is going to blow” and he still didn’t get the hint.

He turned round and was bright red and I said (and I am quite proud) “I wouldn’t touch someone else with the end of your c**k, let alone let you anywhere near me with it at any given time.”

We never spoke again. He was a friend before that.

I've heard loads "I just don't like her", "there's something not right", "she's not very bright". This from colleagues and fellow students over years.

I'm autistic with two degrees, a post grad and have just written a book.

Oh plenty.

I’ve learnt to ignore it and not dwell. Life is too short and they’re only showing themselves up.

In my early twenties I worked as a runner on a team with two boy runners a year or so older than me. I was walking round the corner to the lift and could hear one say 'I want to leave early but need to drop this to the post room'. The other laughed and told him to get me to do it 'her thighs could use the exercise'.

I appeared and said 'what?', they both looked like rabbits in the headlights and each replied with 'what?'. Then we shared a lift for several floors. I think I skipped dinner that night it was horrible! My sister told me to ignore it as men say stuff like that to show off.

Sorry to hear these:( good to hear some nice ones!
I remember in year 6 so aged 10/11, this girl said "There's only one person I hate in this school and that's Collins."
I never did anything to her,and I was as quiet as a mouse 😂

My brother and sister in law

They'd been together for about 7 years and she so badly wanted to get married

I've never wanted to get married-each to their own,it's just not for me

Any-whoo,they took the piss big time (I've written about it on here under another username) and I'd had enough-no matter how much everyone gave them,they wanted more

On the day itself,I'd nipped to the loo and the bride and her mate walked in-and started slagging me off-not only was I a failure in life for not getting a ring on my finger,but I was a shit single mum,was rolling in money-and they didn't see why they should pay taxes to support 'her brats' (I worked but got tax credits),what did i think i looked like in my outfit?(guess she couldnt afford something nice-she looks like a fucking hippo crossed with a charity shop') and that my kids would grow up to be on the dole

The venom was breathtaking-id done nothing to earn it

I sat on that toilet,cried,pulled my pants back up,dried my tears and walked
downstairs,picked up their wedding cake and walked out

Not spoken to them since

Within 3 months they'd spilt up,got back together as she was pregnant and are still together but very unhappy-they thought that getting married would stop the cracks (I heard this from friends)

My kids have all grown up,all have great carrers (all bar one as she's too young but has big plans) and are amazing adults

She's stuck working in a dead end job (16 hours a week,so not to mess up their uc) while he sits at home watching the TV all day-the resentment is unreal on her side

Normally I wouldn't dream of gloating but she fucking deserves it

You nicked the cake?

Yes
I have no regrets-they deserved it

Yes, quite a few. The first time I remember, it was housemates slagging me off. I went into complete shock, shaking, etc. I had no idea they felt that way about me. I had to let them know I had heard, but I could hardly speak to tell them, I was so shocked.

A few more events like that, and I gave up on friendships.

Client slagged me off as they were walking along a corridor towards an elevator I was in. They then saw me in the lift and obviously realised that I had overheard them. The very slow lift ride down together was awkward for them, hilarious for me as I had nothing to feel guilty about and knew they were in the wrong with their complaints they were airing.

I've heard lots of things said about me behind my back, but with the insults i've not heard before I usually laugh say thats a good one and i'm stealing that and oh High 5 with my hand in the air......omg the look of utter astonshment on their faces is so worth it. Yes what they are say hurts but i'll be damned if i'm gonna let them know that.

I don't know, none of these sound particularly bad. Is it possible you were being very dramatic when your foot got trodden on? Maybe the red hair looked horrible, or you regretted doing it last time and they anticipated a rerun.
I don't think it's necessarily wrong to talk about someone when (you think) they're not there. I prefer to think of it the other way round, that they didn't say stuff to your face because it might be hurtful
Oh friend, I'm going to dye my hair tonight. Here's the colour
Er red again....bit like the last one...OK
(thinks its repulsive).

Not about me but I overheard my auntie talking to my mum about her DS, (my cousin) she said "the little shit, you know I never wanted him" it was said in all seriousness and not a joke, it was such a contrast as my auntie appeared a very caring, lady before that. My DSIS heard it too and we never felt the same about her after that. Her DS was about 3 at the time, and I was about 8.

I worked in an office 10 minutes' walk from home. My husband worked 10 minutes' walk further away. Weren't we lucky? Most people dream of a commute like that.

We'd both finish at 6pm so I'd wait for him to get to me because why would I want to go home to an empty house when there were always people hanging around in the office chatting or finishing work? By the time he got out the door of his place he'd get to me at about 6.30pm and we'd go home or stop off for a drink.

I didn't think anything of this until one evening when Reception rang my phone to tell me he was waiting for me as usual. I said goodbye to everyone and left. I got to the lifts and realised I'd forgotten my umbrella.

I let myself back into the office with my security card to hear the most popular guy in the office, a real public school type and joker a bit like Boris Johnson, braying: "I can just picture Limited and Mr Limited holding hands together every night..."

He had his back to me and I stood looking at his audience while they went: "Oh fuck!" in their heads and he carried on with how pathetic we were.

I said: "Hi everyone. I've just come back for my brolly. Which one of you wants to go for a drink with this bitter functioning alcoholic?"

He was going on about how I'd misunderstood and he'd dropped some pictures on the floor (it was a newspaper office and we used physical prints of pictures) but that excuse wouldn't fool a child. I left and said nothing to my husband.

Not a word was said the next morning or ever afterwards. I always suspected he was a weapons grade cunt. And envious of people with happy relationships.

Why do you believe they were jealous?

My MIL slagged me off in an email to her friend - saying I was the worst daughter in law in the world, her son (my husband) was only with me for our daughter’s sake. The list was endless. It really hurt me as I really liked her. It turned out all the daughter in laws had received the same treatment to apparently I was always going to get it worse as I had married the youngest son.

Shes okay with me now, I am okay with her. I don’t trust her though because of what she did and me and my husband have been together for 21 years and married 16 so we have always had the last laugh.

Oh my days. This is savage and I'm here for it!! Amazing 😆

Fantastic work, my only criticism is you should have nicked any booze as well! 👏

Didn't overhear, but walked in to the room I work in and my colleagues stopped talking abruptly. Three times that happened in one day

When I was about 15 I had to go with my sister whilst she was at college, we were going somewhere after, she had to attend one lesson.
Whilst I waited for her I sat in the common room doing homework 2 girls came in and sat down. We were the only 3 in the room

They then spent the next hour or so completing slagging my sister off saying some really nasty things, really going to town.

Being the good little sister I sat quietly and took notes 
After the lesson my sister comes into the common room with about 30 other people and introduces me as her sister to these girls. The look of panic on their faces was fantastic, I smiled sweetly at them and then presented a comprehensive set of notes to my sister with all the things these girls had said.

The fall out was amazing, I was declared the best sister ever by all my sisters classmates!

Yes, after a lengthy stay in hospital with my chronic life long illness I heard my SIL slagging me off afterwards to somebody else saying she thought I was faking it. If only I was.

I work in a very 'catty' environment where there are 41 members of staff, 40 of which are female... I have heard people taking about me and have had friends tell me what other members of staff have said about me, what's been said is ALWAYS a reflection of their insecurities as opposed to anything I've actually done. 🤣 old women who stay in jobs and positions for too long basically and do not like new people coming in, doing a better job and changing, for the better, the way things work. I genuinely do not care, these are jealous women with a lack of education, because if they had any, they would not say such bitchy, unnecessary things 🤷‍♀️ when people say unkind things, it's a sign of their poor characters and not a reflection of the person they're aimed at.

A couple of years ago I took my horse showjumping. I’m middle aged and my horse had this thing where in the first class she would practically refuse every fence but I’d get her over it, but I knew in the second class (a bigger course) she would fly round like a bullet. I remember coming out feeling pretty rubbish with all the hot shot younger women under a tree with their horses discussing how all three would come first, second and third place again and saying I wasn’t even in the running for a 6th place at all.

I was quite hurt, on my own but leant down and whispered to my horse ‘you’ve got this…I believe in you,’ and patted her neck.

We went into the the class speeding round and clearing every fence. She was magnificent and I smiled when we took first place and said well done to them as they looked on at us in disbelief.

I’ve no idea why my horse did that competing. It was like I’d brought her twin out…as long as I could bear the embarrassment of the first round I always knew she would do well.

It did give me great satisfaction though that day.