To think its a hospital, not a day out!

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 18/07/2023 18:59

Tell the staff.

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 18/07/2023 19:00

Speak to the staff. They can ask people to leave if it's a nuisance

JayAlfredPrufrock · 18/07/2023 19:02

Isn’t it 2 visitors per bed?

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 19:02

To be fair , seeing loved ones for folk in Hospital can make a big difference to patients recovery rates . Some will be worried about how children are coping with Mum away ill and benefit from seeing Mum . Some will be missing home and just want to see their Family . Just close the curtains and stick in ear plugs , I always have a bag of ear plugs for Hospital .

ElizabethBest · 18/07/2023 19:03

God no. We used to have a family who'd bring their (perfectly fine!) child into our children's A&E on a regular basis. Memorable reasons include "her ear itches" and "her hair is looking lighter than normal". They'd bring siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents - there would be about 15 of them having a jolly picnic in the waiting room, handing round sausage rolls whilst other parents looked daggers at them as their genuinely unwell or injured child waited to be seen. That's the one good thing to come out of COVID from an NHS perspective - it's stopped a lot of timewasters coming in on an outing.

Hope you feel better soon!

Zanatdy · 18/07/2023 19:04

Definitely speak to staff. If people are being too loud / having too many visitors they can have a word. Whenever I’ve been admitted I’ve been in an insane amount of pain or recovery from a major surgery and it always surprises me that some people are admitted at all as they don’t seem that sick

Lamelie · 18/07/2023 19:05

No one’s at their best in hospital- the visitors, the staff are constantly stressed, you patients most of all. Any chance of a bay or private room?

widowtwankywashroom · 18/07/2023 19:08

Loads of people see it as a day out, have lunch and coffee etc
You'll get the patient and at least 3 people with them for a appointment

GwinGwyn · 18/07/2023 19:08

Cucumber1234 · 18/07/2023 18:56

Im in hospital, on a ward.

Some of the other peoples families are treating it like a day out. Kids, running around, youtube, its more like a youth club, not a ladys ward!

I feel so ill. Im in so much pain. And a bit of peace and quiet would be nice. Ive had to leave my disabled kids with friends. So im anxious about that. All i want is to have a space to start to get better.

Sorry to hear that this situation isn’t contributing to your getting better. Please do chat to the staff and see if something can be done. I think hospitals are like microcosms of the wider world - some people like to have loud, boisterous times with their family and see nothing wrong with it… and generally that’s true… but if you’re not within your own four walls you need to moderate your behaviours in line with the location. The two times I have had to stay in hospital overnight I took headphones and listened to podcasts to drown out the world around me, is that an option for you in the short term?

purplecorkheart · 18/07/2023 19:20

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 19:02

To be fair , seeing loved ones for folk in Hospital can make a big difference to patients recovery rates . Some will be worried about how children are coping with Mum away ill and benefit from seeing Mum . Some will be missing home and just want to see their Family . Just close the curtains and stick in ear plugs , I always have a bag of ear plugs for Hospital .

So why does their recovery trump the ops? If they are sitting quietly around their love ones bed it is one thing but running around and blaring youtube
Why is their recovery more important than the ops?

OP please speak to the staff and I hope you have a speedy recovery.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 19:28

@purplecorkheart Of course it doesn't , but op does not sound like she is having visitors and there is nothing wrong with that and yes sometimes patients want to block out the rest of the ward . There is nothing wrong in pulling the curtains and wearing ear plugs . But if the noise IS extreme then of course she can complain .

cocksstrideintheevening · 18/07/2023 19:31

I had to take my daughter to a and e recently after falling of a horse. There were huge families in there waiting with their loved ones. I kind of get it, but I don't. When you're in for a 4 hour plus wait how is it helpful?

I hope you recover quickly op.

Mumoftwoinprimary · 18/07/2023 19:32

The worst one I had was the early pregnancy unit. Ie the unit for people who think that they are miscarrying.

Couple walk in with their baby / toddler. (Not sure on age but crawling and pulling up to standing but definitely still looked very much like a baby - every woman in the waiting room couldn’t take their eyes off her.) Not ideal but ok - it can be hard to find childcare and maybe she felt she needed her partner with her. But then in walked her mum and dad. The four of them sat there having a nice (loud!) chat while the baby crawled around the floor and tried to pull herself up by the various people sitting there,

Finally - just to make me wonder if there were hidden cameras - in walked her sister. In a hospital gown. With a bag of urine strapped to her leg.

TheFairyCaravan · 18/07/2023 19:32

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 19:02

To be fair , seeing loved ones for folk in Hospital can make a big difference to patients recovery rates . Some will be worried about how children are coping with Mum away ill and benefit from seeing Mum . Some will be missing home and just want to see their Family . Just close the curtains and stick in ear plugs , I always have a bag of ear plugs for Hospital .

There’s a vast difference between children being visitors to the hospital ward and running round it like it’s a playground. If they can’t sit at the bedside nicely then they shouldn’t be there.

There’s other people in that ward, all in varying states of ill health, wanting to get better. It’s not a bloody zoo fgs.

BlairWaldorfOG · 18/07/2023 19:35

Oh that sounds awful I'm sorry OP 😔 my children have visited poorly relatives in the hospital from young but it's been for short periods of time and they've sat nicely whilst we were there. Certainly no running around wards or blasting YouTube. Are the visiting hours set? Is the end of visiting in sight for you?

TorroFerney · 18/07/2023 19:38

Yep. Visiting Blackburn royal reception/entrance on a Saturday evening to see a loved one you’d think it was the entrance to a cinema or something. Swarms of teenagers, old people , young people , people in wheelchairs with no legs having a ciggy at the entrance. Suppose it’s free!

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Cucumber1234 · 18/07/2023 19:44

I do understand how having visitors can help. And theres a difference between having a quiet chat with people at your bedside (like i did) and letting the kid run around, youtube out loud, leaving your loud phone ringing and not answering it. Theres someone who just keeps being loud and demanding to see a Dr every 2 minutes (only 1 Dr is on for the whole ward!). I havent been given my medications for pain releif for hours. Took ages to get a bed and scan and i had no other option but to lay on the floor. Im exhausted, in agony, worried. But im being quiet and respectful of others.

I came in as an emergency via ambulance so i have limited stuff. The last time i saw my daughter was as i was being taken away on a stretcher. My son went to school this morning and hasnt come home to his mum.

I just wish it was a bit quieter.

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HeyDiddleDumplings · 18/07/2023 19:56

I thought the same in children’s A & E recently, so many people seem to be there for a day out. Kids non stop eating and running around, families with multiple and adults.

My DDs arm was so clearly broken that I told the triage nurse it was obviously broken and we were seen so quickly. Poor staff must be so used to it.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 18/07/2023 20:09

Please press your bell and ask for your pain relief. Don't just suffer. If they've not brought it it's absolutely fine to ask again.

And tell them you're struggling with the noise and being in pain. Ask if they have any ear plugs - there's usually little packs of toiletries for patients that couldn't bring their own, they might have ear plugs in.

Can you get someone to pop in with a few bits, like phone charger / headphones / eye mask etc?

I'm just out of hospital and had similar to your bed neighbour with someone being loudly and unreasonably demanding next to me. And a chap watching some sport or other with no headphones. In the end I put my headphones in and an eye mask on and listened to music loud enough to drown them out.

My 6yr old came to visit me. She sat and talked to me, and gave me a cuddle once all my various tubes were removed. It's absolutely not on for kids to be running around. I'm surprise the nurses haven't told them off, surely it's a safety issue, on top of being antisocial.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 20:17

That is really shit you're being left in pain, keep asking , I'm sure your Dr will be round to see you soon . It's crap to find yourself suddenly in Hospital and worrying about the kids , can you chat with them ? I hope your good friend can get in soon with your own things , try to borrow ear plugs if you can they really are a god send , maybe ask another patient if they have any spare 😉

Daphnis156 · 18/07/2023 20:24

I'm sorry you have to put up with this.
Hospitals are not restful places, even at night.
I would be surprised if the staff do anything about it- they won't be there the next day and won't take it forward.

Livelovebehappy · 18/07/2023 20:25

This happens all the time in our A&E, entire families coming and clogging up the waiting areas, like it’s a day out. So I’m really not surprised this happens on the wards too.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 20:30

Daphnis156 · 18/07/2023 20:24

I'm sorry you have to put up with this.
Hospitals are not restful places, even at night.
I would be surprised if the staff do anything about it- they won't be there the next day and won't take it forward.

Yes ! the elderly start wandering at night , or machines beeping , usually someone moaning in pain and snoring .

pavillion1 · 18/07/2023 20:32

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 18/07/2023 19:02

To be fair , seeing loved ones for folk in Hospital can make a big difference to patients recovery rates . Some will be worried about how children are coping with Mum away ill and benefit from seeing Mum . Some will be missing home and just want to see their Family . Just close the curtains and stick in ear plugs , I always have a bag of ear plugs for Hospital .

Eh ?

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 18/07/2023 20:35

I'd tell the nurse, should only be two visitors per bed.