To think its a hospital, not a day out!

[Cucumber1234]

Im in hospital, on a ward.

Some of the other peoples families are treating it like a day out. Kids, running around, youtube, its more like a youth club, not a ladys ward!

I feel so ill. Im in so much pain. And a bit of peace and quiet would be nice. Ive had to leave my disabled kids with friends. So im anxious about that. All i want is to have a space to start to get better.

How is your day going op ? Hope you managed a decent amount of sleep last night and pain killers are doing their job 💐.

had towait for hours this morning for pain meds, and when they finally came, it was 2 paracetamol. I take naproxen and cedeine daily andway. 2 paracetamol tablets wernt going to help. Finally after another hour of being in pain crying, literally asking the nurse to help me. I finally got the other pain med i should have got last night. Same noisey woman had guests again and im dreading her having more tonight. 11pm guests went and the light was turned off. I just want to get well enough to go home This evening the staff are so much better, its quiet, lights are out its obviously well organised. Had lots of good meds so im not in too much pain. So i can read a bit before sleep. Im a bit hungry because the dinner was not nice. Thanks for all the similar stories. The noisey families are asain like so many of your stories so its probably a culture clash.

Do you not get a bit of toast and tea for supper ?

Dinner was chicken in a questionable white sauch with mashed potato. It tasted, different, unique perhaps

I hate this. I'm under a clinic for lower joints. Patients are in for hip and knee replacements, ankle ops etc. The amount of people accompanying on a day out is a joke. They take seats in waiting rooms while patients are standing with crutches. There should be signs up. I can't think of anything worse than going on a day out to the hospital. Or taking anybody with me.

And once again the whole family is here. They were singing songs earlier, loudly. And keeps telling people what they should do. Im so bloody fed up of it, i remember when wards were respectful, where youwhispered, and were limited. Now its a free for all.

You poor thing 😢

I remember being in hospital and I was in for over a month,it was hellish, worst thing was trying to hang on and not go to the loo as I needed a commode as couldn't get to the proper toilet .Going to the loo with just a curtain separating you and a group of visitors is no fun at all. There were 8 round the bed next to me ,only meant to be 2 but the patient knew one of the nurses so different rules 🙄

I agree. Could be a good lesson for the kids to learn too that there is a time and place for noise and screaming.

They are cunts.

This boiled my piss when husband was in for a couple of weeks. More than two visitors and staying way past visiting hours. How is anyone supposed to rest and get better.

Mind your own business, ffs. What’s other people’s health got to so with you?

I work in healthcare, used to be ward based. I've definitely told people off when their small children were running up and down the corridors. This was on a ward where elderly and confused people were often wandering around. I literally took their children back to them and said if I saw them running around again they'd have to leave and informed them of how bleddy dangerous it was to both their children AND the patients.

On our ward the sister was a dragon and the only way a relative was allowed to stay beyond the end of visiting hours was if the patient was basically dying. And as far as I'm concerned that's the way it should be - two visitors max and stringent rules on not being noisy/disturbing other patients who are resting / recovering. What I have learned through my career is that there is no shortage of selfish twats who don't care at all about other people.

Fairly sure it won't be dialysis. You can have haemodialysis or peritoneal dialysis (you can have the latter at home rather than in hospital), but you have to sit or lie for those, you are attached to a machine and you can't move round with it.

We had a visit to children's A&E a few years ago. When it got busy, a play therapist come in and set up activities at the arts and crafts table - kids were having a great time. Obviously, I don't know their underlying conditions but it was not what I expected to see at the emergency department.

@Halloweenrainbow, did you not read the date of the last post?

You've resurrected a zombie thread

When I was in the ward there was a lady who had a kidney infection. Definitely not life threatening.
Every day, without fail she'd have a huge gang of visitors, ranging from adults to teens to 2 year olds. They would stay until 9pm, 2 hours after visiting stopped. Kids mucking about on the wheelchairs, scales, running about. Non stop talking, no masks (this was 2022)..at one point they brought out a cake and started singing, but I don't think it was a birthday?
Eventually the nurse just flipped, and told her how it was disrespectful and she has to obey the rules. She claimed she couldn't understand, then she pointed over to my RNM and said 'but she's allowed to have a visitor?'
She thought my nurse was a visitor? They sit there 24 hours a day wearing scrubs you imbacile!
Luckily she was discharged the next day.

Totally down to the sttaff, should only allow 2 visitors atxa time, and eject noisy/misbehaving visitors
Such ignorance from some; you are correct OP, shopping, hospital visits, etc are now used as entertainment for kids.

Zombie thread.

If kids are running about too much or it’s very noisy let the staff know. But I think it’s lovely that people on the ward have visitors. It can really brighten up your day and give you a bit of break from your own thoughts. You definitely need some ear plugs or headphones if you don’t want to hear other visitors during the day.

It hasn't changed since COVID then? When I had my son in 2021 it was only partners allowed for two hours per day. I'd had a home birth and transfer in during the middle of the night and hadn't slept for 48 hours. My husband couldn't come in as he was clinically vulnerable (hence the home birth) so I was trying to manage alone after surgery. We were only a bay of three so five of us in the room when you count partners. The two men were in and out banging doors, booming voices and loud phonecalls etc. I get the excitedness but JC volume control required. Six months later I had surgery after a cancer diagnosis, no visitors allowed and just three of us in the room. So much better.

Yep, totally agree with this in regards to Blackburn Royal. A&E part is just as bad. Literally whole families waiting, taking up seating for people who actually unwell. Its the same in the childrens side too. Had to take my daughter yesterday after a nasty fall at school.

Whoops. Didnt click on it was a zombie thread.

I have cancer and have to put up with some of this at my regular appointments:

Family days out (patient plus large extended family occupying the seats)
Pointless companion (patient plus companion both sit staring at their phones)
Sick family (family members with obvious cough, cold, infections, etc.)
Shopping trip (patient plus extended family plus multiple bags of shopping)
Clingy friends ('I'm here to support you, but really it's all about me' types)

I'm not really sorry if I sound judgy but, as an adult, I can normally manage to attend appointments on my own.

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Really doesn't matter it's a zombie thread , the material is still relevant .

When I worked as lab tech at the local hospital I finished my shift around main visiting time and I was appalled at the dishevelled state of some visitors - God knows what bugs and viruses they were taking onto the wards!