To tell my mother to get over herself?

[AngryGreasedSantaCatcus]

I was telling my mum about DD's school report which was pretty great . She said all the right things to begin with, and then the conversation turned to "advice" and warnings. Mainly that I need to make sure DD doesn't get fat. She always does this when I share DD's achievements with her. Either about her getting fat(like me) or her becoming a troublemaker (like me) or sometimes both.So I told her to get over herself, and that with al the issues teens can have these days , DD becoming fat is the least of my worries or the worst thing she can be.

Of course she got all huffy and she's just concerned and only wants the best for DD. There's no reason to be concerned. DD has always been a healthy weight (actually underweight for a while) , is active and sporty(some of her achievements are sports related) and looks perfectly normal/average - which is confirmed by BMI.

Your mum is being ridiculous & YADNBU

On obesity genetics, see this review: https://academic.oup.com/bmb/article/123/1/159/3930933

Heritability estimate is 40-80%, so, yes, genetics likely makes a substantial contribution.

Omg this is f-ed up

Why is she discussing your child's weight 🚩

Why is she bringing it up every time you speak about her achievements like a woman's achievements pivot on being thin

Has she made the connection that her messed up parenting is probably the reason you misbehaved!?

I completely lost her with her today and told her most of the things on this thread.

She saw a pic of DD and she actually called her fat and pudgy.

I'm so cross and also slightly hurt as it brings back all the memories of being fat shamed myself as a kid ,primarily by her.

Ffs.