To have handled the mobile phone of someone I only just met?

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Met a group of friends for lunch yesterday and one of the friends had her cousin with her, whom I have never previously met. She had been to Glastonbury and had a really good view of the stage when Elton John was performing and said she had some great pictures. She showed them to the people sitting on either side of her and I asked if I could have a look. She was sitting opposite me and held her phone in front of me, but as I'm blind as the proverbial and without thinking I took the phone off her to look at the photo on the screen.

This morning, I had a text from my friend and in the middle of the text she casually mentioned that her cousin was really pissed off that I tried to take her phone off her and that she saw it as an invasion of her privacy.

Was IBU to say that if she is that precious over her phone, she shouldn't be waving it around to show people stuff on it. I also said I assumed she was holding it out for me to take - but my friend said she sort of agreed I was a bit presumptuous to just take it, especially as I didn't know her.

I really couldn't give a flying twat if the cousin has got the hump with me, I care slightly more that my friend agrees with her, so it's got me thinking....is what I did generally regarded as preposterous behaviour or did I just get unlucky? It crossed my mind it might have been a hand hygiene concern, but she hugged everyone when introduced to them, so I doubt it.

YABU - get your filthy mitts off my phone
YANBU - fine with me!

fucking hell, they're being unreasonable! Fine, she didn't particularly like you taking it, thats up to her, and if it upset her fair enough - but to moan at your friend about it, and then for your friend to message you having a go...? What is the world coming to! Even if this was something upsetting, its a totally minor incident that obviously was a misunderstanding with no ill intent, and any rational adult human would get over it in seconds and think no more of it. Fucking ridiculous! Okay, so you've maybe made a tiny social faux pas without realising, but please don't beat yourself up about this, they're being batshit

I think if I were that precious about my phone, my boundaries and my snaps of Elton John, I don't think I'd have been showing/flaunting them to any of my cousin's friends. But if I did and someone had the temerity to touch the phone I'd offered to them, I'd have likely said "ooh, I'd prefer you didn't", as opposed to bitching about it to my cousin after the fact.

It's the fear of swiping.

What a drama llama.

It’s generally considered bad etiquette, especially without asking. I think if you’d said “can’t see, may I take it, promise not to swipe” that would have been better. But all she needed to say when you took it was “no swiping now”.

Which is how I’d have handled it if I’d been her. She’s rude to be bitching about it, it’s no big deal, slight misunderstanding.

On reflection, a photo of someone's engorged piles would have been preferable to Elton John. Although, I'm not entirely sure I could tell the difference these days?

YABU for giving someone the hump

Fair enough if this mildly annoys someone.

Weird that it pissed her off to the extent she went whining to your friend. What a fanny.

I am similarly blind and would probably say 'may I?' whilst taking the phone. If it has been held out across a table, it is not unreasonable to think it is actually being handed to you.

You probably had it for all of a few seconds, hardly long enough for a full forensic audit of everything she didn't want publicised.

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On reflection, a photo of someone's engorged piles would have been preferable to Elton John. Although, I'm not entirely sure I could tell the difference these days?

😂😂

Thanks for all the comments everyone. I'm not sure I'm ever going to fully comprehend the cousin's reaction, but some of the comments here have at least made me see it from a different angle!

Cheers all 🙂

and finding nudes.