Dad was 2 hours 40 mins late.. his excuse was that he needed to do extra hours to earn money he needed ( coz he's just bought a house and needs to decorate and furnish it) he only has them a couple hours a week on a Saturday ( his choice) no over nights and the one day he can't even turn up on time! Pick up is at 11 as he moved an hour drive away so I allow for that but he came today at 1:40 and this now happens all the time. Kids are left waiting, I cant plan anything on the weekend because of this! He works as a gas engineer and pays £150 a month for 6 kids private arrangement ( I've made two CSA claims and had to cancel both because he threatens me all the time if I don't cancel, says his wife will be happy to take care of them full time and he'll go for full custody if I don't cancel them) because of how hard things are at the moment I asked for a bit of extra help and he called me a gold digger who needs to manage my money! I currently don't work as I care for my mum and he's constantly calling me lazy and a sponger and that his wife ( the woman he left is for) is a hard worker !
So today I made kids dinner and told him to just not bother taking them ( kids had waited for him and were now hungry so I had to do what's best for them and feed them!) so they didn't go
When their child was in hospital he needed to come for kids as and when he could do I was reasonable and I'm not a total difficult person but now him and his wife child is out of hospital and doing better he should be coming on time for these children !
Am I being unreasonable to think I'm not the bad guy here 🥹 so fed up!