Roll your eyes at the drama!

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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

😭😭

Can you IMAGINE!!

some people need to feel superior and above all that silliness. It goes with "I am too brainy and superior to even own a tv" you watch the same thing on your laptop Brenda
"I couldn't possibly do social media" you are on an MN forum Becky 😂

The irony is that they themselves are the butt of the joke and being looked down at, simply for being on MN in the first place 😂

Some people get happiness from laughing at funny comments. Others get happiness from witless attempts at irony that make them feel superior.

Which would be fine, except that that one claims to want to laugh more. I suppose we could tell her where she's going wrong, but don't you think it's funnier to let something so obvious carry on escaping her?

No, as that would make me as sneery as them and you.

This.

She needs to remember that talking about an 11 year old child. I can see that she might be a little disappointed but she’s blowing it out of all proportion and she is supposed to be a fucking adult. She’s overly upset about the actions of a child who likely doesn’t have a clue that they have done anything wrong. In their mind they’ve just filled their mates in on what will be happening at their party and she wants them ostracised. She sounds like a horrid bully.

This situation is not ‘heartbreaking and upsetting’, it’s a minor glitch. You can be disappointed without being nasty and taking your ridiculous frustrations out on other people. I’d be letting the school know about her nasty witch-hunt before it gets out of hand.

I actually think she's not in the wrong but is taking it a bit too far. It was organised as a surprise and it's a shame it didn't stay that way because some kid has access to their parents phone or the parent has discussed it infront of them Her and the other parents have gone to a lot of effort to do something nice for the kids. It is sensitive info to have about the kids leavers hoodies sizes, the kid with the biggest size could well end up teased over it and in general it's not info that you would give out to other parents or kids.

The kids will likely still enjoy it though, it's a shame the surprise was ruined but it doesn't take way from the fact that the kid's will still have fun.

Exactly. I’m having trouble feeling sorry for a mum that started a thread to chastise a bunch of parents and belittle a child.

So someone started an anonymous thread on MN about her, blowing off steam about her behavior. How is that even remotely on par with her own actions?

If she recognizes herself, maybe she will think about her reaction.

I agree with this. Threatening to shame a child, scold parents and attempting to make them feel responsible for her ‘heartbreak’. As well as openly stating she’d have spited all the children by cancelling the party altogether if she’d been able to ( I can’t get my big reveal, so you can’t get your party!). This is not a woman I can feel sorry for.

It was extremely ambitious to keep a party secret from 30 kids, and that experiment failed. She should have just chalked it up to experience and moved on.

I once lived with a man who tantrummed. I don’t have any patience for adult tantrums now.

I've asked for mumsnet to delete but they won't because too many people have invested time in responding so it's not fair on them.
I tried to get it taken down as I genuinely put the thread up to get others peoples views.
Unfortunately I can't control other peoples opinions.

Ignore them OP. The complainers are few and far between. If they dont like it they're welcome to scroll on and find another thread to engage in. You've done not a thing wrong, nor have you said anything mean!

There's only a couple of complainers. Most people are routing for you.

I've seen threads taken down for much less.

Tell them you've been identified in RL (you have?) and it's causing you great stress.

Before you do get it deleted though how was the party?

Party update PLEASE OP!

@AmytheDancingBrick

I'm going with early 50's...

This thread is exactly what mumsnet is made for. Where would they start if this has to be deleted !? The overwhelming consensus is there is nothing redeeming about the party organisers behaviour and if that person or similar recognises this thread then its a good time to have a chat with themselves...... And yes we need a party update!!!!!!

Well apparently they know now anyway

Another one desperately waiting for the party update. 😂

OP, if you had started a thread quoting a private whatsapp message between the organiser and you, it would be mean and identifying.

A message sent to at least 60 people if you have a one form class? It was never private, and it was never meant to be private. I bet the message is on many parents social media 😂

Dying to know how the party went 👀

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No dont. Dont let max 2 posters bully her off.

* I genuinely put the thread up to get others peoples views.*

perhaps rethink posting with a thread title like * Roll your eyes at the drama*

Doesn’t really give the impression your “genuinely” canvassing opinion now does it OP?