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Roll your eyes at the drama!

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MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 12:44

Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

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ReaIIyThough · 14/07/2023 23:51

Song for the playlist:

Its by Hey Violet and its called "Hoodie" 🎶🎵

Frambuesa · 14/07/2023 23:51

Did anyone else read that in Amanda's voice? #motherland

Comeonbarbiebrianharvey · 14/07/2023 23:52

Create a witch hunt against an 11year old for not keeping a secret and drag the parents out for a public apology very mature!

Loads of people let their their kids access their phones for games etc, they could have snooped.

Anyone with half a brain would say oh dear we may have been rumbled, let's make the best of it!

Teardrop massive attack, disappointment cranberries, cry me a river timberlake, I will survive, and lastly Rem everybody hurts!

Mercedes45 · 14/07/2023 23:56

Did Amanda from motherland write that!

Saoirse82 · 15/07/2023 00:28

TeddySunflowers · 14/07/2023 14:56

Agree that she's maybe taking it a bit to heart but I think it's very unkind to be posting it on mumsnet so you can make fun of her. She obviously cares very much, I think you should try to be a bit kinder to be honest.

No, the mum should be kinder!

Talking about 'naming and shaming' a child. Clearly wants them punished/bullied. She sounds vile (and fucking hysterical).

Northernsouloldies · 15/07/2023 00:37

That op has to be one of the most deranged I've ever read.
Nother one for the playlist.
The vibrations..surprise party for baby.
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WildUnchartedWaters · 15/07/2023 00:51

tattygrl · 14/07/2023 16:27

The heartbroken maniac 😂

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I feel a new username coming on

WildUnchartedWaters · 15/07/2023 00:53

TNUHC · 14/07/2023 18:15

Telling the OP that it was a mistake to post the full Whatsapp message is hardly targeting her. The Whatsapp mother was being completely ridiculous, but encouraging people to humiliate her publicly is pretty low. Some of the individual responses are quite funny, but the whole thing is pretty horrible.

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Most of us have accepted it's the individual comments that are funny.

WildUnchartedWaters · 15/07/2023 00:54

TNUHC · 14/07/2023 18:15

Telling the OP that it was a mistake to post the full Whatsapp message is hardly targeting her. The Whatsapp mother was being completely ridiculous, but encouraging people to humiliate her publicly is pretty low. Some of the individual responses are quite funny, but the whole thing is pretty horrible.

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What about the child she was willing to humiliate?

whatkatydid2013 · 15/07/2023 05:36

BassBari · 14/07/2023 15:44

Yes, the message writer is a bit OTT, but it sounds as if she put a lot of time and effort into this to create a memorable experience for all the children, including those of parents who never contribute anything.

She has a point that if parents are sharing information and thoughts on the group with the understanding that only other parents are reading, group members should not be allowing their children to access it. My guess is the desire to name and shame is at least as much frustration with the lax parent as with the child.

I agree that the OP is very mean spirited and only posted the entire message here because getting others to make fun of the message writer with her - which purpose she explicitly states in her title - makes her feel better about herself.

OP, maybe put in some hard work yourself and do something positive for others if you want to feel good about yourself rather than lazily tearing down someone who undoubtedly does more good than you.

I’m first in line to volunteer for this stuff. I shrug and ignore the crazy a lot and I just get on with whatever help is needed with. A lot of the massive amount of work sorting things like this out is caused by being ott particular about stuff and stressing over whether colours match (the kids will not care)/if all the parents will be happy with all aspects (if not just shrug at them as well since no one is stopping them doing it better next time if they want to)/some organisers not being able to just let someone take the lead and go with it (unless they are suggesting something prohibitively expensive or that you know would exclude a child does it really matter so much you’ve got to invest lots of time arguing about it). Anyway if I were one of the organisers I would be embarrassed if the lead organiser posted this message and made it sound a bit like it was from us all. Spare a thought for the other 4 parents, at least one of whom is probably cringing a lot at having being associated with this melodramatic nonsense. The only people who will know who it is based on the message are those who have access to the whats app group and they all already know. If the organiser doesn’t see this no harm is done and if they do it’s not so bad if realise lots of people think their rant is OTT and uncalled for. It’s not like they said something mean in the heat of the moment to another parent and were overheard. They deliberately wrote out and sent a bonkers message to all the parents. If I were an organiser on the chat I’d struggle not to at least reply privately to her and tell her to get a grip.

TrundleWheel76 · 15/07/2023 06:20

WeetabixTowels · 14/07/2023 22:13

Do you want to know a secret by the Beatles?

”Listen…do you wanna know a secret?
Do you promise not to tell…
Whooaooooaaaaa closer. Let me whisper in your ear.
Say the words you want to heeeeeaaaar…………
Caleb’s mum has ordered a blue hoodie aged 10-11”

😂

BigButtons · 15/07/2023 07:32

Was Kimchi banned or just had posts deleted? Are posts were funny ridiculous but I can’t see why they would be deleted. Maybe she has history on here 🤷🏻‍♀️

TNUHC · 15/07/2023 07:48

WildUnchartedWaters · 15/07/2023 00:54

What about the child she was willing to humiliate?

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You seem to think I'm in favour of the Whatsapp woman. I am not. I am not in favour of public humiliation of children. However, I'm very much in favour of not putting threads on MN which deliberately fan the flames. Once she'd calmed down, Whatsapp woman would probably have re-read what she wrote, felt mightily embarrassed, and not have taken it any further. The OP deliberately started this thread to get people to slag Whatsapp woman off ("roll your eyes at the drama!") and is now acting all wide-eyed innocence ("I honestly didn't think it would get such a big reaction and I wasn't putting it up for laughs").

I wonder again what the OP would advise her children to do when they're teenagers and one of their classmates posts an ill-thought-out rant on Whatsapp. Would she say "God, that's embarrassing" and tell them to ignore it, or would she tell them to re-post it on another social media platform and encourage everyone to slag off the writer?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 15/07/2023 08:18

Fuck this went down a rabbit hole fast

Positive41 · 15/07/2023 08:25

Isn't it party day today?

OP please let us know how it goes!

GabriellaMontez · 15/07/2023 08:39

For someone with such a busy personal life and full time job, she certainly had plenty of time spare to write that nasty message!

Heart broken indeed!

Some perspective is needed but I suspect everything revolves around her.

Please update us post party!

Poned · 15/07/2023 08:47

It’s annoying to have a surprise ruined but her message was OTT. It sounds like she has pent-up resentment about more perhaps and it’s all coming out.

I always wish I was as easily amused as some here. Threads like this have people waking sleeping babies and dogs, snorting, spitting tea, nominating the threads for Classics etc. My life would genuinely be better if I could experience such heights of hilarity from reading stuff like this.

Herewego81 · 15/07/2023 08:57

Poned · 15/07/2023 08:47

It’s annoying to have a surprise ruined but her message was OTT. It sounds like she has pent-up resentment about more perhaps and it’s all coming out.

I always wish I was as easily amused as some here. Threads like this have people waking sleeping babies and dogs, snorting, spitting tea, nominating the threads for Classics etc. My life would genuinely be better if I could experience such heights of hilarity from reading stuff like this.

I read about these pushers spluttering coffee over their keyboards with laughter and I think… desperate times rather than envy! 😂

DrSbaitso · 15/07/2023 09:02

I always wish I was as easily amused as some here.

We all have our crosses to bear.

Screwballs · 15/07/2023 09:27

TNUHC · 15/07/2023 07:48

You seem to think I'm in favour of the Whatsapp woman. I am not. I am not in favour of public humiliation of children. However, I'm very much in favour of not putting threads on MN which deliberately fan the flames. Once she'd calmed down, Whatsapp woman would probably have re-read what she wrote, felt mightily embarrassed, and not have taken it any further. The OP deliberately started this thread to get people to slag Whatsapp woman off ("roll your eyes at the drama!") and is now acting all wide-eyed innocence ("I honestly didn't think it would get such a big reaction and I wasn't putting it up for laughs").

I wonder again what the OP would advise her children to do when they're teenagers and one of their classmates posts an ill-thought-out rant on Whatsapp. Would she say "God, that's embarrassing" and tell them to ignore it, or would she tell them to re-post it on another social media platform and encourage everyone to slag off the writer?

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You are so over invested in this, if you are not personally involved then give it a rest, feels like you are just trying to force people to agree with you that OPs a massive bitch. Whether she is or isn't, no one cares! Move on already.

aSofaNearYou · 15/07/2023 09:45

Tbf I find the comments saying she wanted to "humiliate/punish" the child equally dramatic. Who would they be humiliated in front of? Not their peers, she was talking to the parents. I read it as "I know whose child it was, therefore I know which parent told them/let them read the messages, and I want to name and shame YOU"

TheHoover · 15/07/2023 10:15

I want the final plot twist to be that it turned out to be the heartbroken maniac’s own child who leaked the info.

MummBRaaarrrTheEverLeaking · 15/07/2023 10:38

If we're talking party songs, you want a song called Squeal by No Doubt -

I can't begin to tell you
How bad I feel about it
So now that it is all out
How do you feel - did you profit

Why can't you keep a secret
Why'd you squeal
I thought that I could trust you
Why'd you squeal

I thought we had agreed
That we were in this together
But now that you have betrayed me
I got no other option

Grin
agapanthus1979 · 15/07/2023 10:39

I'm here for the party.

WildUnchartedWaters · 15/07/2023 11:12

Poned · 15/07/2023 08:47

It’s annoying to have a surprise ruined but her message was OTT. It sounds like she has pent-up resentment about more perhaps and it’s all coming out.

I always wish I was as easily amused as some here. Threads like this have people waking sleeping babies and dogs, snorting, spitting tea, nominating the threads for Classics etc. My life would genuinely be better if I could experience such heights of hilarity from reading stuff like this.

Lifes pretty crap at times for people.

If they are able to have a giggle at some cleverly written comments, good on them. I did yesterday.

People like you that judge them...why?

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