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MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 12:44

Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

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Moreorlessmentallystable · 14/07/2023 16:14

So she organised this for her own excitement? 😂😂 I mean it is not ideal but the kids will still enjoy it, so the effort is not wasted at all like she said...

Kimchikitchen · 14/07/2023 16:15

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Tidsleytiddy · 14/07/2023 16:15

BigButtons · 14/07/2023 16:14

but you don’t know that. If a kid is overweight you don’t need to see the size of their hoodie to know that.

I’m crying

BigButtons · 14/07/2023 16:16

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Deciding that there are 11 year old overweight girls in the year who would feel ashamed if people see their hoodie size is making things up.

MyTruthIsOut · 14/07/2023 16:17

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If the kids are so bored that they’re going around asking each other what size hoodie they’ve got then it sounds like it was going to be a shit party anyway 😂

Thosepeskyseagulls · 14/07/2023 16:17

PTSDBarbiegirl · 14/07/2023 13:24

It's fine, this woman is being ridiculous and deserves to be shamed. At least you're not naming.

People think it’s unfair and unkind to anonymously shame an adult woman who wants to name and shame a child… 😕

Mumtothreegirlies · 14/07/2023 16:18

Omg I’m so glad I don’t belong to any school parent WhatsApp groups. How pathetic 😂

BigButtons · 14/07/2023 16:18

God this thread and some of the bonkers replies in particular are distracting me from jobs.

Hibiscrubbed · 14/07/2023 16:19

Can someone help coax Kimchi back from the rabbit hole of imaginary fat kids, hoodie sizes and bullying?

It’s ok to retreat back down a path you took without thinking, you don’t need to keep flogging the argument @Kimchikitchen

1987syderrs · 14/07/2023 16:19

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 16:13

😂

And it’s a tie break and I’m reading this epic …it’s too much 😂🤦‍♀️

blankittyblank · 14/07/2023 16:19

Sorry, what?!

Why are you fretting over fat and skinny kids you’ve made up?! 😂
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😂😂😂😂*

tattygrl · 14/07/2023 16:20

BigButtons · 14/07/2023 16:18

God this thread and some of the bonkers replies in particular are distracting me from jobs.

Same 😂the comment about "if a kid is overweight you don't need to know the size of their hoodie to see that" has killed me off. (not laughing at overweight kids - just the bizareness of that sentence)

Hibiscrubbed · 14/07/2023 16:20

Kimchi has been mass deleted! A scandal!

Tidsleytiddy · 14/07/2023 16:20

And me. Brilliant

BadNomad · 14/07/2023 16:20

We've lost sight of what a normal hoodie size is.

Poppins2016 · 14/07/2023 16:21

Goodness me. I bet she was a bridezilla when she got married. What a completely and utterly overdramatic reaction!

MyTruthIsOut · 14/07/2023 16:21

Hibiscrubbed · 14/07/2023 16:14

Sorry, what?!

Why are you fretting over fat and skinny kids you’ve made up?! 😂

😂😂😂😂😂

Lets all take a moment to think about the upset imaginary children in their imaginary XL Mulberry hoodies…..

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 16:21

Behave.

It IS sensitive information.
When the only hoodie left is the only one of a particular colour, it will be obvious who is the guilty child sent to the witness protection program.

Glittertwins · 14/07/2023 16:21

Hibiscrubbed · 14/07/2023 16:20

Kimchi has been mass deleted! A scandal!

Damn, missed that due to the tennis! What happened??

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 14/07/2023 16:22

BadNomad · 14/07/2023 16:20

We've lost sight of what a normal hoodie size is.

😆😆😆😆

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 16:22

Why are you fretting over fat and skinny kids you’ve made up?!

😂😂😂

Thosepeskyseagulls · 14/07/2023 16:22

“O no, this is terrible and is going to ruin all our primary school memories for life. Do you think you could quickly change all the surprises so it will still be a surprise? Ta!”

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 16:23

BadNomad · 14/07/2023 16:20

We've lost sight of what a normal hoodie size is.

OMG 😂

ZacharinaQuack · 14/07/2023 16:23

I'd like to apologise for also speculating about sensitive hoodie sizes before this all kicked off. I have, however, constructed an entire imaginary scenario where the organiser's kid hacked her phone, found out all the details, openly mocked the other children's hoodie sizes, and then had to point the finger at a blameless classmate to cover up what they'd done.

midsomermurderess · 14/07/2023 16:24

Myself have worked incredibly hard. Oh dear, what a pity.

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