Roll your eyes at the drama!

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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

This reads like satire. This Mum is wasting her obvious talents on the PTA. Should be doing an dram.

This is fucking hilarious. 😂

I’d want to reply: “not got a lot else going on, then, Sally?”

I really hope she finds this thread and realises what the real world thinks.

Aaaah OP, I'd be thinking the same as you. What a load of utterly unnecessary drama, and a great way for the organiser to make it all about herself.

And for reference I was not only a school governor but also the deputy of the PTA. I did a fuck ton of organising these kinds of things, and I know how much effort it takes.

Someone letting the secret out of the bag would be a bit of a shame and worth a tut and an eyeroll....but that's it. The kids will still have a fabulous party to attend, and they'll love it by the sounds of things.

The organiser sounds like she just wants maximum ass pats and thanks. If that's your motivation for organising things, you shouldn't do it. The whole point is about doing things for other people to enjoy, not because you're on the hunt for maximum glory. The ridiculousness of suggesting that she would have cancelled the whole thing just because the "secret" got out!!! Lots of these parties take place with the kids fully aware of planned events and they still have a cracking time.

Where has the overweight 11 year old girl come from now? Seriously where was that info?

Whilst it is over the top, those volunteer parents put a lot of work in whilst the rest of us do very little and she is exasperated because clearly someone has a spoilsport of a kid who hasn't learned how to keep their mouth shut and should have done so by 11 so I do have some sympathy for the mother- the kid who blabbed about it should know that they spoilt a surprise and apologise because that is what this person wants, an apology.

Thank goodness we never had parents what's app groups when my kids were in school. My DD says the one she is on at my DGDs school has some drama queens on it too. I appreciate that some parents put a lot of effort into things like this but honestly the kids won't care whether it is a surprise or not. Nothing sensitive should be put on social media but then I hate surprise parties anyway.

Hope the kids still get to enjoy the party. Heartbreaking is a really poor choice of words and if anyone on that group is really struggling with bereavement, illness etc it could be upsetting.

This thread is distracting me from Wimbledon 😂

Someone making up hypothetical situations, bringing more drama to a thread about dramatic parents!

Imagine the message she'll post in WhatsApp if it does and she sees it?

She'll be needing a day at a spa and some urgent self-care to regroup!

<lights joss stick> all together now ...... ommmmmm.

Spot on post title op - I am rolling my eyes at the drama…I hope the Daily Mail do pick it up. Maybe seeing her own little tantrum repeated back to her might help her to see that competitive prom mum hysteria is not a good look.

…And what’s with the sanctimonious #bekind admonishments from posters? This is mumsnet aibu. This is exactly the kind of lack-of-perspective, haughty batshit behaviour that needs a good dose of mockery and calling out.

YANBU.

Also, people shouldn’t feel too sorry for OTT PTA woman, she did say this after all…

Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!

Nice.

God I’m laughing

Give over with overweight kid stuff it’s irrelevant to this thread

We've got one for the group of kids from primary who went to the same secondary (about 9 of them). It's pretty inactive - transport, uniform, home-school communication, but useful now and again. They're going into year 10.

This thread has made my day.

Yep exactly- there are a lot of drama queens posting on this thread- making things up, extrapolating a lot of nonsense for the drama🤔

😂

And mine. Crying with laughter

That really made me internally laugh!! This whole thread is bonkers 🤣

Blimey! They have got a lot of time on their hands to be this bothered.

but you don’t know that. If a kid is overweight you don’t need to see the size of their hoodie to know that.

Sorry, what?!

Why are you fretting over fat and skinny kids you’ve made up?! 😂