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Roll your eyes at the drama!

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MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 12:44

Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

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S0upertrooper · 14/07/2023 15:12

Heartbreaking. Fuming. Rant over! 😂

RegimentalSturgeon · 14/07/2023 15:12

I bet they are fuzzing with anticipation now

If they’re 11, it’s probably puberty, tbh

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 15:13

1987syderrs · 14/07/2023 15:12

I think @tunbridgeoutrage has outed which town this school is in by her username!

I wish you hadn't said that, now she will use this to get the thread removed!

(as if there was only one school in that neck of the world, but still)

Farmageddon · 14/07/2023 15:13

I just want to thank this thread for recommending Motherland - I'm off work today so binge watching it on Netflix.
It's brilliant! (And I don't even have kids...)

Superdupes · 14/07/2023 15:13

I'd love to know how many of the children are heartbroken that they now know about the party in advance. My guess would be that it's somewhere around zero.

LivinDaylights · 14/07/2023 15:13

Mumsnet is funny, threads are deleted because they are fiction made up by a "troll", yet this thread is real and is being deleted because what, it isn't fiction and the people are real 😆. Just as it gets interesting with fellow people in the chat showing up. I know I know slow Friday afternoon at work 🤣.

PousseyNotMoira · 14/07/2023 15:14

MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 15:10

Thankyou. I really was not posting this to cause trouble. I just wanted people opinions and it has blown up.

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Just report the post and ask for it to be taken down? So much drama.

Original poster
MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 15:15

It isn't tunbridge.
It's a completely different area.

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andthenthis · 14/07/2023 15:16

@MondayblueFridayyellow

Exactly. There was no malice in your post. You asked on a forum opinions that's all and that's what this forum is for. You haven't done anything wrong. So what if the mum from the WhatsApp group finds out, maybe next time she won't be so OTT.

Don't give it another thought.

tattygrl · 14/07/2023 15:17

Why shouldn't OP post about this message? The woman who sent it to the group chat was ok with putting it out into a group of parents with the intention of shaming an 11 year old child. The only people who know the real identities of anyone involved will be people in the group already, and they have access to the message already. I remember parents like this from when I was at school - always over-involved in the lives of all the kids, the kids' friendship groups, etc, always suggesting ways all the kids should be reprimanded or taught or made to act. It's ridiculous and upsetting for everyone involved.

1987syderrs · 14/07/2023 15:18

MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 15:15

It isn't tunbridge.
It's a completely different area.

Oh ok OP sorry I regretted that previous post not thinking it might identify you . Am glad I was wrong! Please accept my apologies.X

OhNoYouDidnnt · 14/07/2023 15:18

Just so you know OP, I won't mention anything to the organisers that I have seen this post. For what it's worth my heart initially sunk when the message came through I thought she was going to say her child was ill or worse, until I carried on reading.

Readyplayerthr33 · 14/07/2023 15:18

@MondayblueFridayyellow
You were not trying to get opinions. Look at the title of your thread. You picked a mean spirited title designed to gather responses laughing at the drama. It is men’s spirited to post what she said verbatim, when it is very identifying, just to get people to make fun of her.

PollyAmour · 14/07/2023 15:18

I think it's spiteful to post a personal whatsapp message for Mumsnet posters to laugh at and mock. You are mean-spirited and malicious.

lilymani · 14/07/2023 15:18

LivinDaylights · 14/07/2023 15:13

Mumsnet is funny, threads are deleted because they are fiction made up by a "troll", yet this thread is real and is being deleted because what, it isn't fiction and the people are real 😆. Just as it gets interesting with fellow people in the chat showing up. I know I know slow Friday afternoon at work 🤣.

It would be really funny if it was fake and OP knew the other posters were lying about being in the chat but she couldn't out them 😂 (not saying that is the case at all)

sillysmiles · 14/07/2023 15:20

PollyAmour · 14/07/2023 15:18

I think it's spiteful to post a personal whatsapp message for Mumsnet posters to laugh at and mock. You are mean-spirited and malicious.

But not for an adult to rant at and about a child?

BluNomad · 14/07/2023 15:20

This is exactly why I refuse to engage with all the clucking hens in the playground at primary school, I would never join a school whatsapp group

Superdupes · 14/07/2023 15:20

MondayblueFridayyellow · 14/07/2023 15:15

It isn't tunbridge.
It's a completely different area.

Tonbridge?

Moredramathanrazzamatazz · 14/07/2023 15:22

Whoever heard of adults being this upset about the very normal behaviour of a child or a few children? Bonkers.

Superdupes · 14/07/2023 15:22

PollyAmour · 14/07/2023 15:18

I think it's spiteful to post a personal whatsapp message for Mumsnet posters to laugh at and mock. You are mean-spirited and malicious.

This wasn't personal, it's not about her child being seriously ill or her DH leaving her. It's about a school leavers party and her threatening to name and shame someone else's child. That is what is mean spirited and malicious.

WhichEllie · 14/07/2023 15:24

PP: “This post was unkind.”
OP: “You’ve turned nasty! I didn’t do anything wrong! I’m not unkind!!”
Hmm
Well you did copy and paste the message with the title “Roll your eyes at the drama!” to call people in to mock her. If it’s struck a nerve to be called out for being mean-spirited and unpleasant then perhaps some self-reflection is in order. By all means have it deleted, but it was indeed unkind regardless of how over the top the woman’s message was.

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 15:25

PollyAmour · 14/07/2023 15:18

I think it's spiteful to post a personal whatsapp message for Mumsnet posters to laugh at and mock. You are mean-spirited and malicious.

I think the organiser and her mates may have found out about the thread 😂😂

ZacharinaQuack · 14/07/2023 15:26

wholivesondrurylane · 14/07/2023 15:25

I think the organiser and her mates may have found out about the thread 😂😂

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Well, if they have, then I hope when they 'name and shame' the child, they remember to just label the behaviour not the person.

Inkpotlover · 14/07/2023 15:27

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Yikes, I wish I was a fly on the wall at this party now! 😬

Mojoj · 14/07/2023 15:29

I think that "one child" should go into hiding....🤣🤣🤣🤣

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