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Some of the parents in our children's class have very kindly organised a surprise leaving party for the year 6 children.
The 'surprise' has unfortunately been leaked by one of the children. One of the mothers has sent a message to the whatsapp group (please see below. I have changed the names)
Do you think this message is a bit over the top? I feel for whoever's child it is as they will now be picked on.

The Message:

Evening all I have some very upsetting and heartbreaking news to share with you. 😢💔

It’s come to my attention there a couple of children who have access to this and the other PARENT group chat and have spoiled the surprise. Especially one child in particular I know who the child is and feel like naming and shaming!
They have shared all the information from the day of the party, time, what’s happening there and the hoodies.
They have even shared the sizes and colours to the children and that is sensitive information.

Myself, Parent 1, Parent 2, Parent 3 have all worked incredibly hard over the past few months from calling venues, DJ’s booking things and surprises.
We also all work full time have so much going on in our personal lives and it hasn’t been easy.
To say the least I’m extremely hurt by this as we have even kept all of this away from our own children. It really feels like a kick in the stomach. It’s been so stressful and now I personally am fuming all hard work has been wasted.
Parent groups are for parents and there are other conversations on the groups that aren’t for children’s eyes or ears.
We have expressed time after time this is a surprise and that our children do not know.

The jumpers have been a nightmare amongst other things going backwards and forwards to suppliers etc.

I really really hope the person that has done this is ashamed of themselves and comes clean to the parents and apologises!

For me the excitement has gone and if this information had come out even a week ago no would have cancelled the whole thing.

The school haven’t taken on the stress of organising any of it and we stepped up if it wasn’t for us the kids would just be having that one last thing together at flip out and nothing else.

I’m sorry to rant but I hope you can all understand how hurt we are feeling.

💔💔💔

That outburst should have happened in her own head, or at best, with the organising committee..

YES!

please!

but it's not about the party or the surprise,

it's about the message she sent. Was she drunk?

What a bitchy cow!
I would be absolutely furious if I’d received a message like that.
Talk about queen bee and up herself.
Very nasty behaviour it doesn’t put her in a good light.

Amazing! Seriously if my dc had a suprised party in year 6 they would be pissed off they didn't get to choose own party outfit /shoes etc. I think a suprise party for 11yr olds is a bit pathetic really.

Brilliant thread. Thanks OP , made my day.

Precisely!
Are you one of her acolytes @WorkingItOutAsIGo ?

Name changed for this post....but I am in this same whats app group!!

what if it was sensitive information about another child and the kid went into school blabbing about that!
Surely no parent would put sensitive information about their child on a shared WhatsApp group?

Ohnoyoudidn't - spill the beans then

you know we are dying to see the replies!

I think that takes "what if..." to a whole new level!

I think that message needs forwarding onto the school Jesus Christ she sounds like a complete nutter.

Christmas isn't a surprise every year, kids still love it.

Gosh! Imagine her Whatsapp message when she finds it's been leaked on MN too!

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In fairness, all three of my boys wore their secondary school leavers’ hoodies all the time, and still do occasionally, and they are in their twenties now.

I could understand the organiser mum being a bit miffed that the surprise had leaked, but the WhatsApp message is right over the top and back down the other side. Hopefully it is just a momentary blip because of accumulated stress, and she will take a few deep breaths and realise that the kids will still enjoy the party, and that is what really matters.

😬😬😬😬😂

School must be delighted that they no longer have to deal with that mother

Ooh post the replies or give us the gist please?!

thanks OP this thread is mumsnet at it’s finest 😂

Very upsetting and heartbreaking? That would be one of the children becoming terminally ill or having a dreadful accident. Finding out about Surprise leavers hoodies and mocktails at a local hotel two days before it’s due to happen is mildly annoying. This woman sounds so full of herself. I work full time! The hoodie supplier is a nightmare! I won’t name and shame the child! Oh have a day off! She sounds awful. She’s the sort of parent you have to tolerate because she likes to do all the friends of school shit which means you don’t have to, but she likes you to know what hard work it is.

God OP, I think I'd be going into hiding round about now.
Let's hope adults keep secrets better than kids huh!

Go on, OP... post the replies!!!

Have you actually been directly involved in organising this party OP? Have you been directly involved in organising anythjng large for the y6 class?
Its bloody hard work and a thankless task.
I would also be fuming and crushed if I had gone to all the hard work to have the surprise spoiled.
Similar to those parents who make a song and dance to their kids in reception that santas not real and how stupid all the other kids are for believing in a silly lie- yeah cheers for that.
The mistake the woman made was trying to keep it all secret in the first place. That was doomed from the start as you can’t make all the parents not mention it- never going to happen.
But yeah- I would be really disappointed.

OMG what did you make of it all?

I feel for her, but this is hilarious

It reminds me of that John Finnemore sketch.

"You know what you've done, don't you? You've taken a situation where you are entirely in the right and I am entirely in the wrong and you've been so beastly about it, that it has rather let me off the hook" (I paraphrase!).