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Send you £10

50 replies

Itsacrazyworldisntit · 14/07/2023 08:58

Do you all have someone who could send you £10 if you needed it? Or in a financial emergency someone who could help with an unexpected bill?
Or does the buck stop with you?

OP posts:
PineappleLatte · 14/07/2023 09:00

Yes. I am fortunate enough I could probably get £10k from friends/family without much notice.

HeidiUpTheMountain · 14/07/2023 09:02

We are very lucky that we would have three sets of family who would help us if we had serious financial problems, and I have one friend from whom I would accept it too. Others would offer, but I’d only be comfortable owing one particular person.

pannikin · 14/07/2023 09:02

My parents send me money whenever I need it. They transferred me £100 this morning. When I go to theirs, my dad will take my car and fill it up if I need petrol. I appreciate how lucky I am.

PineappleLatte · 14/07/2023 09:02

Which you’ve now made me realise how fortunate a situation I am in. I can remember times when we were putting hands down the back of sofas and pulling up the seats in the car to find lose change to buy bread.

ISeeMisledPeople · 14/07/2023 09:02

I don't consider myself to have many friends, but I have plenty of people that, if I was in dire straights, I could ask for that level of help. That includes friends, family and colleagues.

headcheffer · 14/07/2023 09:03

PineappleLatte · 14/07/2023 09:00

Yes. I am fortunate enough I could probably get £10k from friends/family without much notice.

Same. Very lucky.

Dacadactyl · 14/07/2023 09:04

Yes, both friends amd family.

And we are fortunate that we have multiple people on both sides of our family who are well off enough to be able to give a hell of a lot more than that if needed.

However, we have also been fortunate enough to never need financial support from family. Although the practical support they offered (allowing us to live with them with a baby, charging us reduced rent etc) ensured that we had a firm financial footing from which to springboard off.

Ragwort · 14/07/2023 09:07

Yes I do ... and could also help family/friends out if necessary ... although have twice given a loan of £1k to a close family member and a friend (separate people) and never had it returned .....

alwaysacatastrophe · 14/07/2023 09:08

A tenner- yes. More than £100- nope! The buck stops with me and that's just how it is. My DF and DGP's were the ones I'd ask and they passed away 10+ years ago. My DM wouldn't have the funds to be able to help and neither would my friends

usernother · 14/07/2023 09:09

My friends would but I'd be very embarrassed to ask them for money

Dacadactyl · 14/07/2023 09:10

If you dont mind me asking, what's your situation OP? Would your friends and family be able to help you out?

Beachywave · 14/07/2023 09:11

I have friends who'd lend me a couple of hundred at short notice and my dad recently lent us £3k because we had to pay to renew my husband's visa. I appreciate how lucky I am.

Gerrataere · 14/07/2023 09:11

£10 probably, but I’d have to ask someone who’d probably miss it as I don’t know anyone who isn’t living month to month. I don’t have parents to ask for anything, on my own and would just have to suck up if no one could help. However I’m in a better position than most, if I friend asks me to pick up an item worth up to £10 in a shop I’d not ask for the money for it.

Clutchy · 14/07/2023 09:11

I come from a big family and can’t think of a single person who wouldn’t help me out if I needed it.

WeWereInParis · 14/07/2023 09:12

Yes - DH and I are extremely fortunate that both our parents have said that if it ever came to it (job losses etc), they'd pay our mortgage for us.

JaceLancs · 14/07/2023 09:12

Yes fortunately
There have been times in the past when I have been penniless and pride and embarrassment stopped me asking - often I fed DC and didn’t eat myself
Now I’m the one who bails everyone else out financially! DD, DS, DP and a few friends to boot

IAmAnIdiot123 · 14/07/2023 09:15

Yes, I do have lots of people who could lend a tenner, I also am that person for people and have done so many times.

SingaporeSlinky · 14/07/2023 09:23

If I needed to borrow £10 today I have 5 friends I could ask no problem.
If I needed to borrow £100 I have 2 friends I’d feel ok asking.
If I needed £1000 I have 1 friend and 1 family member

usernother · 14/07/2023 09:25

I have no family who would lend me money. I'd never ask my friends for large amounts even though lots of them could afford it.

ComtesseDeSpair · 14/07/2023 09:26

Yes, family and friends would be good for fairly significant amounts of money if I ever needed it. And I only know most of my neighbours who live in the surrounding houses to say a brief hello to, but I’d still give any one of them £10 if they knocked on my door needing it.

gogomoto · 14/07/2023 09:27

Yes but i wouldn't need it, I could give £10 to someone without a problem. I'm fortunate

gogomoto · 14/07/2023 09:28

To be honest my parents could lend me enough for a newish car if I needed it. It just illustrates how much easier life is for some of us and I never forget that

TheDutchHouse · 14/07/2023 09:37

Nope , not one . I have no friends , only work colleagues who I couldn't possibly ask.

To be fair I could do with extra £10 ( or more) occasionally but as on my own I've had to do without, whether that be essentials , repairs or extras.

Gazelda · 14/07/2023 09:39

Many years ago, I was on my arse. No one to turn to. No money. Lots of bills. No hope. It got very, very bad. I ended up in psychiatric care after a breakdown.

I got through it. Struggled along.

Then things got bad again. I swallowed my pride and told my sis. She sorted it. Loaned me enough to get on my feet. Supported me and cheered me as I changed job, moved house, had counselling.

I wish I'd spoken up the first time I was in trouble. It would have saved me from an awful time and horrific psych hospital experience.

I'm now in a much better place and if you met me you'd possibly think I've a privileged and easy life.

If anyone I care about ever asked me for financial help, I'd move heaven and earth to do whatever I could.

SedentaryCat · 14/07/2023 09:47

My mum and step-dad would lend money - they helped with the deposit for our first house (along with my PIL). My sisters would help out too if needed.

My late father. Mean as they come...wouldn't offer a bean.