To think these friends don’t like me?

[Gotthehint]

I moved to another country 2 years ago and since then none of my friends have visited (I have been back a few times including to attend their wedding’s / hens, Christmas etc).

We are about a 6 hour flight in a popular holiday destination and can offer free accommodation. They have all been on multiple holidays since then, at least 4 or 5 each.

Is it safe to say we aren’t as close as I thought we were?

I think some people (myself included) would find it difficult to have a proper holiday in someone else's house. It presents lots of awkward scenarios for example over shared bathrooms, who will cook, how much should I volunteer to give toward food you might have purchased etc? I'd be really aware of not wanting to take advantage. Plus I'd probably want to go and explore but would feel like I'd need to invite you along too. I'd defo do a long weekend if it was nearer but not sure I'd want to give up a week's hols.

I think it's a really kind offer but even if I really, really liked someone, I'd have to think whether I really wanted to do it.

I think you're jumping to conclusions. A six-hour flight to visit someone and stay in their house is a pretty big ask.

I lived on the West Coast of the US for over two years and in that time only one friend came to stay with me.

Most people struggle to free up the time and money for a journey of that duration.

I lived in a popular (ish) holiday destination, eight hours away, for 10 years. In all that time, only two friends came specifically to stay with me; a few visited kind of on the way - and it honestly never occurred to me that nobody else liked me. I think the onus is on you to go back home regularly to catch up.

The people who had said blithely at their leaving drinks in the UK "please feel free to visit!" were then somewhat dismayed when colleagues they barely knew contacted them with flight details, so it can work both ways.

A friend of mine has moved to the UAE years ago. I never visited, because I dont have a particular interest in going there on holiday.
Not many of our friends visited her.

She moved back and we saw each other regularly.

Now shes moved back again, and , again, despite her mentioning I should visit, I have told her I probably woiuldnt, as I have other priorities.
I am seeing her next month, when she comes back on holiday!

It is not because I dont like her. Shes just moved somewhere that is inconvenient for me to visit.

Exactly!!!

I moved from my home town (and country) to London, 15 years ago. only 2.5h on a plane.
However, I never expected anyone to come visit me.
I made sure to contact people whenever I cam back to my home town.

I have now moved back, and of course plenty of UK friends have said they will visit. Will they? Maybe. Probably not. I do not think they like me any less.
Whenever I go back to the UK, I will try my best to see them!