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Teacher and sports coach swearing at children

92 replies

Vincent05 · 09/07/2023 20:44

If a sports coach swore at children in a threatening manner, ie “fucking little shits” fuck off you are fucking useless, or called one a wanker , what would you expect the sporting body to do about it. If this sports coach was also a teacher what would you expect the school to do about it? Bearing in mind it happened outside of school. Thoughts please

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Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 18:49

Ok, this fits with what I was told about some awful things that had gone on regarding a pony club coach who was also a teacher, and the Fbook post I got sent.

From the BBC article it looked as if people wanted this to go away.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 19:02

Vincent05 · 17/11/2023 18:40

Without an independent ombudsman for sport there is no one independent and fair to report things to

You can contact the LADO directly yourself.

Vincent05 · 18/11/2023 19:03

LADO only oversee investigations, the original body gathers all the evidence for them

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Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:12

Yeah, investigating yourself is a great way to go....

If the original body is in sole charge of gathering evidence, that's not going to lead to problems - ever!

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:13

I'd have thought that there would be zero tolerance on swearing at children anyway??

Vincent05 · 18/11/2023 19:26

It appears to be encouraged in PC!!!!

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Lavinia56 · 18/11/2023 19:33

Vincent05 · 17/11/2023 18:38

Private school teachers appear to be able to do what they like. There are lots of incidences of abuse reported and the main thing seems to be to protect the reputation of the school at all costs

I don't agree with this at all. I have taught in both sectors, and my teaching style didn't vary between the two.
There was certainly no abusive language used in either sector.
There have been reports of abuse in the private sector but mostly these were boarding schools, and not recent cases.
I think it's far less likely today, when children can phone or text their parents.

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:42

I doubt that!

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 19:45

Vincent05 · 18/11/2023 19:03

LADO only oversee investigations, the original body gathers all the evidence for them

I have worked as a LADO, although the LADO oversees the process there is an expectation that the LA is reassured. The investigation report should be shared with LADO and LADO can take it up with regulatory bodies if needed.

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:53

But if a LADO relies on the regulatory body to provide all the investigation results, how is there any guarantee of independence - or truth?

Vincent05 · 18/11/2023 19:55

My experience of both state and private is that actually the state schools were held to higher standards than the private school both in terms of behaviour and teaching standards. The worst teaching I’ve experienced was actually private!!!

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Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 19:56

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:53

But if a LADO relies on the regulatory body to provide all the investigation results, how is there any guarantee of independence - or truth?

They dont. They have a managing allegations meeting and decide who will investigate usually employer. This investigation is shared with LADO. LADO remains neutral and can offer feedback on this report and contact regulatory bodies if needed. LADO then stays involved until all actions completed including referral to DBS or TRA.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 18/11/2023 19:57

Isn't this just how private schools achieve such high standards? I always thought this is what people are paying for when they send their kids to these places.

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 19:58

If the child is scared of the teacher, they may well not report it, and it is clear the teacher did swear at children-according to the BBC.

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 20:04

So it's possible that the body complained about can be in charge of investigating itself?

XelaM · 18/11/2023 20:08

As a mum of a horsey teen who competes - horsey people are generally not nice people and any kid competing in this sport needs to have a very thick skin. I don't think a complaint would be taken seriously.

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 20:09

Bit harsh if the school don't know how the teacher has been behaving. And no way would anyone approve of swearing as a motivating tool. Not these days anyway!

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 20:13

That's a heck of a generalisation! I disagree completely with that, although there are without doubt some really unpleasant people. Anyone who lets a teacher swear at kids is reprehensible.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 20:15

Vincent05 · 17/11/2023 18:40

Without an independent ombudsman for sport there is no one independent and fair to report things to

ISI independent schools inspectorate or Department of Education DFE for the role of a teacher as comes under LADO threshold of suitability to work with children and young people. I would also argue that it poses a risk of emotional harm.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 20:17

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 20:04

So it's possible that the body complained about can be in charge of investigating itself?

The employer should carry out the investigation. It can be hard if the person is self employed as this classes as mannerless organisation. However, the concerns need addressing. LADO can then speak to the individual. I would also be looking at transferable risk and expecting school to also be involved.

XelaM · 18/11/2023 20:18

I don't think calling someone a little shit would cause anyone "emotional harm". Any high level sport has shouty demanding and often mean coaches. I don't even think it's equestrian-sport specific.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 20:20

XelaM · 18/11/2023 20:08

As a mum of a horsey teen who competes - horsey people are generally not nice people and any kid competing in this sport needs to have a very thick skin. I don't think a complaint would be taken seriously.

That shouldnt even feature in assessing whether the concern should be looked at. Any child should be able to be part of any sport. Thick skin shouldn’t be a requisite. The reported behaviour is unacceptable and damaging and made worse by the fact this person is a teacher.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 18/11/2023 20:22

XelaM · 18/11/2023 20:18

I don't think calling someone a little shit would cause anyone "emotional harm". Any high level sport has shouty demanding and often mean coaches. I don't even think it's equestrian-sport specific.

I’m talking about OP post. Just because it’s high level does mean a child should not be treated with dignity. Let’s look at the recent gymnastics investigations.

jannier · 18/11/2023 20:24

Always screen shot things so you have proof. You can call your LA safeguarding team....LADO

Mrr1970 · 18/11/2023 20:37

Hi level sport? What? So it's ok to swear at children then?