To think this isn’t rude?

[Barbarawindsor1]

MIL has corrected me a couple of times now for saying this so wanted to get wider views… when talking directly to DH I have referred to her as ‘your mum’ e.g. ‘Your mum and I were just saying if the weather’s bad tomorrow we should go to XYZ’ - she then corrects me and says ‘Linda’. It feels artificial to say that to me and I don’t think I’m being rude? She doesn’t have a problem with me referring to her as ‘Grandma’ to DC. Obviously when I’m addressing her directly I use her name.

Me too, I'd feel weird calling her by her first name in that scenario.

I dont find it rude. But if the person who I was speaking about did find it rude then I would follow their wishes.
I think its rude to carry on doing it when you know she doesnt like it

I could be sat next to DH and if one of the kids said (for example) can I have an ice cream he might say ask your mum. It doesn't mean he doesn't know my name, it's how they refer to me as! If he said ask toodles I'd think he was being fucking odd!

Just reading some replies, if I was talking to my dad about the cost of butter and I was involving my DH into the conversion I'd say "my dad just said butter has gone up by 20%, didn't you dad"

If I was to say "Terry just told me the cost of butter has gone up by 20%" my dad would probably be re-living the annoyance of when I called him by his first name when I was in my rebellious teen years and thought it funny 😆

Does she have a husband? If so, does he call her Linda when talking to DH or would he say 'your mum'? Saying 'your mum' is definitely the more natural imo.

I think she’s the weird one. It’s normal when speaking to someone to use the name they use when speaking about another person. E.g when I’m speaking to my kids about my DH I call him “dad” and when speaking to my nieces and nephews about their mum (my sis) I don’t say her name, I say “mum”.

What’s the problem with using her name?

Oh I do say 'your mum' too. However, I wouldn't if corrected. It feels warmer to refer to my MIL as your mum in the context you've outlined. It feels nicer somehow. By saying 'Linda' I would feel more like an outsider I guess. I'm very close to my in laws and see them weekly.

I’m glad to see most think I’m NBU!

She is a bit socially awkward so I wonder if she thinks I’m being too formal and trying to say ‘call me Linda’ thinking it’s more relaxed.

She also refers to me as ‘Mummy’ to my DC.

If I was talking to my husband about his parents whether they were with us or not I would never refer to them by their names as he doesn't call them that. That would feel weird to me.