My friend is ruining my Wimbledon experience!!!

[LadyGarcia]

So I managed to get tickets for Wimbledon, during the finals weekend and am going with my university friend and it's something we've been planning for a long time - to go Wimbledon.

Now I'm quite simple and I'm happy put on some makeup and a dress, head out and enjoy my day and the experience.

However since the tickets have been booked, my friend has done nothing but hammer my phone day and night about how she will be dressing up on the day from ordering Hermes Sandals to a Dior Bag to even looking for a GOLD sunglasses chain etc...

I really regret asking her now, I just want to go and enjoy my day - I love Wimbledon and it's my happy place (as in the tournament itself) so be actually be in the grounds is just a dream come true but now I feel almost like I need to dress up just as much as her and look good on the day, I don't want to burn my money and on designer sandals and a designer bag (not that I will) but I can't help care now about how ugly I'll look next to her!

AIBU?

You don’t have to (and shouldn’t) put her down for wanting to dress up, but it is fair enough to let her know that it’s not what you’re interested in and you’d rather she stop pinging you with declarations and questions about what she’s going to wear.

You could go for something more along the lines of “Sounds great, I’ll be in Levis and something by Primark! I am desperate to see Swiatek, we have to get there by X time.” And then be a bit more blunt if she doesn’t get the hint.

Don't worry about what anyone else is wearing. Your friend is happy planning her outfit and is looking forward to the day. Most Hermes sandals are super comfortable so are an excellent choice for walking round Wimbledon. Your friend will have her sandals and bag to enjoy for years afterwards as well so that's a bonus. Hope you both have a wonderful time!

Been going for years (not just to wimbledon but tennis tournaments all over the world). Unless you have some lovely debenture tickets, she’ll be looking very dressed up amongst people in jeans/shorts (depending on the weather) and her bag will be on the floor no matter where your seats are. If your seats are up the top and it’s not a scorching day and she’s dressed up in sandals and a dress, she’ll likely be chilly as you’ll be shaded by the roof. (I’m not saying sandals and a dress are dressy but it sounds like she’ll be going all out). Trust me, go in layers unless it’s guaranteed 25 degrees + and you know you’re not sitting up in the gods ie. no sun. Have a wonderful time!

I have been a few times and always put on a nice dress as it's Wimbledon (with smart trainers as there's lots of walking around) but as people said some look smart some are t-shirts and jeans. I would say you do you and let her dress how she wants.

Enjoy your time at Wimbledon -a little tip for you take in a bottle of bubbles if that's your thing (as it's so expensive there!)

I feel you! I’ve got friends like this even for a normal night out. Luckily we’ve known each other long enough that I can just tell them they are boring me 😅. Just change the subject when she starts on about clothes - maybe change it to tennis if you want to really drive
home the reason you’re going 🙈

That's called going for the subtle approach !

The tickets are yours. If she’s making you regret asking her just tell her she’s not coming and invite someone closer to you instead.

She'll probably regret it. It might well be raining and it's a long day with lots of walking. She will look daft.

Is there a need to be so bitchy about a woman who wants to get dressed up?

She sounds very excited. I don’t understand how this is ruining anything for you though..? Let her crack on with her mad outfit and wear what you like. Unless you’re in the Royal box, a nice dress with smart shoes is fine.

She’s probably expecting more or for it to look like it does when they show the celebs/royals going. Do say something especially about comfortable footwear otherwise she might feel embarrassed at having going to such lengths/expense to make the most of a special day.

Kate Middleton has class. She doesn't even dress up for Wimbledon, just relatively formal outfits. Most of the dresses she wears are similar to what women wear in the office.

if the friend wants to over-do it, it's up to her, but in no way does it make the OP look bad. Unless it's by association, but adults can deal with sitting next to someone a bit cringe.

are you both in your 15's??? Your friend thinking she has to wear brands just because is wimbledon and you who is upset about being sitting next to someone who is just wearing more expensive clothes than you.. just focus on the tennis ...

Just wear what you want and enjoy yourself.

I went to Wimbledon years ago, centre court etc, I just dressed casually. I didn’t even notice what people were wearing. Your friend thinks she’s getting papped on Ladies Day at Royal Ascot by the sounds of it.

Kate Middleton has a stylist.

It’s harmless and only ruining your experience if you let it. She’s obviously really excited about it. Just let your eyes glaze over when you read the messages and ignore it.

not sure what your point is. You think that Kate would turn up like a TOWIE wannabe if she didn't have someone doing the leg work for her?

You should turn up with a huge hat featuring tennis balls and a painted face with a huge placard for one of the players, so that you are the one who fits in with the crowd.

The fact that you use the word fitflops tells us all we need to know.

This.

You sound salty and jealous.

I’d be happy that she was excited enough about being invited that she wanted to get all glammed up and make an effort for the event.

Your friend is mis judging the dress code - it’s not a dress up thing . Heels would look strange and given the stairs etc would be cumbersome. You sound like you have it spot on. I hope you see a wonderful match and have a great time.

It's not Ascot. No one cares what anyone is wearing at Wimbledon. 🙄

Designer stuff won't make her look different from you. Who cares if she wants to spend her money on those things. Rock up and be amazing in whatever you decide to wear

Get yourself a nice panama hat and you'll look tennis chic.