DP and I are planning our wedding, and we've started discussing the guest list. This will be my second marriage. My family disowned me when I divorced exDH six years ago. He was abusive to me but very charming and manipulative towards my family, turning a number of them against me. It was all very hurtful at the time. As a result, I've had no contact with any of my extended family since then and have no desire to. I had a small family to begin with (no father, deceased grandparents, and being an only child), so I'll only be inviting my mum, surviving grandparent, a few family friends, and my close circle of friends, totalling around 20 people.
On the other hand, DP has a large, close-knit family, and his guest list amounts to over 80 people. While DP is aware of my family situation, I've never shared it with his extended family as I’m embarrassed and there’s never been the need.
Although I've come to terms with cutting out toxic “family” from my life, I worry about how DP's family and other guests will perceive my minimal guest count. AIBU in thinking they will they question or judge me? I'd appreciate any advice you can offer on how best to handle this situation. Thank you!