I have two friends who have recently been betrayed by their husbands, blindsided by the affairs and both of them are so devastated and numbed by the whole thing that they seem unable to do anything to protect themselves. I have said they need to see a lawyer and get their finances sorted as their husbands seem quite happy to let things drift along for obvious reasons. I can't help thinking it plays into the husband's hands as the kids get older and they may not have to support them so much and then things change about the house situation, so they're not keen to get the legal ball rolling. Does anyone have advice on what they could do please? Thanks.