To not want my DG to call me a "princess"

[HulkHulk]

Today DH and I went to a restaurant for lunch and I ordered a milkshake. They told me they milkshake machine was broken. No big deal, ordered a sprite.

Later DH teased me about the "pissed off princess" facial expression I pulled. He did it in a "my wife doesn't like getting her own way". He often talks about me being a princess, or sometimes spoilt, or "classic my wife" behaviour. He says "lots of women are bloody princesses"

The thing is I literally don't know what he's talking about. I am very un princess like. And anyway this might be OTT but I find the whole line sexist? He tells me he's just messing about and to stop taking stuff so seriously but it's this joke he brings up again and again and it just totally bizarre to me. I'm pretty bloody laid back and deal with a lot of pressure at work all the time. I just don't relate at all.

Aibu to ask him to stop? I have but he is still finding it funny.

Oh. I meant DH. Not DG. I don't know if a DG is anything but I meant DH!

I would just start calling him dickhead each time he calls you princess.

You don't ask him to stop, you tell him to stop. For the reasons you've listed above.

Bit gaslighty that isn't it?

Sounds like he has some stereotypical mysoginistic views of women that he is trying to shoehorn your behaviour into in order to justify his views

Is he actually okay? What a twat.

That sounds exhausting. Worth for a day you doing the reverse: “Don’t get so grumpy!” “Classic man, getting so cross and aggressive!” “You don’t have to talk so angrily at them!” After a couple of times, he might - might - realise how petty and controlling it is.

Otherwise, LTB (semi-light hearted).

I'd call him a cheeky bastard every time. What a knobber.

You need to tell him that you want him to put some time aside for a serious conversation. Make a plan of exactly what you want to say.

Set out some ground rules. Only one person talking at a time, with a specific time period for you to take turns, would be the main one.

Take it from there.

So what he's saying is that if you show any disappointment or similar feelings about anything you're being a 'princess' and a lot of other women are the same.

Bloody hell, and you're wondering if it's OTT to think that's sexist?

Agree with pp, every time he comes out with that sort of crap remind him that he's a dickhead.

Lots of men are bloody sexist dicks, and he's one of them.

This. ^ Throw it right back at him @HulkHulk Be as arsey and snarky towards him. See how HE likes it!

Roll your eyes and tell him he doesn’t know he’s been born, and he wouldn’t know a high maintenance woman if she slapped him round the head with an £800 handbag.

Or maybe you pull a pouty face when you don't get what you want?
Maybe you're unaware of it.

He often says it.

Could it be true?

He sounds horrible!

I'd be annoyed, & probably say to my husband how disappointing as I was looking forward to it!

That surely doesn't make someone a "Princess"?

Does he not ever get disappointed when something he wants isn't available?

So what if OP does show a bit of disappointment, isn't that allowed in your world? She's not shouting and getting angry with anyone.

And according to OP's husband, most women are spoilt 'princesses' as well so I rather suspect OP does nothing of the sort. It's just her husband being a dick.

I did actually think you were referring yo dear dog at first and thought 'interesting'!

Tell DH to pack it in

YANBU! What a fucking knob he is!

Sorry I meant dear grandmother. I'm getting it wrong as well!

“You know when you call me a princess if I’m ever a bit disappointed at anything, it seems to me that you have a view that woman should be constantly happy, regardless of how rubbish a situation is or crap service is. That you view only men are allowed to be annoyed and woman should just tolerate any old crap or they are being a princess. It makes me think less of you every time you do it. It doesn’t feel like a joke, it feels like you are putting me in my place. Are you aware you are being sexist?”

Just do an exaggerated yawn everytime he does it. He'll soon get bored of you acting bored with it. Or an exaggerated laugh.

Oh I think I'd go for it with both barrels.
Is he ever mildly uncomfortable or something isn't up to scratch? "Poor Little Fauntleroy"
"Does it displease The Princeling /The Boy King/ The Little Emperor?"
Complains about anything "oh give over Victor Meldrew you grumpy old git"
Asks you to bring him anything from glass of water to a spanner? Start roaring "Mom!! Meatloaf!!!"

It's quite a lot sexist.

Ignore his comments then he isn't getting the reaction he is after. Move on. Oh look was that a falcon just flying past the window?

*Little Lord Fauntleroy, that should read. It's what my mum used to call my brother when he was being spoilt or petulant. Pissed him right off 😁