Our class, like many, has a class stuffed animal. At the end of each week someone gets rewarded for good behaviour and gets to take said stuffed toy home for the weekend. It's considered high status by the kids and big wooha about who got it. I understand that most of the other kids have had the toy, some tiwce.
We are coming to the end of the year. DS(6) has not had this bloody stuffed toy and it is causing him a huge amount of upset. DS tries hard in school, follows the rules, isn't disruptive, does all his work, etc. He is no super star student but tries hard, hates being in trouble and takes rules seriously and all reports, parent consultations etc have been positive and he regularly gets house points for good behaviour. We are always told he is a sweet little boy, keen to please, helpful and tries hard. Every week he is disappointed he doesn't get it, he thinks that he's not good enough, can't understand why he's not had it yet when he tries hard to follow all the rules, thinks it means he's "bad". So far we've told him not to worry, it doesn't mean he is bad, keep following the rules, etc and he will get it but now I am starting to think that maybe he won't.
Is it really too much to ask that they make sure everyone gets a turn with the toy? If DS doesn't get it WIBU to feed back the impact it's had on him to be overlooked and to ask them to consider that while it may incentivise good behaviour it also tells pupils who don't get it that they are good enough? Or if they won't at least not to make such a big deal about it? I know not everyone will care, but DS cares a lot about this and has taken it really to heart and as a reflection on himself (despite lots of encouragement from us not to think like that).