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Argument over child's snack

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Alwayshungry88 · 28/06/2023 19:17

This sounds absolutely stupid writing it down but DH and I have just had a massive row over me giving our 8 year old a snack!

So today was our 8 year olds sports day, they also had an after school sports club so busy day.

Picked them up at 430 ish, came home and had some work to finish before dinner so gave them a biscuit (think plain digestive) worked for another hour then did dinner

Dh is on nights and dc had gone up to see them between snack and dinner. He had then had a massive go at me for giving dc a snack before dinner. Should point out that dc ate all of their dinner and dessert so its not like they didn't eat everything they should have!

The argument here also isn't they should have had something healthier, its that they shouldn't have had anything before dinner. Which I can see the point but not sure it's worth the huge argument we have just had about it which has now resulted in DH storming off to another room!

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Flowerblooms · 28/06/2023 19:21

Your dh is being ridiculous! I’m surprised your 8 year old was happy with 1 biscuit, mine would have wanted a larger snack at that age and still eaten their dinner.

Does your dh usually have a problem with food/snacks?

Needmorelego · 28/06/2023 19:21

Sounds like your husband could do with a biscuit - a bit of sugar might perk him up.
Just ignore him.
He will get over it.

TwilightSkies · 28/06/2023 19:25

Is he regularly like this?

IncompleteSenten · 28/06/2023 19:27

It's a single bloody biscuit.

He needs to get a grip.

Is this unusual behaviour for him or is he often ridiculous?

OhComeOnFFS · 28/06/2023 19:27

He's arguing that your 8 year old boy had a biscuit a couple of hours before dinner? He's just wanting an argument, OP. When does he think biscuits should be eaten? When did he last have a biscuit and what time of day was it?

SootspriteSearcher · 28/06/2023 19:29

If I didn't give mine a snack after school she would be so hangry it would be unbearable for all of us! I dont blame her either, they eat lunch at 12, then lots of learning so of course she's a bit peckish by 330/4. I also have a small snack after work before dinner.

When I tried cutting out the snack after school, dinner had to be ready to eat by 430 at the latest! Which isn't ideal as she then needed something later on before bed as she was hungry again.

GalileoHumpkins · 28/06/2023 19:32

(think plain digestive)

So literally a plain digestive? Your husband is being ridiculous.

gogomoto · 28/06/2023 19:32

On the face of it he is being unreasonable unless your dc is on a strict diet of some description

Wendysfriend · 28/06/2023 19:32

What an arse!! He must be reading mumsnet and getting wild ideas in his head about snacking.

It's only a biscuit, I wouldn't let him annoy you over this. Just laugh hysterically when he goes off ranting.

Sunnydaysaredefhere · 28/06/2023 19:33

Lunch would have been 12 ish. I biscuit until 5. 30 is terrible....

Ponoka7 · 28/06/2023 19:38

Why is there biscuits in, if no-one is allowed them? It would have been better for him to have a proper snack and no desert. As said it's a long time for a primary aged child to go between lunch and late dinner. Does he have food or control issues?

musixa · 28/06/2023 19:38

gave them a biscuit (think plain digestive)

Just curious as to why you aren't specifying the type of biscuit - is it a particularly outing biscuit?

notforonesecond · 28/06/2023 19:47

musixa · 28/06/2023 19:38

gave them a biscuit (think plain digestive)

Just curious as to why you aren't specifying the type of biscuit - is it a particularly outing biscuit?

🤣🤣🤣

daffodilandtulip · 28/06/2023 19:48

Looking forward to hearing from your DH when your DS is 13 Wink

EllaRaines · 28/06/2023 19:49

After school most children are ravenous. If they had an hour or so before their meal a snack is perfectly acceptable.

When mine were at senior school they wouldn't eat anything during the whole day as they said the school sinners were awful and they didn't want a packed lunch.

When they got in they were starving and would have happily ate the entire contents of a McVities biscuit factory so I brought tea time forward so they would have it more or less when they got home.

Then later in the evening they might fancy a snack but we're in a position to make a healthy choice if need be.

Your husband is wrong to deny a hungry child a snack.

RudsyFarmer · 28/06/2023 19:50

You might want to let him know that the huge argument over the biscuit did much more harm to the child than the biscuit.

BrutusMcDogface · 28/06/2023 19:50

musixa · 28/06/2023 19:38

gave them a biscuit (think plain digestive)

Just curious as to why you aren't specifying the type of biscuit - is it a particularly outing biscuit?

😂😂😂

BrutusMcDogface · 28/06/2023 19:51

He is being completely ridiculous. Does he have issues around food? My kids would happily eat dinner twice, once after school and then again a few hours later!

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 28/06/2023 19:57

Sounds like
Your DH needed a bloody biscuit. Does he often get hangry and unreasonably as sh*t?

GoodChat · 28/06/2023 19:57

musixa · 28/06/2023 19:38

gave them a biscuit (think plain digestive)

Just curious as to why you aren't specifying the type of biscuit - is it a particularly outing biscuit?

Spoiler alert: it was a plain digestive

randomuser2019 · 28/06/2023 19:59

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Ifulikepinacoladas · 28/06/2023 20:01

daffodilandtulip · 28/06/2023 19:48

Looking forward to hearing from your DH when your DS is 13 Wink

Was thinking the same...wait til he sees teenagers cook and eat noodles half an hour before dinner is ready!...and still eat dinner.
He definitely over reacted.

Littlethingsmeanalot · 28/06/2023 20:03

What he expects them to sit the hungry till dinner at 6.30 odds? Has he food issues?

Avondale89 · 28/06/2023 20:15

Bloody hell. Huge overreaction. The child had a single biscuit after sports day and sports club? I really fail to see why your husband was so put out. It seems weirdly controlling.

Dressydress · 28/06/2023 20:18

I hope your dh doesn't eat any snacks or any unhealthy snacks. All this will do is teach dc to hide eating food. And we all know that's a really bad idea for their mental health and health overall. I'm talking from experience as my mother did the same to me. I used to hide snacks to eat and still struggle to eat I front of people

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