To think my colleague is being U?

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Hello everyone,

For the past couple of week, my colleague and I have been working on a project and at the end of the project, we both have to write reports about our findings/conclusions etc. I have more experience than my colleague as she is new to the team. So- as this will be the first time my colleague has written the report, I checked it on her behalf but advised her to send it to one of the superiors to check it over.

This week, my colleague contacted the manager about something she needed to send in with the report. My manager then ccd me into the email and the rest of the team leads, asking my colleague whether she has sent her report to the team leads for checking. My colleague acted "dumbfounded' and said that she hadn't realised and sent the copy of the report to the team leaders. At that point, I emailed the manager and wrote that I had already told colleague to have her report checked by the superiors. When I sent the email (my colleague and my team leads were cc'd in). My colleague wrote me a private email and said that 'She had it checked by the superiors but wasn't to know that it had to checked by the team leads and that next time, could I have sent her en email privately without notifying the whole team leads and managers". I then told her that I did say her report needed to be checked by the superiors but admitted that I didn't specifically say that it had to be with the team leads. She then replied that she not offended but would rather I contacted her privately as opposed to including the team leads in her email.

AIBU to think that my colleague is being ridiculous as it was not my intention to make her look bad.

Reverse 🥱

You must be very insecure to do this

Even if this isn’t a reverse I have a feeling that the OP will say it is because it’s clear they are being very unreasonable

You were a bit of a snitch. There was no need to copy everyone in. Your colleague is new and probably has loads of new ways of working in her head, best to give them some support rather than making them look like a tit in front of the rest of the team.

TBH I’m not really following the difference between the team leads and the superiors and the managers so I’m going for a lie down.

I told her 👆🤓

Blimey, you threw her right into the bus lane during rush hour by the sound of it.

I then told her that I did say her report needed to be checked by the superiors but admitted that I didn't specifically say that it had to be with the team leads.

She's new to the team. This ^^ was your fuck up.

But it was your intention.

Better to be a liar with a reverse thread than the sort of person who would throw a colleague under the bus.

You told her the actual names of the people she needed approval from, she didn’t get their approval and then when asked why, claimed she didn’t know she had to get their approval.

She totally knew.

I think you were right to call her out on it, because she is the one who tried to make you look bad first.

At that point, I emailed the manager and wrote that I had already told colleague to have her report checked by the superiors. When I sent the email (my colleague and my team leads were cc'd in).

How did you word it? "Miss, miss, I already told her that".

Why, just why? You could have just stayed out of it. You'd given advice, it was up to your colleague what she did with it.

I'd be thinking of buying you a wooden spoon.

Thankfully I work with grown ups. Childish behaviour from both parties.

If this isn’t a reverse then I’d hate to work with you. You’re snide.

I think you were right to call her out on it, because she is the one who tried to make you look bad first

huh? How do you figure that? The situation didn’t have anything to do with OP!

You've absolutely fucked her there, fair play.

We have 4 categories here:

1. Op and her colleague
2. Managers
3. Superiors
4. Team Leads

It’s not clear whether 2. and 4. are one and the same.

It’s also not clear why the “Superiors” didn’t say “thanks for running this by me but you need to get it approved by the Team Leads”.

What IS clear is that you, OP, did not have to send an email to all and sundry saying how you had explained the process to your colleague and she still got it wrong. Especially as you have admitted that you gave her some names and none of these were the names of the Team Leads who actually had to review the report.

Reverses are really tedious. Why are you subjecting us to this.

If you gave her names then did she go to one of the names you gave her? And if that person was not a team lead then why did you give her an incorrect name?

Ps if your instructions had been unclear the only appropriate email that copied everyone in would be to say "apologies all, I think that my instructions were unclear and this has caused a miscommunication" to

Yabu

Your instructions were unclear and because your communication was poor you’ve made a new team member look bad.
I think she handled it a lot nicer than I would have. She’s probably worked with people like you before!

Was it your duty to even tell her to get it checked over? Would it have looked bad on you if you hadn't told her to get it checked by someone in authority?

If not, you are totally being unacceptable and are just trying to score points by throwing your colleague under the bus.

If it was your responsibility to tell her to get it checked, a private message to your manager explaining that you did, although didn't necessarily provide clear instruction, would've saved a lot of awkwardness.

I think you need to reflect a bit further on this.

Of course you were undermining her. Awful behaviour.

This. YABU.

Of course you don't copy in people when and if you are pointing out others mistakes or telling someone you said to do x y and z.

It's done privately and if you ever need evidence you did say something you already have it from previous emails.

YABU

This .

The world is full of people looking to undermine colleagues to make themselves look better . You're one of them .