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To think women aren’t really going to subscribe to only fans account

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Bitchesbelike · 26/06/2023 15:42

A male friend has an only fans account.

this just got me thinking: as a straight woman, I have practically no interest in looking at naked or half naked men. It just doesn’t do anything for me at all.

is this the case for most straight women? Is it really only gay men who as interested in looking at naked men.

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JazbayGrapes · 27/06/2023 09:12

Plenty of lonely and bored women out there. Maybe less lucrative market than gay men, but still.

Thesearmsofmine · 27/06/2023 09:13

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Stop asking women on the internet questions about what turns them on 🤢 your weird and constant question marks you out as some kind of creep

LivingDeadGirlUK · 27/06/2023 09:14

There is a guy on Youtube called Jon Holstead who set up an OF account to see how much he could make. He had around 60k youtube subs so not starting from scratch in terms of audience to tap into. He ended up in the top 3% and I was surprised, given this, how little he was making. Exact number escapes me but it was in the low thousands.

It makes the OF earning profile look a lot like MLM tbh.

WilkinsonM · 27/06/2023 09:14

Thesearmsofmine · 27/06/2023 09:13

Stop asking women on the internet questions about what turns them on 🤢 your weird and constant question marks you out as some kind of creep

Super weird! I've reported

Zwicky · 27/06/2023 09:15

I’m bisexual. Very definitely sexually attracted to men. A naked man strutting about/wanking himself off on OF would give me such cringe that any feeling of attraction would be crushed into dust. I find posing men fundamentally libido killing. I don’t watch porn of any description because it’s horrible but I don’t find a woman posing to look attractive a turn off in the way I do men - which I assume is something to do with female socialisation (mine and theirs) insomuch as it’s expected/socially normal for women to try to look sexually attractive. Some random arsehole furiously wanking to a camera to try to turn me on - I mean, really. You don’t have to be a lesbian to not find that concept utterly delightful.

WilkinsonM · 27/06/2023 09:15

LivingDeadGirlUK · 27/06/2023 09:14

There is a guy on Youtube called Jon Holstead who set up an OF account to see how much he could make. He had around 60k youtube subs so not starting from scratch in terms of audience to tap into. He ended up in the top 3% and I was surprised, given this, how little he was making. Exact number escapes me but it was in the low thousands.

It makes the OF earning profile look a lot like MLM tbh.

OF people are always claiming to be in the top whatever % and it's either lies or OF does some weird statistic gathering that somehow makes small creators appear really successful as a way to keep them hooked in...it's as much of a scam as anything online I think!

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:16

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:09

Well this thread took a turn! I'm bisexual and don't like looking at men's penises but do like looking at the rest (if it's attractive to me)

FWIW you only have to look at the high audience numbers for Magic Mike XXL or any other male strip show to see that plenty of women do like to look at naked men's bodies.

It's an interesting subject.

I there's a difference between going to watch strip shows and the use of visual porn/web cam porn at home though. For both sexes. The first is (particularly for women) a night out, a laugh, a bit of risque fun. The second is to actually get sexually aroused and get your rocks off. Mostly alone.

The sheer number of strip clubs aimed at men compared to women would suggest that the apatite for this particular sort of entertainment is not really equal between the sexes though.

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:17

WilkinsonM · 27/06/2023 09:11

Do you think most women in those audiences are actively sexually aroused? The way men usually are at a strip club? I doubt it. They are enjoying it visually and having a laugh but that's not the same thing.

Being as I have never been to either I can't comment on sexually aroused they are...

But that wasn't the question anyway. It was "Do straight women want to look at naked men?" Which the answer is "yes some do and actively go and cheer for them to get their willy out"

Thesearmsofmine · 27/06/2023 09:18

The thing with going to see male strippers is that is partly a social thing and a bit of fun. You don’t get women going alone or getting aroused by it. It’s very different to a lap dancing club with women.,

Bromptotoo · 27/06/2023 09:19

Hmmm,

I'd be surprised if women watching porn, under whatever brand it's sold, are simply looking at male bodies in the buff.

As a straight man wanting this stuff I'd expect to see some sort of action. It could be the guy and a woman having sex whether the wham, bam thank you Mam stuff that's typical or a couple depicting their more own more normal and nuanced love life.

AIUI there are parts of mainland Europe where 'girl next door' types are interviewed and eventually strip off. Do women find men doing that of interest?

On the odd occasion I've looked at this stuff since it migrated from magazines I've found normal couples far more interesting. Way too much young male fantasy stuff which seems far more aligned to her gobbling his penis than anything in my book.

As to Lesbians, while I'm sure some blokes are turned on by the 'kink' of it I I think others find it more arousing cos' there's actually some foreplay and gradual undressing rather than galloping to the genitals.

Menora · 27/06/2023 09:21

Yeah I have never been tempted to look at anyone on only fans. I like sex with men but I don’t have desire to look at naked photos of them

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:21

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:17

Being as I have never been to either I can't comment on sexually aroused they are...

But that wasn't the question anyway. It was "Do straight women want to look at naked men?" Which the answer is "yes some do and actively go and cheer for them to get their willy out"

But that wasn't the question anyway. It was "Do straight women want to look at naked men?"

In the context of 'Only fans' though, which is looking at porn alone at home. Something which men do A LOT!

jfshu · 27/06/2023 09:23

I'm surprised women would need to pay for it tbh, from what I've read of online dating dick pics seem par for the course....

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:27

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:16

It's an interesting subject.

I there's a difference between going to watch strip shows and the use of visual porn/web cam porn at home though. For both sexes. The first is (particularly for women) a night out, a laugh, a bit of risque fun. The second is to actually get sexually aroused and get your rocks off. Mostly alone.

The sheer number of strip clubs aimed at men compared to women would suggest that the apatite for this particular sort of entertainment is not really equal between the sexes though.

Or men are more vocal about watching porn and women feel more shame because societally it's still vastly unacceptable for women to enjoy porn and masturbaction? And male strip shows tour around whilst female ones don't (because that would be called sleazy)

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:29

Bare in mind OF doesn't mean he had to get it all out...
If he's fit enough he can probably attract a fair audience base by pulling on a pair of tight, white pants/black boxers and then posting pictures of him doing household chores...

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 27/06/2023 09:30

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:21

But that wasn't the question anyway. It was "Do straight women want to look at naked men?"

In the context of 'Only fans' though, which is looking at porn alone at home. Something which men do A LOT!

OF doesn't have to be naked

There's plenty out there posting exclusive foot pics for that subset

thecatsthecats · 27/06/2023 09:39

I think I read somewhere once that women want to empathise more with the woman who is enjoying having sex with a man than with just seeing the man - they can't empathise much with a solo man wanking, who is more likely to put them in kind of a sexual predator. So even gay sex is more stimulating than a man alone.

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:41

I dunno, i mean it could be societal pressures keeping women from openly enjoying the same predatory kind of entertainment that men do (ie: high st strip bars/strip clubs with private dances, prostitution, web cam girls ect) but personally i don't think so.

I'm trying to imagine a world where it's just as common for groups of women (and women in pairs or on their own) to behave the way men do, and enjoy the same thing as men do - and i just can't see it.

We're a different animal. IMO.
(although i know that's a contentious thing to say these days 😳)

Laiste · 27/06/2023 09:42

I mean it should go without saying that i'm talking generally. There are always exceptions to the norm obvs.

TheoTheopolis23 · 27/06/2023 09:44

I like looking at good looking, fit men semi naked and naked but there's a tonne of free images and videos online so why would I pay for it?

Likewise, a good-looking fit man with a nice dick who's wanking is a turn on for me; bug there are loads of "solo male" videos free online, so why would I pay for it?

I think a lot of OF subscribers like the personal, interactive nature of it ....where they might get a message back or request an image/video and get it.
I would not do that because I'd feel like a sad ass ... creepy and desperate, paying for interaction and paying for images/videos. I'm an alright looking woman and could get men on dating or hookup sites to do that (I've seen a few modelly/gym types on there) so again ..... Why would I pay? And I'd feel like a sad ass paying so I wouldn't.

gannett · 27/06/2023 09:50

thecatsthecats · 27/06/2023 09:39

I think I read somewhere once that women want to empathise more with the woman who is enjoying having sex with a man than with just seeing the man - they can't empathise much with a solo man wanking, who is more likely to put them in kind of a sexual predator. So even gay sex is more stimulating than a man alone.

Gay sex is a turn-on for a lot of women (look how common it is in the female-dominated world of slash fiction and erotic writing). It's definitely a bit of a thing for me.

I think more women are visually stimulated than is the received wisdom - I enjoy looking at men, fit male bodies, decent dicks. But in terms of the public performance of sexuality, it's encouraged in men (even when they don't actually want to do it) and discouraged in women (apart from as a "joke" like Chippendales or something - if a woman was actually aroused by that the environment is simply not geared around letting her express that).

And of course naked bodies and dick pics (and indeed men for casual sex) are everywhere for free so why would I pay for any of that? (Though given the prevalence of naked female bodies I also wonder why men would need to pay for porn, too.)

Usernamenotavailab · 27/06/2023 09:54

Apparently a lot of athletes now have only fans and make quite big sums.

have to say I only know of male ones- they don’t post anything sexual, pictures in swimming trunks/athletic shorts/Lycra etc that they would normally wear.

i would think it’s gay men subscribing, maybe some women fans?

ErmWhatever · 27/06/2023 09:56

If I wanted to watch porn I'd do what every other sane person does and watch it for free. Ime it's only men that are stupid and desperate enough to pay for this kind of thing so yanbu.

Tandora · 27/06/2023 09:58

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 26/06/2023 15:56

The only straight women I know who subscribe to OF follow and subscribe to women's accounts.

I wouldn't pay to look at a naked man at all, if I did ever wish to see a penis I would just have to ask literally anywhere online, men are very oddly proud of their little mushrooms and love sending photos.

The only straight women I know who subscribe to OF follow and subscribe to women's accounts

this is fascinating and reveals this isn’t about male vs female (hetero-) sexuality, but the gendered sexual objectification of women’s bodies, which just doesn’t happen the same way to men.

Bookworm20 · 27/06/2023 10:17

No, its not for me. Don't get me wrong, i'm very into my blokes body, but seeing a body of another naked man, however fit he was, just wouldn't interest me.

I think women are different to men in that respect. Men seem to be alot more visual and so can be turned on by looking at random naked women and thats often enough for them without actually knowing anything about her. I think women need alot more than that to be equally turned on. A combination of being physically attracted to the person but also being attracted to them AS a person, so way more factors go into it and the physical atrraction aspect is way further down the list than it is for men.

I have no interest in going to a male strip show, like magic mike or something. And friends who have been see it as more of a laugh, a bit of a cheeky giggle, but not a sexual turn on. I'm pretty sure men do not go to strip clubs for the same reason, its much more sexual for them. So I don't think those compare on an equal level.