Has anyone ever cut their nose off to spite their face?

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

A friend at work was telling me that me her and her sister were looking in a bridal shop in another country (not too far away but another language is spoken there alongside English) for ideas for Wedding/Bridesmaids dresses. Friend and sister were talking amongst themselves in English when one of the staff members made a disparaging comment about "the English" to her colleague in the other language. Turns out the sister speaks the other language fluently after living there for 20 years. She told the staff member that if they didn't want custom from 'the English' then it's their loss as they were planning on getting a certain wedding dress (around £1000) and kitting out eight bridesmaids at that shop, but fair enough. The rude staff members were falling over themselves to try and accommodate friend and her sister and we're immediately trying to apologise, but they just walked out and found another (much nicer) local shop.

Anyone else experience the instant karma/cutting nose off to spite face scenario?

Cutting her nose off to spite her face would have been leaving the shop after being insulted even if it was the only place she could get what she wanted.

But karma served and I'm sure a lesson for the shop assistant.

I did it in Homebase yesterday! Couldn't find an item I needed so asked an assistant. She was rude and dismissive and told me to look where I'd already looked. I then found the item somewhere else completely in the shop - but didn't buy it because the assistant was rude.

Now I need to go out and get it from somewhere later today!

I frequently do it, much to my own detriment, I really get on my own nerves sometimes.

Our local kebab shop do amazing chilli poppers, but in a box of six for £5.50/2 boxes for £10. Even six are too many for me

I asked if I could have half a box, they looked confused for a minute and said they only come in sixes .....(when you know they just take them out of a big frozen bag.)and asked if I wanted the box

I said oh well you've forever lost an order

Then she definitely isn't spiting her face.

When we were buying our current house we were covering it with funds from various savings and investments as well as a small mortgage. I'm explaining this because it wasn't as simple as one lot of mortgage money being transferred on the day. Some of the funds needed set periods of notice to withdraw [21 days or 29 days due example) and I then had to transfer them to our conveyancer in a second set of transactions. The estate agent sent me an email to say "everyone in the chain had agreed to exchange on 20 October". First I had heard of it and it didn't leave enough notice and I said so, pointing out that we were not only "in the chain" but the very top of it. I got a very snotty phone call reply saying well 20 October was good for everyone else and the vendor wasn't happy to wait longer. (She had probably promised them that date and didn't want to eat her words.) I said oh dear, that's impossible for us so we'll have to bow out. Good luck to them finding a replacement buyer by 30 October, goodbye. Then didn't answer any of her frenzied follow up calls until the next day when she was most apologetic and offered a range of November dates. I never confessed to my husband as he would have been furious that I risked losing the house as the vendor could have called our bluff, all for the sake of teaching the agent a lesson. THAT would have been cutting off my nose to spite my face!

To be even more pedantic, it isn't karma either, karma happens in a subsequent embodiment, as a consequence of behaviour in a previous one. Prahrabda is the the consequence of the lives you have lived previously coming into fruition in this life.

I cut my nose off to spite my face all the time. Usually by stomping off dramatically to bed because my husband has pissed me off, then being sad I can’t watch the downstairs tv with snacks like I wanted……

on a bigger level though, when I was 21 my ex and myself got an inheritance and put £20k in our joint account.

We decided to go travelling and asked to upgrade our account from a solo card to a switch card so we could use it abroad. The bank said we didn’t pass the credit check and they wouldn’t let us, despite us having £20k in savings and our mortgage with them and not wanting an over draft. So i deliberately closed the account and have sworn to never use Halifax again, even if they have the most convenient cash point or best saving rate. I’m sure they are gutted by my mini protest

It will be when she loses her job

Who is your partner?

Yep. This isn't an example of cutting off one's nose to spite one's face at all 😂

@Newusernamee We are clearly very similar people!

There are two shops that I point blank refuse to go into in our local town. Both are extremely convenient and sell items that, if I don't go into those shops, I have to go to completely different places to buy them or order online and hope for the best.

One in particular is a branch of a large chain. I really don't think my little single person protest does anything and I would have a much easier life if I just sucked it up. But I can't!

That's not what the expression means. If she'd had to walk away from the dream dress because of the attitude then yes, but she didn't.

Happened to us when we were trying to buy our son a watch for his 21st in London. The shop assistant was bitching about us in french. My daughter is fluent in French. So we left and emailed the shop later to complain giving her name.

Fab! We moved back home a couple of years ago and enjoying the beauty of it (but maybe not the lack of facilities and shops 😂)

Cutting your nose off to spite your face: falling out with Gusto over a missing box and poor service and telling them to close the account, then spending years with my nose up to the window with stubborn deep regret.

Yrs and yrs ago my DF went to a local bank who he had banked with since a child and asked for a loan. It was about £1000 which would have been a lot at the time. Flat refusal. The day after his mum went to the bank (had also banked with them for many years) and told them she wanted to withdraw all her money. When they found out the reason they were falling over themselves , 'if your son comes back in...sure we can work something....' not sure how sizeable her account was at the time but they really didn't want her to go! But she was 'if my sons business is not good enough, then neither is mine'. Obviously prob made little difference in the banks life but my gran said it felt bloody good!

My Aunty!! She’s famous for doing this and rather than saying “Cutting your nose off to spite your face” we say “Doing an Aunty Eddie!”

Back in 2018 we planned a Villa holiday to Spain for my Father’s siblings and invited Auntie E. We were paying for the villa and transfers; she just needed flights and insurance.

Anyhoo, Aunty E last held a passport in the 80s and it had long expired. I helped her do a new form, got it witnessed and posted it off for her, all she had to do was sign it.

The Passport Office called Aunty E in for an interview asking her to prove her identity (she has a driving licence and many others proofs) before they would issue a passport.

Despite me offering to drive her to the interview and take her in, she would not go! She thought her birth cert and 30 year old expired passport should be good enough, so she made her stand and refused to attend!

So all of us went and had a fabulous time!

My Dad died suddenly last September and we all day were so glad we did the large family break (last time he went abroad, due to Covid).

Aunty E still sulks about it now, but it was entirely her fault she missed out.

Now that I didn't know. Nice one 👍🏻

Me! Started a social media feud with the local cafe and now I can't/won't go in so no cakes and brownies for me!

Friend of mine had a Mirena coil for several years and loved it. Minimal periods. Then she found out it was overdue to be changed and she hadn’t been informed of this ( 100% not her responsibility to check this obviously). At the same time she went all conspiracy theory mad. She had the coil removed and went absolutely mad that the nhs was out to get her and refused a new one ( oh how the nurse must have sobbed 🙄).

Friend now has the most horrendous peri menopausal periods, floods and is anaemic. Her face is truly spited (is that a word?)

Yep, we told mother in law the children were not being Christened, she said “but they wont get any presents”. Yep that’s right they didn’t.

I refuse to use my favourite hairdresser, who is local and reasonably priced, since I found out she breeds French bulldogs...

I think that’s called having a moral compass?

ODFOD - 😂
Did you feel the need to knock me down because I kind of mentioned buying a country property with land? It didn't work. 😘