AIBU narky neighbour

[Tazmania77]

we have a long garden with 3 sets of neighbours, 2 out of 3 we get on well with !We have an 11 year old & an 18 year old so only the 11 year old “plays” in the garden these days but we have 2 lovely nephews who come over for family get together once or twice a month.neighbour at the end of our garden off to the side when we had the pool out 2 years ago(a framed 10ft pool as we have cats who have punctured 3 blow up ones!)Shouted at my mum who was caring for my child & 2 nephews about the noise they were making & that he’s fed up listening to them out in the pool till past 10 at night screaming & hollering (never been in it past 7.30 ever as bedtime is at 8!!)she was shocked & upset but as not her garden she left it,he later apologised to my husband about it but not to my mum. Cut 2 today,same nephews over,I was preparing something in the kitchen but could hear him shouting,he’d climbed up over top of fence & was shouting at my nephews.he made the younger one cry.I stormed out & saw red basically,I shouted at him back & did throw a few f bombs but didn’t swear at him just used the f in my shouting but I just shouted at him how f ing dare you shout at children, he carried on shouting back so I said it again,he threatened he would call the police as I swore!!(Also fyi he was gardening yesterday & had bleedin rod Stewart on full blast for 4 hours & I didn’t say anything “do you think I’m sexy?” Um no rod I don’t!! He then said(and this is my AIBU thank you if you’ve been patient and are still reading!!) “you’ve got such a big garden you could put your paddling pool anywhere why do you have to put it there?” It’s not that close to his garden but we put it there as we have a patch of grass that despite what we do never grows so it’s the most logical place to put it for us, & having it a couple of metres further away from him isn’t going to change much in terms of general kids playing & having fun noises But does he have a point, should we move it?! Also super angry with nephews dad & husband who just sat there watching me & him shouting at each other and didn’t intervene or anything!!They said after it was clear “I had it handled” and didn’t want to step in & steal my thunder!

Live near people, expect noise.

Shouting at children is not ok. Neighbour sounds unhinged.

You can put your pool wherever you like, it’s your garden.

Next time, pretend you haven’t heard him and ignore. That’ll get him even more worked up.

As for your husband, he’s right, you were handling it. Strong woman.

Yanbu!

He sounds like an idiot but if you can move it away from the fence then do, least then you’re showing willing but he’s being unreasonable

Thank you anewuser I think he’s unhinged clearly!! And I agree if he wants no nice children playing noises at a reasonable time on a weekend he should perhaps live on a farm but then he’d probably start shouting at the cows and sheep for baa’ing and moo’ing too loudly!! And you have a point about hubbie, maybe I shouldn’t be angry at him as I may have been more angry had he tried to intervene!

Next time he is out in the garden and rod, or whoever, is blasting out, shout at him about noise

it works both ways

Thank you x

tinkerbyebye my attitude yesterday even though I hate rod stewart was that it was his garden if he wants to listen to music he can do what he likes, had I know he would do this today I’d probably had told him to turn it down!

Thank you, unfortunately it’s half full of water and we have a hose pipe ban coming into force in the next few days so would feel irresponsible letting some of the water out to move it as it’s not easy to move when there is even a foot of water in, but for next year I will definitely consider moving it away from him further, not that that will alter how much noise can be heard (our fences are not soundproof!!)

I’d move the paddling pool and put up a massive bird feeder/table/anything to attract birds closer to his garden and hope they shit all over his garden (and his terrible taste in music).

I wouldn’t move it and I would continue to tell him to fuck right off if he dared to yell at children over the fence. What a twat

And it’s not Next to his fence at all, probably about 4 metres away at least if not more

Haha I like your thinking, and your agreement that his music taste is terrible!!

I shouldn’t have sworn though I will admit that as it took all the power out of my argument to him but when I see red I swear!! Poor nephews learnt a new word today!!

Your OP is really hard to read. Try paragraphs and sentences.

I gave up sorry.

I live next door to kids who screech and scream. Is that happening because if so he has a right to be annoyed. If it's low level kids playing then that's different. It gets very wearing listening to kids hollering at each other for hours on end, screaming at the top of their lungs. I've had to go into the spare room and scream and shout to myself because I'm so close to losing it with neighbours kids. I suspect this is maybe why he is playing his song choices as loud as he is, to perhaps prove a point.
Kids have the right to play of course but also need to learn consideration for others. Since February my neighbours have completely ruined my free time as the noise coming from their hollering kids has meant that even with all windows and doors closed I can still hear them and cannot focus on anything else. So I suspect there is 2 sides to his story. Everyone has the right to enjoy their garden including your neighbour.

Haha yeah I know it is a bit had to read, don’t post here just read others so was trying to make it shorter, guess didn’t work!

But that’s what I was saying, my 11 year old is only child who uses garden, nephews visit maybe once a month, then only been here an hour before he started shouting, before that my 11 year old was colouring at the outside table

Screaming children arent much fun to listen to for hours. If that's what happens I see his point.

Sing along badly. He will switch it off. And leave the pool.. New location won't lessen the noise.

As I said, An hour at most, and they were laughing not screaming, and only happens once a month if that in summer,

Thank you x but I’ll leave the singing !! No one needs to hear my singing!!!

It’s always the visitors that makes the noise.

Was that a genuine answer or sarcasm I can’t tell?!!xx

And how many metres away from your house is it?

Agree. Especially if those children don't even live there.