Feeling like parents are being lazy about birthday party

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I have 3 DDs, twins who are 3 and a 2 year old. All of their birthdays are the end of august. My twins started preschool in September and through the year we’ve been invited to maybe 8 parties, one more to go in July. My girls are now excited at the thought of their own party. I was thinking I’d book the church hall for the Saturday in between my kids birthdays and do one big joint party, invite nursery class and some of the kids from the playgroup I take my 2 year old to be about 30 kids all in.
I popped a message in the preschool WhatsApp to see how many were on holiday on that weekend etc. before actually doing it. Most of the kids from the preschool are moving up to reception together, so thought it would be a fun way to get them together too as it’s a week and a half before they start school.
A few parents have said they aren’t on holiday but as it’s at the end of the school holidays they’d probably forget or be too busy sorting everything for back to school to come. There’s also been ones who have said they will be on holiday which I expected and others have said they would come but it’s about 1/3 to each right now.
AIBU to gel like the parents saying they just wouldn’t come as it’s the end of the holiday and they’d forget are just being lazy? How hard can it be to put it into your calendar, it would literally be 1:30-3:30 in the church hall which is walking distance for most people as we live in a small town.
I feel so sad that if I can’t magic up more numbers (don’t have family near by or cousin so might have to extend it to neighbour kids and the kids the do dancing with) the girls won’t get a party just because they are end of summer babies? Would you take your kids to a party at the end of the summer?

DS has an early September birthday, so the times we organised a couple of whole class parties, we handed out invitations the first morning they all returned to school after the long summer break, making the date approx 3 weeks later.

It worked well and attendance was high.

One of my DC's birthday is mid August and we used to do parties in July.

I done my dd a party mid August sent everyone in her class invitation on last day off term, never had any rsvp replies and was expecting/hoping a couple atleast turn up, all but 1 child turned up to my surprise I really thought their would be about 10 turn up but no 25 did.

I would take my child to a party in school holidays, if we didn't have other plans, but a lot of parents wouldn't. It's tricky when your child's birthday falls outside of term time. A lot of parents I know hold the parties earlier or later, to minimise the issue you're facing. It's a bit rubbish, but what's more important? Having a big party with as many school friends there as possible (and therefore having it on a date that's not necessarily near the actual birthday), or having a smaller/family party on or close to their birthday?

Summer birthdays are tricky. I’d schedule it for the weekend after they go back to school tbh.

Mine are summer babies and we do the parties before schools break up as you just won't get people to come in the holidays. Either do it before July 21 (end of term here) or in September and do family stuff on the actual birthdays.

My eldest birthday is at the start of Easter holidays. We don't have a class party unless I do one a week earlier as people are often unsure of plans in the holidays. Same for my son who's birthday is slap bang in the middle of the summer holidays. Instead we do a family party with cousins and then do something fun eg. a trip to a new softplay or theme park, a few days away.

Yanbu.

I had no idea this was a thing, how crap! We've committed to 2 in July and 2 in August (for our ds4 at nursery - kids starting school September). The gifts are wrapped, we're bloody going lol.

The other way to look at it I guess is that at least you can do outside things. Mine are both January babies so we're stuck with inside, paid birthdays. No parties in the park for us :(

Better to do it first weekend of the new school year. Just say as some people will be away in august the party will be on x date, give details. Send them a reminder the week before and give your kids paper invites to hand out in school so that everybody remembers.

Do it for the first or second week back at school. My dd's birthday is at the start of the school holidays so we are having ours before school breaks up.

You need to move it into September. End of August just isn't going to be a good time to plan a party.

My DD's bday is at the end of Aug. I very quickly learnt that people just don't commit/aren't able to attend a party in August so I always hold her party just before school breaks up for the summer in July

It's not laziness. It's prioritising. Other people's dcs birthday parties are very low on the list of things to do. Most people won't want to commit to something like that only to find more appealing summer activities become available. Summer is precious and things pop up all the time. No one wants to forgo a last minute trip away or fun day out for someone's dcs party

It’s disappointing but it isn’t lazy to not want to attend a birthday party on a day you consider inconvenient.

My son has his birthday during a school holiday. I always hold any parties afterwards, when they’re back at school. Kids with August birthdays in his class tended simply never to hold a party at all.

Sadly, I think you need to get used to this, and plan the party for when they’re back in school. End August is a busy time.

Hardly ‘lazy’ just not a priority for other parents. You’re being rather precious OP, your children are so small, they won’t be concerned about who attends their party as long as they have fun.

Dts are late august we have always done parties before they break up or early September