Neighbours kids

[Lazym]

Hi, i know I'm going to get mixed comments on this but aibu for expecting a bit of peace on a Sunday morning until 10? Already, neighbours one side have been out moving cars about to clean, young daughter has been out on her bike and ringing the bell. The other side who are just selfish tossers anyway have had their small kids outside banging, screaming before 9am and our bedroom window, which is right by their garden, is open because of the heat, (still hear them even if the window was closed anyway). So aibu to expect them to keep it down a bit or is it just a case of "oh well we're up and awake so f* anyone else?" When my kids were younger, not long ago, I wouldn't dream of letting them out before a reasonable time.

9am isn't early.
However, I wouldn't allow my children(when young) to scream at ANY time.
Next doors children had high piercing shrieky laughs, I remember well.

I would say a reasonable time is more like 8am rather than 10. Almost half the day is over by then!

8am is reasonable in summer I think. Sorry.
I remember when dc were little and had been up since 5am, keeping them quiet and in the house until 8 seemed like a missive feat

Massive*, obvs

I think you're unreasonable to expect peace until 10am, especially if you're including moving and washing cars as examples of unacceptable noise.

I don't allow my daughter to scream/shriek in the garden at any time though.

We can't expect all kids to act the same. Maybe you can share your concerns with your neighbor.

I think 9 am if you’re lucky.

I think 8am is much too early. I wont let ours play out in the garden until about 9.30/10 and we do tell them not to shout/scream. Yes our children have a right to use their garden but I think our neighbours also have the right to be a bit of peace on Sunday morning!

I appreciate the comments, 10am is probably a stretch considering the weather. Car washer started at 7.45 and the other sides dog was yapping at 7 then kids start. Maybe the heats fried my brain. We're in a road where everyone else is quiet but we're just unfortunate enough to be sandwiched between the noisiest residents. And yes, I have been looking on Rightmove.👌

Yanbu.

No one should be making noise in the garden until at least 10.

Anything before that is selfish.

This is the point I'm trying to make, thank you🙂

Thank you, I knew that I'd get a mixed bag of opinions but not sure if I'm just a miserable old cow or not😊

I don’t get the people saying 8 is okay - on a Sunday morning?!!

It is basic common knowledge to be a considerate neighbour to not make any noise whatever the time of year, until after 10 on a Sunday morning.

Anything else is entitled and selfish

In the heat, I think somewhere between 8am/9am is fine.

There are certain things you cannot do in the heat of the day safely. And at this time of year kids have often been awake since 5-6am.

That said, we try and keep noise levels lower for as long as possible. DS(4) was up and about at 7am... So DH took him downstairs to make Lego in the dining room.

The dog is usually let out for 5 mins to have a pee between 7-8am. But she isn't very barky (one or two barks and that's it). In the extreme heat earlier this month she was taken for a walk soon after as it was too hot by 10am for her paws to go on pavement (not that it would have stopped her, which is why we have to be the responsible ones). We had some rain recently so the temperature isn't as extreme so she's going for a walk just after 10.

It is a hard balancing act, as you have to deal with safety considerations in the heat... And long days that mean early wake-up times. But then it never hurts to try and be as considerate as possible. I do think expecting quiet until 10am from playing/ car washing etc. is probably just wishful thinking! In the same way as me expecting the young lads next door to turn their music down around 8pm is not really going to happen.

I understand what you're saying, I feel for you with the music, so many people are just inconsiderate. Only comfort is we're detached from both!

Give over, 10 is ridiculous. It's not even ten now and Im outside, as would the kids be if they were younger. It's bright, it's hot and it's summer. Midday is going to be too hot to be doing work in, so it makes sense to get sweaty jobs like lawn mowing and car cleaning out the way now. It's that or 7pm when I'm sure people will complain that their kids are asleep and being woken up.

Honestly, people just don't like living near people. Our neighbours has their music on till gone 11 last night, garden party, and we are actually all we seperate here, they are three doors down but quite a distance so god knows how their direct neighbours felt, but I just put in ear plugs. We live near people. That's the crux of it. There is no right to lie in and expecting people to work around your schedule is unrealistic. Sympathies that it is irritating and I grant you, it can be. Rear neighbour has their grandkids kicking balls at our fence two three times a week, drives me mad. But I remind myself they'll be gone in an hour and try to to murder anyone in the interim.

Its summer ,its warm ,people are allowed to.be out and about in their own gardens if you don't like it move to.the middle of no.where 🙄

It is unreasonable to expect kids not to be outside playing before 10am, that is a big chunk of their day gone, and soon gets too hot, but not unreasonable to expect them to do so without screaming.

Why should they change their routine to suit you, any more than you should go to bed earlier so you'd be up earlier anyway?

I think there is an element of consideration which should be applied - mine was kept in until 9am (asking since 6am) when he was out but asked to keep things fairly quiet.

I don't think after 9 you have to be completely silent.. likewise I get up for work 3am Monday to Friday and know that in the summertime people will have barbecues and be out chatting enjoying their gardens until 10 or so, sometimes it wakes me, but we aren't rich enough to have no neighbours so life happens!

Part of living in town/suburbs I think.Our NDN are usually considerate ,but often dogs barking in distance ,people mowing /sawing .General noise really.I dont really care as always up at 6! very annoying .(Usually fall asleep mid aft) Dont have young DC any more either!

10 is half way through the morning.

You can't expect children to stay inside until then in this weather.

How noisy are their cars that them moving them caused an issue?

You're post is a bit contradictory, as in I'm supposed to be ok to listen to banging and screaming a few feet from my bedroom window on a Sunday morning but hearing a ball being kicked for an hour isn't ok with you? At least your annoyance stops, I have it on an off all week. Best of luck to you.

8 am is very inconsiderate.

I appreciate that not everyone is going to have the same opinions on this matter so I appreciate the comments that, while they don't agree with me, most haven't resorted to being rude. Yes, I'd love to move to the middle of nowhere, wouldn't a lot of us?

It's stewing hot so the best time to do things is early. Even my 'sleep until noon' teen was up at 8.30 eating toast in the garden.

I was redecorating at 6.30, and hanging washing out at 8.

I can't imagine wanting to stay in bed in this weather.