to suggest to dh that he doesn't partake in the bacon sandwiches that go round the office on a Friday morning

[clumsymum]

He's a bit (well rather) overweight.

He knows it, I know it. And he gets painful knees. And he knows that part of the problem is lugging his belly around.

He says he want's to lose a few pound before we go away (7 weeks).

I'm trying to cut down on his intake a bit at home, keep our meals healthy but without going for the miserable all out diet thing.

And today he had the office bacon sarnie, and then his packed lunch.
And because I rolled my eyes a bit and said it really wasn't a good idea to have done that, he's been all sulky over dinner with ds (although he didn't have a glass of wine, so thats a few calories saved).

But honestly ......?

he is not a child, he must know that what he eats affects his weight ! if he did not have breakfast, had the bacon roll, a healthy lunch and healthy dinner, what harm?

YANBU. You probably can't win. I want to lose some weight, too, and I'd be lying if I denied being a bit oversensitive if I've given in to temptation and my dh points it out to me.

Eating at breakfast is fine - it's what he has in the evening that will make the difference. I wouldn't be happy if my dh told me what to eat.

Agree with Lulu, but at the same time I would be secretly irritated with him about it.

You can lead a horse to water and all that. He's a grown man and he's probably huffy because he knows he shouldn't have had it anyway!

what as well as breakfast? yes that isn't brilliant but bacon sandwiches aren't really that bad, not like most junk foods. fried chicken shops for example, they'll kill you.

YABU.

One bacon sandwich a week does not break a diet healthy eating plan.

Whose idea is it to have wine whilst he's trying to lose weight?

But who can resist a bacon buttie when the whole office are partaking?!

I know I can not say no in my office.

He'll lose more weight if he eats breakfast, so he shouldn't skip that, but he could cut back a bit on lunch if the bacon sarnie is unavoidable.

Is he doing any exercise?

Ooooh, resisting bacon butties is hard

Could he take less in his packed lunch to make up?

Well Wendy, he could, but he doesn't. Having said that, He doesn't take a great deal for packed lunch, just a small bap (cob, breadcake, whatever it's called where you are) and some fruit. I have to watch what's in the fridge, if we have any corned beef he'll have that, and he does vere towards the cheese (which I buy for ds).
The office has a well stocked fruitbowl, but also a plentiful supply of choccie biccies, which I'm pretty sure he dips into now and then, although not half a packet at once like one of his colleagues (who is like a rail).

I'm partly cross because he lost some weight before Xmas, but has gently put a bit back since, and left it until last week to start thinking about losing it for the holiday.

He's supposed to be going swimming twice a week, but only bothered once last week, "didn't feel like it" on thursday.

I'm really trying to be supportive, honestly, but I can't do this for him.

Oh and unknownrebelbang, really I can't do without my occasional wine with dinner, if he won't forgo guzzling bacon butties.

It's not just about the bacon roll though is it?!

I'd be concerned if my dh was overweight to the point that his knees were hurting and would probably say something too.

I think YAB a bit U, but I understand why you are worried.

Gawd, I LOVE bacon sarnies

YABU

None of your business what someone else puts in their mouth. You can persuade, plead, cajole and beg, and it will make no difference, he will do it when he is ready. Nagging will make him miserable and being miserable will make him eat more crap. Suggest Weight Watchers. Men get a surprisingly high amount of points to eat daily, and it does work.

1 bacon sandwich a week is NOT going to wreck a healthy eating plan.

I can see very much why you are worried, you a you say, you can't do it for him,.

yabu
if it was once a day ok. but once a week.
he is a grown up. up to him.

What on earth has it got to do with you?
I know he is your DH but if he wants to lose weight he'll do it, if he wants to eat bacn sarnies and packets of biscuits then that's down to him.

"What on earth has it got to do with you?"

He is my HUSBAND, and I care about him and his welfare. I don't want his arthritic knees getting worse, I don't want him having high blood pressure, liver disease or any of the other illnesses which tend to affect people who are overweight as they get older.
Because I want him around for as long as possible, feeling healthy because that helps to make you feel more content with life.
Because I love him.

I'm frankly pretty at that question.

But it isn't down to you is it? It's his body, his choice.
If he wants to lose weight he'll do it his way and himself.
A bacon sarnie isn't going to change that.
All very well and good advising him what you think he should do.

i think you have evry right to be concerned my dad has to lose weight due to health problems but his doctor said to have a treat each week so you have something to look forward to

as long as eating well rest of time

so maybe as every one else having one this can be his treat bacon sandwich isnt as bad as full fry up so i think that it should be ok

my dad has bad heart and gp says that a treat once a week such as a bacon sarnie bags of crisp chocolate is ok as its in moderation

allow him to enjoy that and praise all other efforts and end of wek after doing so well he gets to join work mates in having bacon sarnie

that night do an extra healthy dinner to account for the treat

for someone such as my dad who loves his food gives him something to work for as its hard to lose all the things you enjoy so i think once a week is ok

good luck to him it really isnt that unhealthy just one sandwich

your doing well to support him just dont deny him the treat at end of week for doing so well

you'll find he'll do much better in between with something to look forward to

YANBU as you are just being caring. Although my DH is not overweight I do woout his diet as he says chicken makes him ill, doesnt like the bones in fish and thus tends to eat a lot of red meat/sausages. He starts off the week with good intentions, then calls home, asks what's for tea and if I say salmon for example am greeted with a pause and a pointed 'oh.....'has it got bones in it.

Cut him some slack on the bacon sarnie & suggest that if it's a regular Friday thing at his office, he should make that the day he takes in a big bag of fruit & just has that for lunch?

Life is short and bacon sandwiches are yuummy and probably even more yummy during the monotony of the working day.

I've just started doing bacon paninis in my Lean Mean. Woe betide anyone who got between me and one of them!!!

It's one bacon sarnie!

Not a fry-up!

Even when my dh was losing weight he still had the Friday morning fry-up with the guys at work!!

It is not an every day thing, as you say it's just a Friday morning.

I do know whyy you are concerned, but seriously, nagging him may make him dig his heels in even more. I would hate to be dictated to, even by my well meaning dh.

He will lose weight his way & hopefully one bacon sarnie a week won't hold the pounds back!