DD in shorts

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13yo DD's school has sports' week. As the weather is warm (SE England), she's been wearing shorts to school. This morning DH (her dad) had a go at her for wearing it 'all week' and how short they are- she has 2 pirs, so not been wearing same. I normally berate my DD for wearing her school skirt too short, but this time had to defend her. Yes, the cycling-style cotton shorts ride-up a bit, but I see every other young girl having the same 'problem'. DD had skort, but she hates it and I don't think it's good in this weather as it is synthetic.
AIBU to think it's not 100% ok, but there is no alternative and she can walk to school in 'short' shorts. The shorts come to maybe 1/3 of her thighs.

How is it creepy. My teens friends are wearing those style shorts iv linked with t shirts.

OP had already described the shorts as thigh length, can't help but think you posted short shorts for a reason

Well she’s had (what I assume) is her first taste of her clothes and body being policed and commented on, unfortunately it won’t be her last.

Without the f**, but kind of did that this morning

Oh, no, not those! They are way too short, especially, for school.

It seems to be the fashion. One of the teens in my life needs at least a size up though. Make sure they are the right size or they look awful.

If they are allowed under school uniform policy then I can’t see the issue. It’s just a pair of legs.

The 'offending' shorts Except, they have cotton in them. Can't find the exact ones she's got, but was bought in M&S and look very very similar

I have been browsing at M&S and found this: https://www.marksandspencer.com/cuffed-tapered-leg-joggers/p/clp22294376?intid=mobileappppdpshare

Those are absolutely fine

Personally think they arnt appropriate for school....

unless the school uniform specifically says no cycling shorts then I can’t see why they wouldn’t be appropriate

I agree, but no school round here would allow those as part of the uniform. Although the girls wear skirts that are so short that those shorts look like a better option.

Clearly the school thinks they are, so your views are hardly relevant.

There's a difference between something that looks awful and whether you should object/intervene when your DD or DS is wearing said awful clothing. I don't think they are shorts for intervening/objecting.

I think it's weird that you think you can define her skirt as too short but her dad cant.

FWIW I think it's her choice and you should leave her to it where that's concerned. School will soon raise any issues. Buy her more shorts.

Its notnprotecting hsindaughter, its conditioning her to conform to Male-imposed modesty standards.

If noone wore short shorts, then shorts would become the problem. If noone wore shorts, capris would become the problem etc. Across the world there are women conforming to male standards if modesty to be a "good girl".

The best way to protect his daughter is to speak his mind when leery mates comment on womens bodies and to actually be a womans advocate and not go along with banter and to stand up for his daughters right to wear what she wants and know her wirth and know that a man leering over her is the problem.

My ten year old is finishing up for the holidays this week and they have had no uniform for the past fortnight. All the girls are wearing cycling shorts I can't see the issue at all.

Nope dc friends (I have boys) - they are running shorts, nike branded.

Exactly! To Victorians, a glimpse of a woman's ankle was titillating. In the 1920s, short hair on a woman was seen as daring. It's not the item of clothing, it's the attitude to female bodies. OP, stand up for your daughter and tell your man to wise up.

Is your DH a Victorian?
He should not be commenting on her body and taking her confidence away.
I would be angry over this.