Not to be able to get past no wedding invitation

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A very good friend got married last year and kept the wedding small, mostly family. She didn't invite me (or another good friend of hers - and she was cross that friend was miffed not to be invited- WTF?) and I feel pretty let down by her. I thought I would get past it but it hurts.

We met at uni and spent years chatting, writing notes, letters, shopping and hanging around together. Through thick and thin we kept our friendship going even when I had DD and she was child free. She was my bridesmaid but she has two sisters so I didn't expect anything there. But no invitation at all seems cold. Husband is a bit snobbish and I feel he dislikes me I dropped them around a good bottle of champagne and card wishing them happiness etc, but we've had no contact since. Friendships wane of course but after 30 years' friendship I thought our friendship was more important. AIBU?

@HundredMilesAnHour Much the same happened to me....a male friend who both myself and husband had been very close to for a decade, got married to his much younger girlfriend...and not only were we not invited to the wedding (he'd been best man at ours a year previously) we didn't find out it had happened until 6 months later and his now wife was about to give birth! (weren't told about the pregnancy, either).

What really hurt though was finding out the his parent's next door neighbour (who friend didn't really know) was invited to the reception...sadly friendship has never really recovered. We get the odd text once or twice a year but haven't seen him now for years (not for want of trying).

I know no one is 'owed' an invitation to anything, but it does hurt when someone you thought you had a good relationship with not only excludes you but gives up on the friendship, as well.

MN users can sometimes tend to assume the very worst of people. My gift certainly wasn't passive aggressive, DF meant an awful lot to me and there was no "edge" in my card or communications. DF was appreciative and we texted a bit back and forth at that time. Neither of us has texted since then!

I get a strong feeling that her DH rules who is part of their social scene. On the occasions when I visited her (arranged) at home, he would put his head round the door to say hello and then pretend he couldn't join us because he felt ill: three times! DF even said a bit waspishly "you seemed perfectly fine earlier DH" when he said that the last time and there was a bit of an atmosphere, so I was in no rush for a return visit. Which is his goal I think.

Holding a grudge or stewing about the non invitation doesn't fit what I'm feeling, perhaps I didn't explain myself well. It's more that I am sad that I'm not a person she seems bothered to see anymore IYKWIM?

Good God, how can sending a bottle of champagne be passive aggressive??

I can understand anyone having a small wedding and by what the OP describes no-one was singled out to be not invited. What I think is of concern is if there is some controlling behaviour since by the husband.

DH and I got married with only parents there. I can't deal with fuss and attention so we didn't tell anyone. Literally anyone
A good friend took it badly and cut me off. This resulted in a lot of people missing from my life socially. It broke my heart and quite a few years later it still hurts like hell