Would this be really insensitive of me..

[Champagneponies]

I'm on a girl's night out, spent all afternoon dressing up and had makeup done. Very rare for me to get all done up etc and was very excited to share some snaps on sm....

Until, just now bf calls very sad as he has had news his friend has cancer. I spoke at length to him on the phone. He is working in another part of the country ATM so I can't go and see him.
It's not his best pal, but a long standing friend. I've never met the friend. I consoled him etc, and he said he'd call me again later.

Am I being unreasonable if I continue my night and post snaps on my Story with the girls? I am sad for my bf ofcourse, but I don't know the friend of his at all. I feel guilty being out and wanting to share pics while I'm dressed up... But part of me thinks live and let live!

Are you 12?

If not, go out and resist posting on social media.
Hey, it might even be more fun!

I hate all the snobbery around posting stuff on social media. If you look fabulous, you post away!

But… the fact that you asked for thoughts on this suggest that you feel tonight might not be the right time to do it. You know him best, so if necessary, leave it until another day.

But have a great night!!

Yes clearly he’s made it up

again, it's just a night out?!? Why can't he speak with his own GF?

I can't believe someone else is accusing the BF to use the cancer diagnosis to disrupt the OP'plans.

No one is telling the OP to go in mourning, or cancel her plans, just to be a little bit sensitive and not posts photos on social media?

I guarantee that a thread from a female posting about her BF abroad going on a night out and putting photos on SM would bring replies of "dump him"!

I hate all the snobbery around posting stuff on social media. If you look fabulous, you post away! 🙄

that's why we have photos of idiots taking selfies in cemeteries, funerals, hospitals, famous one in front of the grand-father's coffin. Auschwitz is always a good one too. But someone "felt fabulous", so that's ok.

We’ll have to agree to disagree 🙂

Is anyone really gonna be that arsed about your insta story?

This is your boyfriend’s friend- not yours. You can be a lovely supportive girlfriend who feels sad about the diagnosis, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be ‘normal’ when going out with your friends.
Compartmentalising is useful in these situations

Well, long-standing friend that she’s never met? Yeah - he could have done 🤷🏻‍♀️
Though I’m not actually suggesting he has.

I’m suggesting that you hang around MN long enough, you hear a lot about men who try to spoil their partner’s nights out.

Of course it’s still a small minority… but really, he couldn’t have waited?

I mean, if you getting some likes/follows TONIGHT is more important to you then potentially being insensitive to your DP, you probably need to rethink the relationship.

Can't you just post them another day?

Honestly I wouldn't go home. This isn't someone you know and your partner will have other people to talk to. I think he could have waited to tell you.

HHo out and enjoy yourself, take pics but don't post them on SM.

Not to mention those who took a photo of themselves "looking fabulous" on the edge of a cliff, just before they fell off!

I am quite happy to be called a snob. Social media has turned life into a performance.