To find this a major turn off

[Willow53]

Hi all,

Been with my husband 15 years. I have brought this up many a time, but the message doesn't seem to get through and am starting to wonder if it is me!

Basically, whenever my husband would like to have sex, he has to announce it earlier in the day. I find it horrendously unsexy, and basically it makes my vagina slam shut!

So his comments can vary from very unsubtle (how about you take your trousers off later) to more subtle (do you want to have an early night tonight and spend time together)

Whilst I understand that with 2 young children, the frequency of our sex could be a bit better, but I just wish he would wait until later and make a move rather than scheduling it into my day. Basically when he does this, it feels like another "chore" on my list, and I don't want to feel like that about being intimate with my husband.

So AIBU?

I hate when my DH says something similar during the day because then it's like it's booked in like a dentist appointment and I have to do it.
My heart actually sinks.
I like to be spontaneous and do it because I feel like doing it in the moment!

Nookie. No!

Ah, my bad. In my defence ive been up 3 nights on the bounce with a poorly kid!

op I hope you’re okay

No worries. Hope your kid is feeling better and you managed to get some sleep.