Couples & Night Out

[NCAIBUANON]

Posting on behalf of sibling - Try to keep it brief
Couple A going on holiday, special occasion invited Couple B different accommodation, same destination - all booked months ago.
Couple C always go to same destination will be there also, they always go at this time, plans to celebrate together.
Couple A introduced Couples B & C to each other for the first time, half of Couple D present (this person knows everyone, however their partner has not met Couple C) - within 48 hrs Couple B has organised a night out with couples C&D
Couple A then receive an invite saying night out organised for X date, however they can't go - work related.
Response - Well we have already juggled dates, so going ahead without Couple A.
Couple A are upset, feel excluded as not even considered until after plans made & only just introduced others.
Couple A are also concerned about holiday as Couple D (who are very volatile) have been looking at prices - Couple A has not discussed/invited Couple D
So are Couple A being unreasonable ? Anyone can organise anything & go to a holiday destination at any time
Or Couples B&D for organising night out & looking to book on holiday

@NCAIBUANON are you really, truly this bothered? None of it concerns you, why are you so invested?

And couple A didn't want to celebrate alone. They booked an overlapping holiday in exact same place C goes to every year (and no, I don't believe for one second they didn't know this) and then proceeded to invite along B. They then introduced everyone. And now they're dictating who's allowed to have a night out, when and with whom. As you said, B are staying in different accommodation. It's not like they've invited and paid for B to go away and celebrate with them, share accommodation and then B decided to invite D along without consulting A.

OMG, it's so ridiculous. Even just writing that out myself, I'm wondering what I'm doing with my life!

Couple A went ahead with the meeting of Couples B and C with only one half of couple D available - so surely they set the precedent for not including everyone? Why wasn't that postponed until both on Couple B could make it?

And Couple A invited themselves along to the place that Couple C always go (of all the places in the world why pick there?), and as per the first post, invited couple B along. And it's for a celebration, so firmly making it All About Them, so they've completely bulldozed couple C's holiday! The more I read, the more obvious it is that Couple A think they're very special and should be placed right at the centre of everything...

If you go on holiday together. You have to understand that different people want to do different things and not get arsy when others do something without you.

I think it means couple A are not as popular as they think they are in the group. The post suggests couple A see themselves as having a leadership role in the group, at its centre, the couple it revolves around. It's not uncommon in these situations for someone to make a power grab. Either because they want to be the centre themselves or want to shake off the leaders influence. Either way, couple As friends have gone rogue and they will either need to accept the new status quo or form another group to lead.

Couple A are clearly totally unreasonable for being "busy".
They organised something to do by themselves without checking whether the other three couples wanted to tag along? Outrageous.
FFS.