To ask why people call others out on here

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Or search back through their old, previous posts.

For example

Post says: my son’s behaviour is really difficult

Comments: well, on your thread three months ago you said you were leaving your husband so this is probably why

Even just calling people out if they recognise you have name changed. I have spotted this occasionally myself but I would never call it out, what’s the point and what would I hope to gain?

I noticed that! Or you get someone requoting you criticising your comments! When let’s face it we all just trying to help give some friendly advice and point of views! Yes completely agree with you seen this many times before.

Because they are the self appointed thread police with zero life and have to fill their sad little life somehow. Personally I just eat inappropriate food

I think it's very inappropriate. I name change and change details frequently when I post because I have been recognised on here. So I might change DS to DD, and so on.

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I think the problem at least in part is that as this is seen as one of the biggest forums for women it's target by trolls (more so than most) - so people have appointed themselves the troll police and search posters history.

Sometimes they have a point - when posters are constantly contradicting themselves and obviously just to work people up. But sometimes as you say someone will post about their partner and get a load of "you posted before and everyone said to leave, so you have your answer" as if it's that easy in real life!

It makes them feel big in their sad little lives .

The name change thing is usually OP has a post, everyone says the same thing but they don’t like that answer. They change name, post the exact same thing hoping for a different answer. So in that instance it’s best if someone highlights that they’ve changed names and any advice will be ignored because they aren’t what the OP wants to hear.

Because it’s annoying and dishonest when people start posts, trying to get everyone to be sympathetic, when they’re not telling the truth, or missing out a lot of relevant information which would affect the responses.

It's a really shitty thing to do and basically troll hunting. I don't understand why people don't just scroll on.

I advance search by username a lot. As per @JauntyJinty ‘s post, MN is just a hotbed of trolls. If someone has no posting history, or their posting history is only 24 hours old and all of it is starting threads in AIBU then I know I’m less likely to be wasting MN time when I flag up a possible troll.

And when people change things so far, its clear they are making stuff up

op posts - i'm a single parent, and my Ex doesnt pay any maintenance. and i have 37p in my bank

then on the next post - can you advise on any good places to stay around Disney Orlando

then they post on a TTC for the first time thread....

There's a thread on here today where, when I looked at it, the greatest number of posts were calling people out for NOT having looked at the OP's previous posts! On MN you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

@Quveas Surely they meant OP’s previous posts in that thread - not their entire posting history??

Yeah this.

I would only point out OPs previous posts if there is a relevant discrepancy e.g. posting they've got 50p to their name and don't know what to do if they posted yesterday that they're in Las Vegas living it up. Or there are a few posters who repeatedly ask the same thing because they didn't like the answers they got last time they asked, and I don't think it's right for other posters to reply in good faith and spend their time giving sincere advice or help to someone who's had similar before and ignored it then come back and asked again.

So personally I wouldn't do that to thread police or feel superior, but I also wouldn't want to post my relevant personal information in good faith to a poster who isn't being candid.

" calling out" seems to be really popular!

My favourite are the mental health gatekeepers. No one could possible have the experience they do, they’re diagnosed x y z and therefore you can’t say shit.

Some weird people about.

Depends.

There's a thread with someone shouting her gob off because people don't post the way she wants them to. Unpleasant bossy arses like that deserve to be called out.

People who peddle lies about vaccinations - two of those ongoing today. Deserve to be called out.

Another posted has changed her story to fit her own narrative since yesterday. Both things she's said can't both be true. Should people who tried in good faith to advise her just suck it up that she's lying?

And I don't get that trolls are OK but those who call them out aren't. Over the last month alone we've had people lying about sick children, lying about dead children. Call them out? Scum like that deserve it.

This, and also what @sparkleice said.

It isn't something I've got the time or inclination to do, but it has been really helpful sometimes on threads when people have been trying to help, when someone is helpful enough to point out none, or very little of what the poster has put, is true.

Because people are horrible;granted they are the minority who lie on here and frequently change their story but it's not fair to judge the majority on that.

If you saw my posts from 2018/19/very early 2020 you'd see my marriage was in an absolute shambles and unrevivable however Im still married now and happier than ever as being stuck in lockdown gave us the push we needed to actually appreciate each other's contributions to our family but they'd still be the odd arse who'd go through my old posts and make snap judgments on situations that have changed.

We're all only human.

If someone's bullshitting or deliberately leaving out relevant information to manipulate posters into giving a certain type of reply, I'm normally quite grateful for a heads up.

It normally means I roll my eyes and abandon thread.

If someone was sat there in a pub or at work or somewhere, spouting a pile of bollocks, would you not pull them up on it?

Sometimes you know the poster is talking utter shit 🤷🏻‍♀️

Much more enjoyable solution to life's ennui.

Context

As PP have said, you get some persistent posters, who don't like the replies they get, so repost changing some details to try and get the response they want. When that doesn't work, they do it again, and again.

It is annoying but also if MNers are warned, they can choose whether to take the time to reply or not.

It depends: there are scenarios on here when someone repeatedly posts (for example) about how bad their marriage is but with a slightly different "angle" each time but acting as if it's a new problem. For example they will post that their husband has thrown something at them and are told to leave and then a month later they will post something relatively innocuous like their husband has decided he won't eat meat and is demanding the OP immediately switch to vegan-only meals, without any context or background.

In a situation like this where someone is blatantly refusing to face an abusive or damaging marriage and asking about something really trivial its a bit like treating the audience as if they are stupid.

Or the poster (known to some of us) who is a self-confessed problem drinker and former substance abuser who no longer lives with one of her children and has lots of casual relationships with men and who posts really trivial questions about whether the light should be kept on overnight when her boyfriend stays over. It's insulting to our intelligence and time when people have taken previous posts very seriously.

There are certainly plenty of situations where someone is just being a gratuitous arse and kicking someone they don't like.

But I do think its incumbent on people, if they've had a lot of constructive criticism and emotional involvement from posters on a serious matter and then decided not to act on this, to at least front up to this in their post and not try to sweep it all under the carpet.