DP saying they wouldn't have done this

[Fruittwist12]

I took my DS to a trampoline park for a party on Friday. It was 2 hours. Checked him in made sure he was OK. I know the host of the party well and he was fine. They are 7 year olds. It wasn't busy in the place and they pretty much had the place to themselves. As the party took place over dinner Time, me and some of the other parents went a couple of doors door to have food until the party was over. The host had said drop off at this time pick up at this time.
Picked DS up he was great, had a fab time.
Saw my DP the next day and explain the evening etc. DP said oh well I wouldn't have done that and left DS alone. Made out it was bad parenting for me to have left DS.

AIBU to have left him to go a couple of doors door to eat?

My ex DP would have said things like this, however his children were incredibly shy at parties and disliked unfamiliar situations, he always had to be literally next to them the whole time. So to him it would have been really cruel because his DCs would have been so distressed. For most kids though it’s a non issue!

When he's doing the dreaded parties, he gets to handle it how he chooses. Until then, you'll do it your way. It doesn't have to big deal. Parents often parent thier kids differently 🤷‍♀️

@BPDprincess She says in another post she has had several judgemental comments over the years. So I don't think people are overreacting.

Your son was being supervised by another adult and you didn't just leave him. I think your partner should keep his nose out. Don't let him put you down.

What happens if next time your son is at a sleepover or a friend's house, does your partner expect you to sit outside the house all night?

Your partner does seem a bit of a control freak. Is he this judgemental with the mother of his own child?

You are missing the point, she asked on here for opinions and asking for an opinion and getting an answer is completely different than being judgemental about it and accusing someone of bad parenting, particularly when it's coming from someone who is supposed to love and support you.

Unless the host's parent was with you all in the restaurant, I'm struggling to see how this is an issue. DD was feeling a bit sensitive and I recently had to attend a trampoline party with her as she didn't want to be left. To be honest, it was embarrassing. If felt like that neurotic parent who couldn't let her child just get on with things. I did my best to fade into a corner with my phone!

I find that some men, usually ones who spend less time with their children, are weirdly quick to comment on the safety of their own or others' children. I see it with BIL who was constantly telling my children to be careful in the kitchen if I was cooking or grabbing them if they wandered more than 5 steps on a walk - but then he spends so little time with his own kid, he's clueless. A different BIL, who was less involved when DC were tiny as he was crazy at work and my sis ws on maternity leave was the same but it's been lovely to see how as she went back to work and they split things more evenly he's become more rational!

At age 7 and with the host putting drop off and pick up times on the invitations you acted perfectly reasonably - and you weren't the only parent to drop and run.
At my ds's 5th birthday at a farm I couldn't believe how many parents just left their 4/5 year old children. Ds had only started the school that year, dd3 was 4 months old and I didn't know most of the children ( his reception class). Ds has special needs and at that age couldn't really talk. I was so stressed!

This is perfectly normal behaviour unless the kids are preschoolers, your child requires extra care or will be upset if you leave, or the parents or venue request you stay. Be aware of your partner's totally unreasonable controlling behaviour over you and your son.

I do usually stay at parties with my DD (8) - nothing at all to do with worrying about her safety, but because when we've been the ones hosting a big party and everyone drops and runs, I've found it massively stressful being responsible for so many kids. You don't get to relax for a single second and the whole thing passes in a blur.

I really appreciate it when a few other parents stay to help out, so I try to do the same. But no, absolutely not necessary and you did nothing wrong.

Posted in wrong thread!

I utterly despair of women settling for these pricks, then exposing their children to them. When will it ever change?