I don't think this is a compliment.

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My partner and I have been together 27 years. Few ups and downs as with any relationship.
Anyway, today he went rock climbing and I asked him to pick me up a new climbing harness
No problem says he.
He came home later thos afternoon with said harness and I tried it on, fit perfectly.
I asked him how he managed to get the right size. (He's no good with sizes)
He said the woman there had asked him what my body shape was, he said, she's slim with child bearing hips!!! (We have 3 grown up children)
I am a tad miffed that that was the way he described my body shape. AIBU???
I was like, thanks.... not.
He seems to think he was kind amd that he was been nice.

Sorry I'm not buying it.

Belay Bunny, is that still a thing?

Post comes crashing down to reality 😄

OP it was factually correct and actually a sweet thing to say IMO, I mean, you also do have child bearing hips as you've had 3 kids 😁 and it's a nice thing to say overall. Unless he's weird about it other times, YABU! It's nice he got your harness.

Tbf, I've since been corrected that many brands do now have more specific sizing these days (seems to be mainly the sport climbing specific harnesses, which don't have adjustable leg loops).

But regardless - if he's buying a model of harness with more specific sizing, that makes it even less believable that he'd just guess without the OP trying it on, because shops typically exclude climbing gear bought in store from their returns policies. Most people wouldn't spend £50-100 on a non-returnable item without trying it on.

Yes - but less so I think. The term used to be used about (mostly) female 'hangers on', but climbing is much less male dominated these days (except winter and alpine, but I expect to see lots more women doing that in future too).

Absolutely can be.

It wasn't supposed to be a compliment was it?

It was a description of your body type.

Yes you are overreacting and looking to be offended in my opinion. You are slim with "womanly" hips. How offensive. Are you insecure about your body in general?

I thought I'd walked into UKC by mistake.

ThatFraggle · Yesterday 22:17
Childbearing hips is not a compliment

Obviously accurate, though. It’s not an insult, either.

He got you the harness you asked for. Bet he's wishing he never bothered now.

To be honest, 'how did you get the right size' seems like such a set up question anyway. Why didn't you just tell him the size you needed, if you're asking him to pick something up for you?

It wouldn't bother me that my partner described my body honestly, for safety gear that fits properly. I'm realistic about my body and it's shape.

My DH calls me fat bum as a term of endearment. 😁

It wasn't meant to be a compliment. It was a functional description to help get you something you wanted. And it worked.

Maybe he should have said 'she has the body of a 90s supermodel' and came back with a harness that didn't fit.

YABVU

I find this a bit odd. You wanted a new one so must have already had one. Didn't you say "I usually have S/M"? It sounds like you were fishing

What?! That doesn’t sound at all insulting. Why would child bearing hips not be a compliment? I have always thought of it as very complimentary, implying you have a nice shape. Your poor husband did a nice thing and tried to be nice about you and got you something you needed and you just complained about a nonissue?

Have you also posted this on a weightloss app forum? 🤔 if you have, might be worth name changing on here unless you don’t mind the loss of anonymity. If you haven’t, someone else has been told the same thing by their husband today 😂