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To think this money is DD's?

47 replies

RequiresUpdating · 18/06/2023 08:29

School fête yesterday, FIL bought tickets and gave them to DD who won a £100 voucher for the local supermarket in the raffle. DH asked DD what she was going to do with the money - buy FIL a gift and maybe a switch game.

DH says she should give me the money for the weekly shop as she doesn't need it.

Back story: DH is pissed off we have not much to spare since he bought an Apple Watch and a bike frame, so he can't immediately buy the rest of the bits to make up his bike. Also screen time fights.

I think the money is hers, and if she does give me the voucher, we should transfer the £100 to her account.

YABU - DD should have it over, she doesn't need it.
YANBU - money belongs to DD, she should keep it (either voucher, or cash value)

OP posts:
wildfirewonder · 18/06/2023 08:31

Your DH sounds pretty awful.

You are right to stand up for DD, and I think the small gift for Grandad is nice.

ImDuranDuran · 18/06/2023 08:32

Of course YANBU. Your DH sounds like an entitled twat.

I assume the bike frame and Apple Watch were bought for him?

GodisaBC · 18/06/2023 08:32

Jeez what a twat your dh is.
It’s hers.

TealSapphire · 18/06/2023 08:33

It's definitely your DD's.

The only exception may be if you were totally broke and needed it for groceries. If your DH just wants it to bolster your account so he can then spend on bike stuff then he's BU.

ImDuranDuran · 18/06/2023 08:33

And yes the gift for FIL is a lovely thought, she sounds wonderful. Of course she should get to enjoy the prize she won!

woodhill · 18/06/2023 08:35

It's your dds.Maybe put it in her savings so he can't have it and if she wants to buy something at a later date......

hattyhathat · 18/06/2023 08:36

Your DH is a right sort! As PP said if the family was in desperate need then yes I think it's going to have to go on the shopping and she can choose something nice or what she wants to eat. But you're not, he's just a greedy f who wants to get an apple watch for no decent reason. Maybe he should sell it and buy wheels for his bike or whatever and just get a normal watch if he wants to tell the time. He's awful wanting to snatch a child's joy like that. Did he even want kids?

Plasticplantpot · 18/06/2023 08:38

Ha! It’s hers. Can’t believe he left everyone short of food so he could buy himself a few expensive toys. That’s the real issue here. My FIL would have something to say if DH behaved like this.

Grumpigal · 18/06/2023 08:38

WTAF

of course it’s DDs.

He wants the money to go in the family pot because he’s overspent on an Apple Watch and a bike frame?

What a tosser. Tell him to get fucked, it’s none of his business.

Perhaps if there are some issues over screen time suggest DD can buy a new switch game on the condition there are no screen time arguments for two weeks first, to prove her ability to regulate.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/06/2023 08:39

He wants to take money from a child so he can have more money for himself to fritter away on himself and his tours? Nah.

He’s a prick

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 18/06/2023 08:40

Toys not tours

Tellmeimcrazy · 18/06/2023 08:41

Wow your husband is a dick

AtrociousCircumstance · 18/06/2023 08:44

So many threads where the H is a selfish and unpleasant waste of attachment.

Yes it’s your DDs. Tell arseface to sell his Apple bastard watch.

cheeseandketchupsandwich · 18/06/2023 08:44

Your DH is an ass.

Tell him to sell his watch and bike frame so he can buy the rest of the bits to make up his bike 😁

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 18/06/2023 08:46

Of course the money is hers. He's a prick to suggest otherwise. She sounds sweet saying she'll buy grandad a token gift. Screen time issue is completely seperate to this.

Iloveacurry · 18/06/2023 08:50

Well obviously he/you aren’t short of money if he can buy himself an Apple Watch and bike frame! Your DH is a knob.

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 18/06/2023 08:58

Your DH wants to steal your DDs money so that he can spend the money on himself. Nice.

FatCatBum · 18/06/2023 09:05

So your DH can piss the family money up the wall on things that are completely unnecessary, yet expects your DD to hand over her prize money? No chance, he is being an entitled dick to even suggest it

Chatterboxy · 18/06/2023 09:06

Definitely your daughters money, in fact I’d be taking her out shopping today, so she buy herself what she wants.
your husband is being a spoilt twat!

GoodChat · 18/06/2023 09:07

It's lovely that she wants to buy her GF a gift.
She, nor FIL, has to subsidise your husbands expensive habits. He's being an idiot.

TidyDancer · 18/06/2023 09:13

I would only take the money/voucher if we were in dire straits and struggling to pay for the food shop. But since DH can afford an Apple Watch and a new bike that's clearly not the case. So he is being unreasonable.

WaitingfortheTardis · 18/06/2023 09:17

What made him think he needed an Apple Watch etc? He sounds selfish. If he needs money he can send it back or sell it. Luckily your daughter doesn't seem to be like him.

AgentJohnson · 18/06/2023 09:21

Do you really need to canvass our opinions on wether your H is being an entitled twat? I doubt very much this is his first instance of being twat. Tell your H to jog on.

towriteyoumustlive · 18/06/2023 09:23

You know full well that your DH is being a self entitled twat here!

The money belongs to your daughter, but I'd leave it in the form of a supermarket voucher and tell her to enjoy spending it! Something for the FIL is a lovely idea!

ThankYouMama · 18/06/2023 09:23

YANBU

The money belongs to your daughter, there's no question...

Disgusting how some people here feel the need to insult your husband and call him disgusting names, they'll be telling you to leave him next.