To think this money is DD's?

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School fête yesterday, FIL bought tickets and gave them to DD who won a £100 voucher for the local supermarket in the raffle. DH asked DD what she was going to do with the money - buy FIL a gift and maybe a switch game.

DH says she should give me the money for the weekly shop as she doesn't need it.

Back story: DH is pissed off we have not much to spare since he bought an Apple Watch and a bike frame, so he can't immediately buy the rest of the bits to make up his bike. Also screen time fights.

I think the money is hers, and if she does give me the voucher, we should transfer the £100 to her account.

YABU - DD should have it over, she doesn't need it.
YANBU - money belongs to DD, she should keep it (either voucher, or cash value)

Have you confronted your DH about how selfish he is and how him spending all this money on himself is why money might be short? If so what was his defence?

What a dick! If he lived within his means and didn't squander money that could have been used for the groceries then you wouldn't be short!

When I read the first sentence, I thought you were going to say that somebody said the prize should go to FIL. But wow, I can’t believe your husband actually thinks he and you (I mean why is it your weekly shop?) should take it off her. It is nice that she is buying FIL a gift, what a lovely girl.

Selfish arse. Tell him to take back his Apple Watch and bike frame if he’s so worried about being able to afford food. Twat.

I would give her money, use gift card for shop. I'm thinking children don't have too much choice in a supermarket?

It's definitely hers, she won prize on a ticket gifted to her. I'm sure no one would be expecting anything if she didn't win.

Tell DH is he really going to steal winnings from a child?

His problem he was irresponsible with a financial decision. A child shouldn't sort out an adults poor choice.

I feel so sorry for your daughter having a twat like that for a father. And this isn't the first instance of his off the scale selfishness either, is it? Does he have any redeeming features?

DH is a selfish arse. Wanting to take money from his child to cover his own crappy hobbies. Men + cycling for some reason often seems to = selfish arsehole.

Hardly short of money if he could afford a Apple Watch and a new bike frame!
He's being selfish. Let her keep it. Maybe he could sell his watch to make up the money he needs.

It’s DDs, unless you have other children in which case I would share it between them, after the present for grandad.

It’s DD’s and credit to her that she wants to buy her grandfather a gift with some of it.

Your DH is awful. If you’re really short on grocery money he can sell some of his trinkets, can’t he?

Definitely DD 's

I am reminded of the time my dd won on the school raffle - completely ignored 1st prize of a lush meal out for 2 in favour of a chocolate rabbit 🤣 but it was her winning ticket her choice .

Whoa.. your husband need to keep his hands to himself. Poor kid should do whatever she wants to o with it with no influence from anyone

I'm concerned you need to ask.

Surely this is a wind up? Why would you even need to ask the question?

Since this was FIL gift to his granddaughter it is hers.

Tell DH to ask his father for his opinion on the matter...I don't think he will like his father's answer.

I’d have zero respect for a man who out his own hobbies ahead of the family shop! I hope he has some
redeeming qualities because he sounds like a twat. Of course it is your DD’s.

I'm thinking children don't have too much choice in a supermarket?

really? We have a massive Tesco and a massive Asda near me that sell absolute everything, including toys, gadget and video games

Why would it be yours?!

@RequiresUpdating without the tickets there would be no win.

Plus you are ment to put the children first

What a mean man. I couldn't be with someone who would think like that.

Did you say to Dh I know it’s a shame you can’t just put your children out to work these days to bring in some extra pennies so you can buy bike accessories, but that stopped being ok a good 50 years ago and would you shut up about getting new bike parts? I don’t hear you being sad there’s no money for me to have an Apple Watch and a new bike part so can you just take your me me me attitude and fuck off?