Keeping inheritance in the family

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If a parent tells a grown up child that will inherit all their parents money, that when the child themself die, the money has to stay in the family. Due to the child not being married to partner of 20+ years and also not having provided grandchildren. So any money must be left to 2nd, 3rd cousins etc that child has never met.
Is this a normal thing to say to your child.

There is absolutely no way he would take money away from our baby, he absolutely dotes on him.

My grandmother's father did this. Then he predeceased the stepmother, and when she died, all my greatgrandmother's jewelry and other family heirlooms went to the stepmother's children.

Your parents seem kind of horrible, but since you've "provided a grandchild" it seems moot.

Well, my daughter had some boyfriends who were bloody awful and I wouldn't have wanted them to inherit anything of mine. I suppose it's just the same thing really.

Don't take anything for granted. Get it all sorted out legally, and then it won't matter if feelings change (which they can). The only people who actually matter, ever, are your children. You need to protect their interests come what may.

My ex husband doted on our babies, but things didn't turn out the way we expected. Though I'd have dismissed anyone saying this when they were babies...

I am going to go against the grain here a bit

did your dad mean that if you tragically die before your parents they would
leave their wealth to their relatives rather than your boyfriend/partner? I think that is fair enough.

i also think if you are coming into a lot of money you should seek advice on your will.

there are lots of threads where the husband goes on the remarry have more kids and the wealth goes to the new wife in his will - then to her kids. Or split evenly amongst your child and your husbands new step children.

This was my ex mother in law's sentiment. Bloody bonkers.
Glad I'm shot of them all.

So what you’re saying is you want to police his free speech? You’re allowed to ‘think’ someone looks a sight in a dress, but he’s not allowed to say it?

Fwiw, my sister wasn’t married to her dp of 20 years. They had a teen child. DSis died suddenly and her DP got all her money, life insurance, pension. He paid off the mortgage, extended the house, spent very extravagantly then a year after she died, moved his new 20 years younger than him girlfriend in. They had another child and according to my nephew, he’s changed his will to leave her all his estate because she will need it for their child.

Just don't engage with those kinds of conversations op.

Family and money can be an ugly business. I am resigned to not inheriting from my wealthy Mother's estate.

I chose to have a life instead and the sort of happiness that money can't buy.

Because there's no need for him to be nasty. Like saying one of my friends "looks dead simple" in a nasty tone. Or what an ugly woman that was.
I guess you make nasty comments about people too.