For a little bit of context:
I am female (24 years old) and my ex, I’d say more of a situation-ship than an actual relationship is male ( 22 years old). We have known of each other for a good couple of years now however over the past year is when we became a lot more closer.
From the start red flags were waving high and mighty, but I was very very delusional and chose to put his looks over his personality believing that I’d win him around eventually. At first he made it clear that he did not want a relationship, but at the same time he would expect 100% loyalty and commitment. I did not mind this, just as long as I was receiving the complete same back.
That never happened, he would speak to multiple girls and when confronted he would never try to deny it really. He started to become very possessive, demanding that I tell him and show him where I was right there and then when he asked. If I was to say “ No “. He would then proceed to either ignore me hours or days or he would block me for months outright. He would constantly accuse me of being I loyal, accuse me of in being a relationship, he would name call me, calling me names such as a tramp, a bitch and a hoe ect…..
He has also been psychically abusive on a number of occasions, pinching and throwing items at me and pushing me ect…
for months he would tell me he did not want a relationship and how all girls are the same and that he doesn’t trust a soul. Communication with him would be me and him in contact for a few days or weeks and then it would end in me being blocked or ignored for days or even up to months. I have only met him now properly three time, I think the reason for this is because whenever he did leave, he would expect me to just have him back within in hours completely ignoring the fact that I had work commitments.
after the second time of meeting him he began telling me that he wants to now take things further and that he does want me and that he does love me. I stupidly played along and was telling him that I loved him back ect… I can’t remember exactly what happened but he ended up blocked me for around 2 months and during this time I ended up finding out that I was pregnant. I didn’t find out I was pregnant for a month and a half, by the time I found out i really did not know what to do. I spoke to a friend and she told me to speak to him because he deserves a right to know.
I managed to get into contact with him and I explained that I was pregnant, he told me that I was a liar and just ignored me. I booked in for a termination ( no judgment please) the day before the termination he reached out to me, telling me he wants a baby with me and to be a family. Almost begging me to let him come round to mine to talk things over properly. I told him no that I wasn’t meeting him at my house because he clearly only wants one thing which is sex. he denied this he said he wanted to talk so I told him to meet me somewhere like for a coffee. He laughed at this and started to give me abuse, I told him he can’t just keep coming back in every few months and expect me to just jump and do what he wants me to. He didn’t like the fact I was placing boundaries so once again I was blocked.
a few weeks later I was shopping in town with a male friend. My male friend was at the opposite side of the shop and I was at the front of the shop looking at a different department when I heard my name being shouted. I looked around and it was my ex situationship just smiling at me, I instantly felt sick and walked to my friend because I wanted to leave the shop there and then as I felt like I could not breath ( as I was walking away he was shouting “ you with a man yeah” . On the way leaving the shop my ex situationship came up to my friend and I and said to my friend “is this your girl yeah” he started effin and blinding, this caught the shop assistance attention who have came over to try and resolve the issue.
my friend did not really say much, however when he replied to my ex situationship my ex then proceeded to try to attack my friend however thankfully the shop assistant blocked his hand from hitting him. I was so embarrassed and I felt so awful for my friend for what had just happened. My friend seemed okay about the situation but I just felt so awful. A few days later he reached out again, I asked him why he felt the need to do what he had done. He didn’t say a word. He began asking for three days straight to come over to my house. Each time he asked I told him no, I told him if he’s so serious about us then why doesn’t he show me that and actually take me out on a date.
he laughed at that, he said he would never spend money on a girl and was expecting me to be the one to take him out. I told him that I am not giving him access to me unless he actually starts putting in the effort and actually taking me on dates he was asking me to just let him come round. I said no to him again and he said this is my last chance that I’ll never hear from him again and that we will be done for good. I told him that I do not care anymore, which I really don’t I’m past caring now. Since he blocked me the past 2 weeks I’ve been receiving friend requests from very new fake accounts, when I block the accounts by the next day a new one has added me. I received a message request on Facebook about 5 days ago. The account was freshly made, in the bio it said “famous for shooting seagulls (in my home town) & also love a good seagull butty”the profile picture was of an old man clearly or Google and in the cover photo was a line up of dead seagulls. The conversation went like this:
Them: Hi (my name) have u missed me
Me: who is this?
Them: sends me an image of someone walking a seagull on a dog lead.
Them: they took r barrys seagull
Me: oh right
they then either blocked me or deleted the Facebook account. The day later I was unblocked and received a message from them saying “he’s been suicidal since they took it”. I blocked this Facebook account but this keeps happening near enough daily now. It’s not always conversation this is the first time a fake account actually reached out to speak to me. Most the time it’s a friend request, what can I do to stop this from happening? Besides keep blocked each new account that try’s to contact me. It is starting to become quiet strange now to be honest, and if it isn’t him behind it I could not even fathom to think of who would even do something so sad and weird.
( instead of unblocking me of his social media he just makes new accounts and one day he’ll suddenly just appear in my people you may know or friend requests. He must have about 12 Facebook accounts. I have sat and blocked all of his Facebook accounts in his name, yet he’s made a new Facebook account this past month. The strange thing with this account is he’s just sat with 6 friends on this account. This is only weird because usually he would make a Facebook account and sit and add 100,s of girls and be following loads of girls however this isn’t the case. He’s been using the Facebook account because I see him sometimes comment on one of our mutual friends story’s or posts. I just find it all so strange.