To think DH could talk to me if I have nausea.

[Shortbreadwhite]

I’m feeling absolutely awful at 13 weeks pregnant. DH sits on his phone all evening and doesn’t say anything all evening. I asked if he was ok as he’s done this a lot lately and he said yes just not going to talk to you if you’re sick.

I said it would be quite nice to have a little distraction and maybe an offer of some water. He said he’s not a fucking mind reader.

I said ok, that’s made me feel a lot like you don’t care, if that’s how you feel just say. He shouted he does not care because he’s done nothing wrong.

I tried to diffuse it and apologised for being an inconvenience and that if he needs quiet time that’s ok with me. He said that it doesn’t cross his mind to chat or ask if I need anything.

Aibu to think Christ I’ve made a mistake having a baby with this man.

Wow. He sounds a delight. Good luck when the baby arrives!

You poor thing. I'm glad you told your mum.

Why did he want to wait until 20weeks? Is he in denial with it all?

Shortbreadwhite · Today 01:26
I will be so sad to say goodbye to this baby but I am questioning massively if the baby deserves a life like this.

His hate for women has become really intense lately, constantly saying things like all women are pathetic. It’s just weird”

That’s not your only choice, is it? Leave him.

I have left.

Im 30 we’ve been together since 18. He literally hates me from what he’s said in the last 24 hours.

His latest is that I shouldn’t have got with him at 18 if I didn’t like who he was. This is because he missed the gym for an ultrasound and I said the baby came first on that day.

Well done for leaving him. He sounds horrible.

Really well done for getting out. You made the right decision and I'm so glad your mum is being supportive.
You really don't need a man to bring up a baby, especially one like him.

Well done for leaving him. Now get him right out of your life, he is an abuser and abusers don't change. You needed a cuddle and some care not a selfish, horrid man child.

Well done for leaving him, stay strong.

Deciding to abort a baby that she previously wanted isn’t something that should be taken lightly.

It’s completely unnecessary to point this out. Abortion isn’t something that any woman takes lightly. But she’s entitled to make the choice herself.

Oh I’m so sorry. I’m glad you’re with your mum. Take some time to think. These are big decisions you’re facing. Do whatever is right for you, make sure you have the support you need for whichever decision you make. Good luck, 💕

Well done OP. That can't have been easy. Your story is just beginning.

Yep, you have.

Well done for leaving. I hope you’re ok

I think maybe there have been a number of red flags. The gym, the preventing you telling people, the blanking. Has he generally not been a nice man for a long time? Sometimes when we get together with someone young, we forgive things as teenage nonsense that is actually a massive character flaw.

Glad you've left.

Im sorry, it sounds like he really doesn't want this baby to me. Was baby planned?

You feeling nauseous is a reminder that you're pregnant, and so his anxiety has manifested in angry rants about women being weak. Going to the gym instead of the scan says it all really, people use the gym for stress relief.

You want him to feel caring and loving towards you while pregnant (rightly so) and he wants to bury his head in the sand and not even acknowledge that you're feeling sick. Didn't want other people to know about the pregnancy yet... It all points to him being really emotionally illiterate and struggling with the pregnancy, and instead of communicating his feelings he's just being awful to you instead.

He's being a dick. I hope your mum is looking after you.

Well done for getting away OP. Your mum sounds wonderful and I'm glad you're getting support x

Well done for leaving. I’m a man, and while neither gender is perfect he sounds like an absolute arsehole.

I think what they meant was that you don't have to be tied to this man for the next 18 years. Even if she leaves the fact is she will forever be trying to force him to pay child maintenance while he checks in and out of the child's life. He's clearly not into having a baby so he's hardly going to fo 50/50 childcare is he? So op would be doing all hard bits on her own.

I actually agree that if op wants out she should go for it. He sounds horrible.

Well done op, sorry just seen your update.