To want to go back to 1989 (lighthearted)

[Hellandhighwaters]

After a couple of glasses of wine tonight, I’m sat with one of my dds and my dh listening to 80s music channels. The lyrics of Neneh Cherry’s ‘Buffalo Stance’ (of all songs!) has suddenly take me back in time. I’m 16 years of age again, size 10, with bleach blonde hair. I smell of Anais Anais perfume, wearing cycling shorts and am enjoying kissing unsuitable boys in unsuitable nightclubs. This wave of nostalgia has suddenly made me feel really sad and very old. I’ve got two lovely dds and have been married for nearly 25 years, but what I wouldn’t give to go back to 1989, if only for one night. Aibu?!

I wouldn’t go back ( apart from the 80’s music!).
Just finished my degree, working in my first year as junior doc , being yelled at and demeaned was considered normal then. I was totally exhausted and overwhelmed and felt very lonely… it was awful.
Things did get better but I was a slow developer socially.
I had PTSD reading Adam Kay’s book!

I made a choice in 1989 that I regret. I’ll go back as well, OP, but only if I can know what I know now so I don’t mess it up again!

Myself and DP regularly do this. He hates that the world has moved on from the 80's and I think in his head that is still where we are lol Only 80's music on in his car and he watches programmes from the 80's on tv still too. It is good to be nostalgic though I think :)

It was a very happy year for me too. The music, the freedom and the fun. It's funny how you get old but in your head you're still 18. I suppose young people now love their own music and have plenty of fun, but I don't think sm has improved life for them at all. I do think the hair is better now!

I'd go back to 89 if I could. I had lots of friends at primary school, my grandparents were still alive and well and we lived a comfortable life.
I loved Jason Donovan, Kylie, the Russ Abbott show, lime green cycling shorts, my hot pink hair scrunches and my shell suit (😳)
I seem to remember that summer was spent running around the housing estate with my friends until dusk (age 6) and no one worried about us. It's a different story today, unfortunately.

Aww no not 1989! Bad memories for us. Bought our first flat, and we’re stuck in negative equity for 10 years.

1989 was, on reflection, the best year of all. Eternal Flame and Sealed With A Kiss.
I was wearing Transvision Vamp pink lippy and Christian Dior 5 denier tights and not a lot between the two. Getting off with someone who was gorgeous and who FB now shows me looks like Keith Allen and is a mad nutjob conspiracy theorist. Breitbart whacko. Hey ho.

in 1989 i was 23 and went to america with Camp America - never to be forgotten

dd is 23 and has today also done the same!

What a funny story! How lovely to have spent time in Provence. Thanks so much for sharing. I would have been tempted to say something in English and then left the room. Was she really beautiful?

I had a pair of expensive baseball boots in 1989 to try and emulate the style of the day, as I thought Neneh was just so amazing. Unfortunately my mum banned me from keeping them in house because I used to wear them out clubbing all the time (with no socks) and they did not smell the best!

1989 was truly a lovely year for me
I remember impulse body spray that smelt of freshly mown grass
No maccy Ds or fast food restaurants near us in a tiny village that had everything you needed. Now all the shops have been converted to houses . Everyone knew each other then and you genuinely would keep your doors unlocked as a stranger would be spotted immediately

The UK has gone downhill so badly since then, it's almost surreal.

I dread to think what it will be like in another thirty years...

I turned 20 in 1989, was at Uni deep into my first Great Love, playing sports, partying, loving my studies. I now realise it was a golden time and by contrast to my now 20 something kids we were SO INNOCENT in a very good way. Totally in a bubble.

Can I have 1985 please 🙏, I should have appreciated it far more, and made better decisions. Great time for teens!

I’d go back to 1989/90 as well - last year of college & then first term of uni. Great fun! Not sure I’d want to go there permanently but just to relive a bit of that time. My DCs are a similar age to that now & I want to say you’ve got to make the most of this time/age as it won’t come round again.

I graduated in 1989, having spent 3 fantastic years at poly. The summer of 89 after my finals was amazing - last truly carefree time of my life. And the music was fab - even my 18 yo agrees with that 😁

@NowZeusHasLainWithLeda 😆 at the ex-snog! It’s amazing how someone who thought was gorgeous from our past turns out to be a right nut job.

In 1989 I was 20 with a poodle perm which I thought made me look like Susanna Hoffs but was actually much more Brian May. I was a size 12 (in old money) with unfashionably wide hips/bum that made me think I was fat.
I had a job in a pub where the owner pressed against me behind the bar, dictated my skirt length (micro) on pain of sacking, and the customers slapped my bum when I was collecting glasses. My clothes were awful, my shoes had holes, and a new pair cost the same as a weeks rent (£30)
My DP and fabulous adult children weren't even in the world yet, and I had many years of heatbreak and hardship, bereavement, poverty and relationship breakdown to look forward to.
So, no, there's nothing for me in 1989. My time is now.

I hear you, OP. 1989 was 'my year' too. <sigh>

Me too please, I'd go back to 1989, the year I started 6th form as long as I remember what I know now! Wouldn't be so naive, trash my A levels and make lots of bad choices!

Someone I know went to Paris for her 40th birthday and as part of it her and her friends created a music video and that was to Buffalo Stance it looked fab and I thought what a great memento when you’re 80 and looking back at your 40 year old body and thinking “I was gorgeous then too”

I'm very excited to introduce you all to this overlooked gem.

Released a year ago celebrating the 80's with a specific reference to 1989.

Gosh yes I would, for the whole summer of '89 - the summer of goodbye school forever and hello acid house clubs!

It was definitely a watershed in terms of music. My May-June 89 tape (!!!) which coincided with snogging the now conspiracy theorist, has the theme from Prisoner Cell Block H, Jason Donovan, Gloria Estevan, Stevie Nicks and Rooms on Fire, I Drove All Night and other snogeroony classics.

Then suddenly later that year it all turned Madchester (which was where I was so very much caught up in it) and Happy Mondays etc.

I'd pick 1977, year of my A levels, when I could eat anything and still reliably fit into my 28/28 white Levi shorts

... but ...

only if I could keep the brain I currently have, that can see

• how my skin glowed even if I did get the odd spot
• how attractive my body was and that those horrible lechers had absolutely no power over me, I could tell them to get lost and not think for a second about it.
• how my mind was also pretty formidable, and that the world of technology would open up and embrace me. Having never excelled at school, my kind of problem solving rather than rote learning skills are perfect in technology, I'd have great career and pretty easy life.

So, long story shorter, now is on the whole pretty good really

2013-2014 for me please truly in love finally found that one person who got me and was planning our wedding I had lost a ton of weight finally felt confident had money to spend.

Could I then skip 2016 to 2022 that was a shit time of fertility problems but 2022 gave me my baby.