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Rushed from the toilet so somebody else can go..

110 replies

OneLooWhatToDo · 16/06/2023 18:26

NC for this as i can't believe i'm posting it. MN can verify that i'm not the poo troll. I've been here years. Penis beaker etc. First world problems i know but i am mildly irritated about this...

I have family here for tea.

My flat has one toilet, which i was using to do my business.

No sooner have I sat down the door handle starts rattling with somebody trying to get in, I call out "I'm in here, won't be long"

A minute or so later (literally) a voice calls through the door "OneLoo, how long are you going to be? X needs to use the toilet"

FFS. I hadn't been in there any longer than 3 minutes at this point.

I'm not finished but abort mission as being badgered and rushed is making things take even longer and now i'm pissed off to boot.

I come out and somebody else goes in to do the very thing i was trying to do myself and sits in there for 10+ minutes.

AIBU to think this was really bloody rude and bad mannered?

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DemonicCaveMaggot · 16/06/2023 19:14

YANBU.

At work I once had the receptionist rush into the ladies' room when I was in the toilet 'Maggot there's a rep. from X company who needs to talk to you on the phone'. I guess I was supposed to run out with my knickers around my ankles and take the call. I politely asked her to take a message. I hope she didn't say the US equivalent of 'Maggot's in the bog what do you want?' but I suspect she did.

User1438423 · 16/06/2023 19:16

I don't know, nobody would check on someone else's behalf if the other person wasn't seriously desperate. I don't think anyone goes for a dump in someone else's house unless they are truly desperate either.

Azaeleasinbloom · 16/06/2023 19:16

Oh I have been there OP.

Holiday cottage with DH and MIL. One WC. DH likes leisurely ablutions, shave, shower and all the rest - 30 mins plus. MIL had bowel issues, a bit excited about her holiday. I barely get in there and she’s rattling the door .
Suggestion was I use the room with the door unlocked to facilitate her needs.
Well screw that.
We never went on holiday together again….

Long way to say, I feel your discomfort. People can be so rude.

Deathraystare · 16/06/2023 19:17

I was trying to do a number 2 at work. Had tried at home but nope. So of course in the middle of trying to go someone pounds on the door. I tell them it is occupied. They get someone from the domestic team (I hear them chatting outside (Great! that will make me go!) The pounding starts again. I yell "Leave me alone I am having a poo! " Still did not manage to go properly!

TheOccupier · 16/06/2023 19:24

Someone did this to me very aggressively in a pub loo once. I shouted at them to fuck off, finished doing what I'd gone in there for, then climbed out of the window leaving them banging on a locked door with no answer for quite some time.

nopuppiesallowed · 16/06/2023 19:27

Before I was diagnosed with serious IBS problems, I might well have been the one pounding on the door.....Seriously, some gut problems mean no warning and no control.

5128gap · 16/06/2023 19:29

This might just be me, but I can't imagine breaking off from tea with guests to go in the first place. If you can wait at will I'd have waited till they'd gone!

PuffinsRocks · 16/06/2023 19:32

When I lived in America I was horrified that it's really common on the East Coast for women to just bang on the door when you're in the loo. Like, come on, it's not locked because I was looking for the tills and got lost! I recommend ignoring anyone who bangs on a toilet door. Literally don't engage. They're too rude and stupid to be given the time of day.

Bahhhhhumbug · 16/06/2023 19:32

God l hate this, was in the ladies in a cafe recently when a woman came in and rattled my door. Thirty seconds later rattled it again and then again. Shouted there was somebody in both times and the door had an engaged sign on the lock. Was definitely same woman as only heard outside door creak open once and could her sighing outside my cubicle.
Annoyed me so much I ended up saying ' Yes l'm still in here l've not climbed out the bloody window '

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:33

Sorry why did you need to be in the loo for more than 3 mins?

You go when you need to go, you sit, it comes out, voila. If you are having to push/force it and its taking several minutes you a) are doing it wrong b) probably are not eating enough fibre & drinking enough water.

Quiverer · 16/06/2023 19:35

Tell them to go before they leave their house, next time.

Freefall212 · 16/06/2023 19:36

I don't think you can always know when other people have urgency.

It could have been more than just impatience.

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OneLooWhatToDo · 16/06/2023 19:37

nopuppiesallowed · 16/06/2023 19:27

Before I was diagnosed with serious IBS problems, I might well have been the one pounding on the door.....Seriously, some gut problems mean no warning and no control.

I'm sorry, that must be awful to live with.

Serious question though and not intended to sound sarcastic but if somebody is sitting on that toilet doing their business what exactly do you suppose they do? Crap themselves? Go in the bath?

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TitoMojito · 16/06/2023 19:37

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:33

Sorry why did you need to be in the loo for more than 3 mins?

You go when you need to go, you sit, it comes out, voila. If you are having to push/force it and its taking several minutes you a) are doing it wrong b) probably are not eating enough fibre & drinking enough water.

Is this really what we've come to? Judging people on how long it takes them to have a poo?!

ejbaxa · 16/06/2023 19:37

Next time call out: I'm shitting and you're making my shit disappear back up my bum

MrsVeryTired · 16/06/2023 19:38

Hmm not sure, I have urge incontinence so when I need to go I need to go (or I will wet myself) not many people know that about me. Although if I had to rush someone out of a loo I would explain that (but I am quite open/not shy so some people might not explain).

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:40

For context, op, the average mammal, including humans, takes 12 seconds to poo.

If you are genuinely regularly having to sit there for a few minutes, really re-examine your diet, increase fibre & water.

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OneLooWhatToDo · 16/06/2023 19:41

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:33

Sorry why did you need to be in the loo for more than 3 mins?

You go when you need to go, you sit, it comes out, voila. If you are having to push/force it and its taking several minutes you a) are doing it wrong b) probably are not eating enough fibre & drinking enough water.

Does it really need explaining that not everybody's bowel movements are the same?

Somebody mentioned IBS up thread but have you ever heard of pelvic organ prolapse? It doesn't just "come out" for everybody.. Even if you are desperate to go😐

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macchampagne · 16/06/2023 19:42

YABU - for taking so long on the toilet. Why don’t people eat more fibre!

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:42

Titomojito

A lot of men in particular a) hog bathrooms and b) avoid family responsibilities by sitting in the loo for ages.

This is a known phenomen. Its poor form when you are in a house with only 1 toilet. I really can't stand people who think they are entitled to hog a lavatory for 15 minutes because they can't be bothered to eat a healthy diet.

Original poster
OneLooWhatToDo · 16/06/2023 19:43

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:40

For context, op, the average mammal, including humans, takes 12 seconds to poo.

If you are genuinely regularly having to sit there for a few minutes, really re-examine your diet, increase fibre & water.

Vaginally birth 3 large human beings, have them rearrange your organs in the process and then come back and tell me about 12 seconds 😂

God i'm revealing alot. Thank fuck for name changes.

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ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:44

Oneloowhattodo

Yep got prolapse myself. if you have that its even more essential you eat plenty of fibre and reduce straining/prolonged periods sitting trying to poo!!

JaninaDuszejko · 16/06/2023 19:45

This really annoys me. DH grew up in a house with one bathroom and thinks it's perfectly fine to knock on the door when he needs the loo even though we have never lived together in a house with only one bathroom. His father was the same. Drives me insane. I refuse to budge and just yell out 'there are three bathrooms in this house'.

And for those who are wondering why going to the loo isn't done in seconds I have just two words: 'period poo'.

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OneLooWhatToDo · 16/06/2023 19:45

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:44

Oneloowhattodo

Yep got prolapse myself. if you have that its even more essential you eat plenty of fibre and reduce straining/prolonged periods sitting trying to poo!!

I do eat plenty of fibre! I can't believe somebody claiming to have the same medical condition is being this ignorant. Christ alive.

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TitoMojito · 16/06/2023 19:48

ContinuousProcrastination · 16/06/2023 19:42

Titomojito

A lot of men in particular a) hog bathrooms and b) avoid family responsibilities by sitting in the loo for ages.

This is a known phenomen. Its poor form when you are in a house with only 1 toilet. I really can't stand people who think they are entitled to hog a lavatory for 15 minutes because they can't be bothered to eat a healthy diet.

But this isn't about a man shirking responsibility by hiding in the bathroom. It's about a woman just trying to go to the loo in her own home.

I have a variety of gastro related health issues. Sometimes I'm in and out of the bathroom in seconds - sometimes I'm really really not. It doesn't actually matter.