WWYD - Excluded from birthday party

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I socialise with a group of women in a sport I do, we're on the same team. We don't actually get to play often but we all get along. I really like them all and thought it was mutual and we do get together socially from time to time.

I found out one of them is having a big birthday in a few weeks and going to a concert in a nearby city to celebrate. I also happen to have tickets to the concert, which sold out some time ago. I have found out that the rest of the team were invited to go along together for her birthday. I was not invited. Some of the team now know I'm going along too.

What do I do? Hope I don't see them? Ignore them? Make a point of saying hi? It all feels very awkward. They're not super close friends, but clearly I'm not in the inner circle. The venue isn't huge so there's a high chance I'll bump into them.

Don't give it a second thought. Just imagine they're old wrinkly women, who you wouldn't want to go with. If you see them, smile and say hello then go off. The birthday girl should feel embarrassed.

Ignore it and enjoy the concert with your partner. If you see them smile, wave and move along. This is their problem, not yours.

I don’t get the drama. You say yourself you’re not particularly close with these people, just that you sometimes socialise with them, that it wasn’t organised by anyone on the team, but someone else who doesn’t much like you, AND that you couldn’t have met them beforehand or gone to the gig with them anyway, as you were already going with your partner.

Just be normal if you see them. It’s not some kind of axe-blow to the roots of your identity or anything. If you genuinely like some or all of these people annd would like to be closer to them, initiate something yourself, have them over to your house for a BBQ or something? If you’re happy with casual socialising, keep going as you are.

What

There are some absolutely demented responses here, especially this and the ‘coven of bitches’.

@Beautiful3, as the OP nowhere mentions her age, or the ages of her teammates, it’s perfectly possible they’re in their 70s, have wrinkles, and don’t regard these as any reason not to be seen in public, whether playing a sport or at a concert.

Absolutely excellent suggestion, who would want to be seen in public with a bunch of old biddies 🙄

Blimey, some people on here are just un peu bizarre. Oh well, what ever gets you through.

You just go and if you see them say hi and get on with enjoying your evening. I recognise it’s hurtful if you thought you were closer to them but now you know. Concentrate on the friends you have.

I would just say hi if you see them but make a point of not spending time with them as youre with your partner and you bought the tickets months ago and both been looking forward to coming and spending a nice time together at the concert.