Hi,
NC for this, just really wanted a rant, abit of advice on this issue and some views from others to see if I've overreacted. Ive had no issues like this with DP before and I'm very confused why in the run up to us doing something nice that he's decided to act like this.
Ive been with DP for 1.5 years. We have a holiday booked for Saturday. I paid for the holiday- hotel, trains, attractions etc. We both work but have had to budget abit this month for the holiday expenses on top of bills etc and both have had time off since monday to obviously get organised for going away. We have a family member staying in the house whilst we are away, so also incorporate housework into the week too so it looks presentable for the person to stay over.
The issue is DP has really pissed me off this week. Here's just some of them for reference...
•Since Monday he's gone out for hours and left me to pick up the slack (washing,housework, sorting everything out, packing, etc), hes mainly been at his mums "sunbathing" and clearly drinking.
•DP was expecting some money to come through this morning (not a great amount, around £300 but would of helped to relieve full expenses from me next week) went out this mums at 8am and was supposed to be an hour. I popped out at 1.30pm and came back at 3.45 to £12 on the table, with a note saying it was for a takeaway tonight for me as he was away out, bags of cloths from his mums which I'm assuming is the holiday stuff he wants to pack and his bank card gone...
•We also had about £50 in change put away which was to cover us for any last minute bits and pieces to pick up for the holiday if needed and for a takeaway tomorrow to save on dishes, I went for it today and noticed there £10 left. He wasn't in when I discovered this so I just put the remainder in my purse and popped to my mums for something. When I came back and after noticing the above point I checked my purse which was on the table to see the £10 and whatever loose change I had was gone.
He popped home about 30 minutes ago as he had forgot his charger, picked it up and was about to leave, he was already clearly drunk. I just saw red and had a rant at him about how selfish he is and asked why he's left me to do everything and pay for everything whilst he's passing his money up the wall, not to mention stealing and using my money and whatever was left aside for last minute expenses. His response was that I'm just pissed off that he had a couple of beers, it will only take him 5 minutes to pack his stuff and there's all day tomorrow to get everything done and the house in order. Apparently I'm unreasonable and out of order. He's now stormed out saying if I don't collect him tonight then he will either be back tomorrow morning and if im still like this, he probably won't be coming on holiday at all then.