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Girlfriend invited friend to meet us on our romantic trip away?

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radsclosed · 15/06/2023 10:17

Been playing this for ages
Me and my GF (both female ) are going away for a couple of nights to London for a romantic trip away.
We are currently en route and she has just told me tonight a friend she hasn't seen for a while Is meeting us for a drink (this friend doesn't just have a couple -she will want to get legless)
So tomorrow my GF will feel like crap (as she will join in )
I've been so excited for us time and now this friend will be with us.
I wanted to see the sights and play it by ear
I've been told she's getting a train and we are meeting her at 4pm
So it's a case of quickly getting to hotel and dumping bags and leaving.

Im honestly so annoyed
Aibu ?

OP posts:
mummymeister · 15/06/2023 16:14

your girlfriend doesnt have to get legless though does she. thats a choice that she makes. she could stick to soft or alcohol free and explain to the friend that she wants to make the most of the London trip so wont get bladdered. she isnt going to make her friend change her plans. you arent going to make a fuss so this is really the best and only compromise isnt it.

MMMarmite · 15/06/2023 16:39

Maddy70 · 15/06/2023 15:53

If I was going to a town where a friend lives I would definitely invite them to join us for a drink it would be weird not to

i agree, I'm surprised by the vehemence of the responses here! Yes the partner would have done better to mention it to OP first, but its hardly a sign of a terrible partner!

Toddlerteaplease · 15/06/2023 16:43

It's not ideal. But I don't really see the problem. Meet her for a drink then go and do your own thing. As a PP said. Have a booking for dinner for later on.

Gothambutnotahamster · 15/06/2023 16:43

PriOn1 · 15/06/2023 12:51

Presumably she didn’t mention it because she knew there was a good chance OP wouldn’t be happy with the arrangement. Telling when it’s “too late to cancel” is a classic controlling first move.

OP, I think this is one of those times when you put your relationship to the test and say no. Your girlfriend has been very unreasonable and this is a good time to make it clear that this is unacceptable and you won’t be messed around.

I agree with this. It's pretty crap behaviour by your GF.

Maddy70 · 15/06/2023 16:57

Toddlerteaplease · 15/06/2023 16:43

It's not ideal. But I don't really see the problem. Meet her for a drink then go and do your own thing. As a PP said. Have a booking for dinner for later on.

Exactly. I have no idea what the fuss is about. Meet for a couple them go about your plans

Aquamarine1029 · 15/06/2023 19:59

Toddlerteaplease · 15/06/2023 16:43

It's not ideal. But I don't really see the problem. Meet her for a drink then go and do your own thing. As a PP said. Have a booking for dinner for later on.

Lack of consideration for your partner is a huge problem. Your bar must be set quite low if you think what the op's partner did is acceptable.

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