Work Leaving do

[thanksroyalmaill]

I have been promoted in my company and will join my dream office which I’m relieved about. My current workplace is extremely toxic and honestly I can’t wait to see the back of the majority of people there again! Unfortunately as I’m remaining in the company in a senior leadership role, our paths could cross in the future.

I’m struggling with whether to have a leaving do or not. It’s the norm to send a whole office invite but a lot of people have said they won’t go if X or Y goes or only will go if I also invite their mates from other offices and tbh, it all feels immature. Also I don’t know where to book for the 30+ people who indicated they want to go as it’s a Friday evening.

ideally I’d do a smaller leaving do at a nice restaurant and cherry pick who’s invited - Aibu? ultimately some people who assume they’re getting an invite won’t, cause I just want a relaxing night without any drama. But I’m conscious of leaving people out.

I don’t understand why you need to have a leaving do? Just go to the pub and say everyone is welcome?!

It’s quite funny how you’re complaining about the toxic culture within your current workplace yet you're totally feeding into it with all this drama. Surely just be the bigger person, don’t have a leaving do and bring cake in?

it seems absolutely ridiculous to hire a venue to accommodate 100 people when you’re complaining about how toxic most of them are.

You're staying in the organisation so you either invite everyone or do nothing. There is no middle ground for you to be able to have any sort of impartiality in your future role - you'll be picking favourites and it's unprofessional & unethical

Am I the only one who thinks organising your own leaving do is weird? If you want one then organise it in a place that has worked well before, if not then take some nice cake in on your last day and say “thanks all… have some cake!” Don’t get stressed about this shit, life is far too short!

Whilst it may be the norm in your company for staff to arrange their own leavers do you're making it more awkward than it should be. You're moving offices not leaving and you don't even seem to like 75% of the people you work with can't you just say you don't want a leaving party and save yourself the hassle? Maybe just ask the ones you do like to come out for food or drinks and if those invited reply with "I'll only come XYZ is invited" then its on them if they want to be picky.

Christ this is batshit crazy. Your office is toxic yet you seem like the worst of the bunch. Its very over the top. Your not leaving your just moving departments. At my office we just bring in food and lots of it. Some also order lunch butties from a local cafe. It seems to me you hate the majority of people you work with yet want to be showered in gifts by them

Tell the office " I'm not leaving the company so not having a leaving do"

Then have a nice private dinner out with a few people you like best

Not quite the same, but for our Christmas do last year we had a whole team thing - late lunch - then said our goodbyes. I then went out with the few people I actually wanted to go out with.
And I'm the manager 😂
I figured they didn't really want me about anyway, and they got an early day.